A TOUGH CALL ~ FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness. How does a simple word such as this gets complicated so much? As a matter of fact, forgiveness is hard if you ask me.

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Life is such a beauty that every moment makes it worth the while. Friends, family and loved ones are our forever companions to live life enjoyably. As we walk down the path of life together, we give room to people in terms of trust, love, expectations, associations and commitments, among other things. As this action is an indelible necessity of life, our emotions get affected by the steps some people take.

What at all is forgiveness?
Simple put, it is a very intentional decision taking to let go of any form of resentment towards the person who may have wronged you, hurt you, victimized you or, in any other way that made you felt hurt. Mostly, letting go becomes challenging especially depending on the depth of your hurt.
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Is forgiveness important?
YES! It is important to let go of the pain. Now this is the trickiest part, some pain cut deeper than the other. Consider these two scenarios: (a)your friend unintentionally knocked off your food, food you bought with your last money.

(b)Your boyfriend /girlfriend of say 5years, whom you were planning to get married to, run off with your lifetime savings. Money you intended to invest into a business, he/she left with your money, and got married to your best friend? Now tell me, won’t these two instances hit differently?

It is going to be quite easy to forgive the friend who knocked off you bowl of sumptuous meal, after you’ve probably huffed and puffed for a while. (laughs)
How about the second scenario, that would be one of the biggest betrayals and it will hurt you to your core. Do you forgive this easily? Be the judge of that.

Forgiveness is therapeutic
In both examples above, it is very vital we let go at some time. Some may take a while, a year or a couple, or whenever you feel less pained. In spite of that, you have to help yourself first by being very intentional about forgiveness. It won’t be easy that is guaranteed, but it gets better when you make it a point. Come to think of it, the more you hold on to the pain, you rather hurt yourself more than the person who offended you.
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At the end of the day, your sanity and peace of mind matters so does your mental health. Honestly, some people may not deserve forgiveness but in the spirit of being godly, and not going off the rails, learn to forgive.