WHY ARE SOME PARENTS LIKE THIS?
I know every parent wants the best for their children. Children on the other hand are inexperienced and constantly needs their parents guidance.
BUT IF IT COMES TO CHOOSING A CAREER?
I stand corrected but some times, some parents choose careers for their children that is in their favor rather than the child's. I remember vividly how my Dad begged one of his friends to allow his son pursue a career of his choice. The son came crying to my Dad that his father wanted him to study medicine. When my Dad invited his father to our house for a chat, he gave a few reasons which suggests that Doctors are well placed, but we all could hear him asking my Dad rhetorically "can you imagine my joy when I will be called Papa Doctor?".
His son never liked being a Doctor and strongly kicked against his Dad's choice. Today I don't think that there is anything a Doctor that graduated same year with him and working in Nigeria has achieved that he hasn't got two times over. He studied soil science but ended up becoming a real estate manager and he is happy with what he is doing.
SOME STUDENTS ARE STRUGGLING TO STUDY THOSE COURSES!
I am making this post out of the experience I had recently. A girl in my School that is not doing well in her Science subjects was asked by the school counselor to invite her parents. The girl was asked in the presence of her parents if she would consider Arts subjects. What she said surprised her parents. They would have been unhappy for life if the girl didn't make it in life with Sciences. Looking at the Mother, the student said to her parents:
"I have always loved Art Courses. But in your conversations, you and Daddy always say Science is better than Arts, that there are lots of professional courses in Science but those who studied Arts will have no serious job".
That was heart breaking. The girl has been struggling in Science subjects because of the parents. The parents apologized and asked her to go and pursue her dreams. She was very glad to move back to Arts class.
Three days ago, I saw that girl and wanted to find out more from her. I asked : How are you coping now?
She joyfully told me she is coping well and she that she thank God her parents finally gave her the opportunity to follow her dream. She also told me that many students are in her shoes but their parents are very unyielding. Can you imagine?.
She gave me two instances. She said a girl met her in Arts class, hugged her and started shedding tears. She told her that this opportunity to follow her dreams is what she has been begging her parents for. She confessed she liked Arts subjects but her parents forced her to be in Science. Although she is doing well in the Sciences, her heart desire is to be a Lawyer.
Another instance she gave which really pissed me off is about another girl who came to her and said "You are fortunate with your parents, who allowed you do what you want". That girl said that in her house, her father insisted that they will all be science students and because of that, her elder Sister has written JAMB fives times without reaching the cut off mark for her father's choice course. Can you imagine? JAMB(Joint Admission and Matriculation Board) is an exam written to qualify admission into a university of your choice. Every course has different cut off marks which prospective students must meet, else they are denied admission that year or thrown into another department. It is written every year and expires after that year's admission is over. That means her Sister has been at home for five years, waiting to be admitted into a course she has obviously shown inadequacy for. Why are some parents like that?
I think the correct thing is to ensure that we give our children the opportunity of being educated and allow them to study courses they have shown evidence that they can handle, they have a knack for and then be the best they can be. I know Someone who studied Micro Biology but working in the bank. Someone studied History education but is a registrar in a University leading Professors of Sciences. The only course I can encourage any one to be literate about is ICT. Yet it is not by force. People can study whatever they like but also become very proficient in the use of Computers. This can be done whether they are a science or an Arts Student. After their graduation or in between, they can go for data Analytics or learn to code . With determination and focus, even after studying whatever they want, they can still become good with Computers. Yet it is a choice, not to be forced. I studied Computer Science in School and Hubby studied Micro-Biology. But if my kids want to specialize in Arts subjects, why not?
Parents need to suggest and guide but not to force a child to study a course. We all have different abilities, different endowment and potentials. I hope the time doesn't come when those parents who force their children into a course - whether they have what it takes to study it or not- would regret that they would have left their children to pursue their dreams and be the best they can be rather than living another person's life.
What is your own view? Who should decide and what yardstick should be used? Besides is there a course that is better than the other? I just decided to put this in emotions/feelings community rather than education because I just expressed my feelings on the matter. Hahaha. All images are sourced from pixabay.com
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This is so true, parents should give their kids the opportunity to chase their dream and watch them excel I it, that's a selfish attitude, to force a child study a course just to boost your ego.
That is very common in my area. Parents should be careful so they don't get blamed later, although we can not rule out their guidance completely. Thanks for stopping by
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This was a nice read. This is a complicated issue, and I think the "right answer" changes on a case-by-case basis, because a lot of time parents really want the best for their children, and can't understand why the career the children chose is better than what the parent thinks.
Sometimes you need other people intervention to convince them, and sometimes they can't be convinced. I'm lucky, no one in my family was forced to choose a path they didn't want. What I was forced to do, is to study at all. (I ultimately agree my parents were right in forcing me to study.) I never had a dream job. I had hobbies but I didn't want to turn them into actual careers.
Another example I can mention is: My mother was told she can't choose the field she wanted, (it wasn't the best for women at the time,) and she's completely happy with the field she ended up with. So, you can never know.
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Thanks for your input. Thank God your Mum finally loved she she was made to do. You made me laugh when you said you were only forced to read. In my house, nobody forces you to read. They only threaten you of what you will see if you don't get good grades. Hahaha. Thanks for the visit and thanks for the ecency points.
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Your frustrations are felt Adoore. I could feel it coming in waves and I can't imagine how bad it must be for you who is a teacher to witness students experiencing things like this. Some parents seem to forget that they have lived their lives and now want to live their children's.
Exactly, some don't allow their children take any decision at all. They do everything for them. Even after choosing the course, some still follow the children to register and get matriculation number. Hahahaha.
Parents should really allow students to follow there dreams in which they might be best in not the ones that they might desire for them they don't see the reason studying.
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This was quite heartfelt to read especially since this is something we witness a lot in this part of the world. Parents should understand that each child has his or her own capability and as such shouldn't be made to do what can't be coped with in the end.
I agree with you perfect.I hope parents will hear. 😅
They must hear o. Lol
I love your view on this subject. I am a parent. I have had similar experiences while I was growing up and the parents who forces their children to study a particular course will always end up regretting
I have started my journey as a parent and I won't force my child to study a course..I can only guide and support him
This was so thoughtful of you
Glad you expressed Ur feeling
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There's really no argument about this... It's going above your duties when you as a parent even tilt your advice to your child to favouring a course.
It should be an open ended advice that will allow the child to make the best decision and go for the course he or she prefers... Most times in school that we get tired of the course we are studying, it is the passion that keeps us going, now where will that passion come in of you were the one that made the decision for your child. .... That's sad
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Exactly.
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I've been in a similar situation back in high school, my dad influence me to choose Science because it was what he thinks will be good for me. I didn't like Science but I ended up coping well till the end of the course. Parents school know that they are different from their kids, what the child is interested in should be given consideration and welcomed.
I agree. We need to allow them harness their potentials and not streamline them to one course that they don't want. Thanks
I'm a firm believer in following your heart when you pursue tertiary education. If you can find a way to work in a profession that supports your passions, then you are a very fortunate person indeed. I understand the fear that parents may have that their children choose wisely and have opportunities after graduation, but I think if parents have held open discussions with their children and truly listened to their heart's desires and their children's plans for their own future, then their job is done... They should encourage and support their children to follow their own dreams.
A very worthy post, Adore, and something that needs to be said... and then heard by parents.
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It is really annoying see parent prevent their kids from choosing the field they want to venture into. A lot of kids are struggling where they are just because they don't want to disobey their parents.
Imagine the girl who have written jamb five times, isn't that wasting of the girl's time. I hope this post reach more audience, thanks for sharing.
Serious waste of time for the girl. Her immediate younger one who told about it is already in senior class too. Apparently it began even before she entered secondary school. I hope she doesn't graduate and meet that lady at home, still writing jamb.
Parents should only advice their children but shouldn't force them into chosing a career or course. It's up to their children to chose.
Meanwhile, there is no course better than the other. All we're pursuing is money ASAP
Oh my gawd don't even get me started on this... Aswear I went through the exact same thing with my dad. My mom on the other hand is cool. She didn't bother me with that and supported whatever I wanted to do. But you see my papa. Damn! I think there's something that happens to people after they study courses like LAW... It's so annoying... My dad is literally pushing everyone to study LAW!. I was a science student so, he couldn't do that with me, but he wanted me to go for medicine. I had to stand up to him and counter that subject. I told him I've always been good at drawing and if I wanna study anything, it would be Architecture. In the end, I changed my mind and studied Computer Science. The important thing is that I got study what I wanted. Now, I'm happy with my choice, but my elder brother whom he forced into law completely hates the experience and now holds a grudge against our dad.