When It is Destined to Happen....

A few days ago I came across a post titled Sometimes I regret by @intishar in which he told about his regrets of not opting to be a doctor. The incidences he faced regarding the pain of his sister and death of his mother made him regret his decision.

The post reminded me of the incidences my family once faced. We had regrets, especially my brother displayed the regret often. It so happened that my father got high fever suddenly. We consulted the doctors in the nearby clinics, yet my father didn’t do well. We took him to a hospital recommended by a cousin (He used to work in the pharmacy of the hospital). It was not a very well known hospital of the city, just a smaller one with a few beds. My father was admitted to ICU. He was losing his senses gradually. By the late night, he was transferred to ventilator.

My brother was like we should take him to a well known hospital (named as “Agha Khan"). He said that he was not satisfied with the hospital and the doctors there. My cousin told my brother that the doctors were paying attention but my brother insisted that we would move. They visited the well known hospitals of the city and consulted the specialist doctors. These were really expensive hospitals, the fee of which was beyond our capacities but who thinks of the fees when you are seeing your loved ones in pain. We were still ready to shift him to the bigger hospital but the doctors told that my father’s condition was not allowing him to remove him from ventilator and travel the long way. Whatsoever happened we couldn’t shift him to another hospital. Two days later, my father was no more with us.

My brother regretted a lot. He said if we had taken him to a better hospital we might have saved our father.

Four months later, the same cousin (Sarim), who had taken my father to the hospital, had a complain of headache one day and suddenly he went unconscious and fell on the ground. His brother took him immediately to the same hospital, but Sarim had got a job in Agha Khan pharmacy by then. He was on probation period at that time. When his colleagues found out about his condition, they told his brother to immediately shift him to Agha Khan. Brother was reluctant a bit because he knew that the expenses of the hospital would be beyond their reach. However, when he saw Sarim’s condition turning worse and shifted him immediately. Because of being the employ of the hospital he didn’t face any problem in admission.

In a few hours the doctors declared that he Sarim had brain haemorrhage. They would need to operate him after some time. I don’t know about the reasons but the doctors told to operate him after two days. However, because of his worsening condition, he was operated the next day.....

He was treated and operated in one of the most well-known hospitals of the country, yet he died. He remained on ventilator for two days just like my father. Once closed, he didn’t open his eyes again in three days. Just. Like. My. Father.

There is no sanctuary from death in this world. When it is destined to happen it happens any way. Nothing can stop it from happening when it is decided divinely. There is no use of regretting about something beyond our control. In fact, there is no use of regretting about something about past because we cannot change it. Instead, we should make the most of what we have acquired as of today.

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Sorry for your loss, no human can tell how long we are going to stay in the world and truly there is something we don't have power over which is death.

There is no point worrying too much about it , we should focus more living life the best way we can. We will be forgotten soon but the impact on the people will learn behind will always be remembered.

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You have said it all. Life is about living. The loved ones who leave us surely leave a space in our lives but we cannot do anything about that. However, there are many living loved ones for whom we can do a lot

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That's right, there are a lot of things we can do for a lot of people to give them a happy life.

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You are absolutely right, no matter how we feel we can fight death, we still can't. Your brother might think it was because your father was taken to a cheap hospital that was why you guys lost him but like you gave the other example of your cousin, it doesn't matter which hospital, what is bound to happen will happen.

So sorry for your loss Amber ❤️.

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Certainly, hope. There is no door that can help you escape death. When it is destined to come it will.

Thanks for the tip, dear

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Yes dear, that's right.

You are welcome 😊💙.

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No matter how much facilities or effort we deliver no one can fight with death. Well said there is no safe house to remain away from death. Sorry to know about the two losses you had within the short period. But your brother at least presented all his efforts to secure the life of Sarim. May Almighty, give them higher grades in heaven.

Regrets are the pain which keeps running in our veins and we can't overlook them. This write-up made me emotional to think about the validity of life.

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I am so sorry to hear about the loss of two people in your family and I pray that their souls continue to rest in peace.

Your brother fought but then death came knocking. Indeed, When it is destined to happen, we can't stop it

!LADY

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Death is inevitable. When it has to come, nothing can protect.

First death was of my father, the other was my cousin. That was a tragic period our family went through. We had five deaths in an year. One was my mother's uncle, the next was my mom's brother, then my father,then my mom's brother’s son aged 5 years, then my father's brother’s son aged 27 years.

Death may come without any prior warning.

Thanks for coming around, Nkem

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He said if we had taken him to a better hospital we might have saved our father.

Whenever we have to face such a situation when we have a better option it always gives a feeling of regret.

But it the fate and nobody can change it.

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That's true, Intishar. Fate can't be changed. Especially death is inevitable

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It's so sad to have loss two dear ones within a short period of time. But you've rightly said, what is destined to happen will surely happen even though we all wish we could live with our loved ones forever

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When it is the time for death, it takes our loved ones from us.

Thanks for stopping by

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That's true and we have little or nothing that we can do?

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I have always believed in living life to the fullest, life is short and can be very short as we don't know what will happen.

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Gosh, this was different, Amber. There really isn't sanctuary when death calls. And those who are alive should not live in regrets because no one can stop death when it comes knocking.

I am sorry about the loss of your loved one. Accept my condolences.

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I missed this comment 😬

Regret bring us nothing but sadness. We need to live for the living

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Those are hard lessons, I'm so sorry for your loss 😢 It's true that doctors can't always save a life, but it's still important to try. We are expected to take care of ourselves and our loved ones, even while praying.

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How I missed this comment....!

You are right, trying is important but regrets are of no help, are they?

Thanks for the curation 🙏

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Your family went through a lot, my Sis... I am so sorry. This must have been a heartbreaking time in your life. We may not be able to find a sanctuary from death in terms of an escape, but we have faith that we will find sanctuary in an eternal life thereafter. !LUV !ALIVE

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You are right, Sam. There is no sanctuary from the death but death is itself a sanctuary from the miseries of this world

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