DON'T GET MARRIED...

Achraf Hakimi was recently celebrated all over the world especially by men for leaving his wealth in the control of his mother. This is a man that is worth about $24 million dollars and according to reporters about 80% of his wealth is under his mother.

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Then one will ask this question...

Why do people marry?

The original intent of marriage by the creator is that two will become one but in today's marriages the reverse is the case. It is so sad that some people still take their spouse as a stranger. In marriage there is supposed to be trust, fidelity,transparency,love, commitment and forbearance. The reality today is that not everyone is committed and transparent in their marriages as infidelity and deceit has become the order of the day. These explained the rise in number of divorce cases among married people. I thought that there was something the westerners are not doing right in marriage that made them to keep divorcing and remarrying till i found out that really the problem was with African marriages where divorce is being seen as a taboo and spouses are made to stay in marriages that has long sour.

This explains why our people divorce their spouses when they travel to the western world. They see no reason to further remain in the bondage all in the name of marriage so they rather call it quit and be free afterall life is too long to live miserably.

So i will say don't get married to anyone except yourself. The only one you should be committed to is yourself. You owe yourself growth, happiness and advancement. A lot of women lost themselves after marriage while some that are lucky to marry a good men are being supported to become the best of themselves. So if you must marry then it is pertinent that you do a mental evaluation for the spouse you -want to say i do to. There are some questions and discussions you should never shy away from before saying i do like topic about finances, career, number of kids, fidelity, likes and dislikes. All these will give you headups on time whether it's worth it or not.

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A woman lost her life through an accident as she was on a high speed to catch up with her husband who was with his mistress. The man on the other hand was also speeding determined not to be caught. The woman's car ran into a ditch and she died instantly.

We have men that are suffering from emotional damage in their marriages but are afraid to speak up for fear of being called a weak man. Some women are married to their enemies as husbands that will go any length to cripple them financially. It's a whole lot out there yet there is a social facade by some women on how they are having the best marriage yet under their expensive foundation is a bad bruise sustained through domestic violence.

Why you should get married to yourself.

It's just a figurative expression that encourages us to never forget who we are. There is life outside marriage and in as much that marriage is a wonderful thing we should get prepared financially, emotionally and psychologically. Having your own money will enable you to make clear decisions about yourself and not on the basis of where your next meal will come from. You cannot actually love your spouse if you don't love yourself and besides by loving yourself first you are teaching other people how to love you.

Ask the many people that put their life on hold because of other people especially their spouse, they end up being unappreciated, downgraded and most times abandoned. I have seen cases where wowen abandoned their illitrate husbands after being sent to school for an educated man and also a man that left his stay at home wife for a working class slaying queen.

So chose yourself first, even after marriage keep choosing yourself. There is nothing like compromise instead pull heads together and find a way to make it work.

Afterall two heads are better than one.