Her attitude surprised me.

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I recall how some years back, a friend of mine had a problem with housing, her aunt threw her out of the house, for no tangible reason, well that was what I was told, being a good friend, she pleaded I accommodate her until she could find her balance once again.

At first, I was quite skeptical about accommodating her because of this popular adage that says "too much familiarity brings about contempt", but then I am a very accommodating and soft-hearted person, I had to persuade my mom she agrees to my friend to stay with us, well I thought I knew her so well, so I thought that it wasn't going to be a problem.

Mom accepted she came over, so I called her and told her to come over, Grace was excited and so that evening, she showed up with her luggage, I had already prepared her favorite meal for her, I just wanted her to feel at home.

She ate to her fill, so we talked about so many things that night, and then I showered her with words of encouragement and hoped our friendship would be close now we lived together.

Days passed, and I started noticing some ugly traits about my friend, Grace was a lazy person, I do most of the chores, and I expected her to help out with some minor chores like laying the bed and sweeping the room, but no she wouldn't. She lay in bed almost all thru the day, when she manages to get up, she expected her food to be ready, well I just ignored her and kept doing the needful.

I shared almost everything with her, whenever I buy anything, I bought for her including lingeries, and even edible, because I felt she was not just a friend anymore but now a sister.

She would beg me to lend her money so that when she gets a job she would refund me all she owed, so I kept lending her.

After a few weeks, she got a job, I must confess I was surprised at her attitude, the friend I thought I knew wasn't who she was, now I can admit I only knew her from a distance all along because she became so selfish, she started to be selective in the food she ate at home because she knew she could always go out to eat without me knowing, whenever she buys edibles, she will start ranting how she wants to manage her stuff, she started living a lavish lifestyle and became so rude as well if my mom scolds her, she talks back and even refused to give me all the money she owed me.

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At that moment, I started to realize why her aunt must have thrown her out of the house, as God may have it, she decided to go stay at her boyfriend's house, because it was hard for me to ask her to leave. One evening, I got back from work she had already arranged her luggage that she was leaving.

She told me she still had it in mind to pay me, but she was only trying to sort herself out, I just wanted the whole thing to end peacefully so I never argued with her or made a fight with her.

I only told her how disappointed I was in her and we parted, this made my mom quite annoyed and this made it a huge barrier for my mom to accept outsiders staying with us no matter how hard it may be for them.

A few years later, we met in a market, Grace was too ashamed to approach me because of her past attitude, however, I approached her and we exchanged pleasantries and then she apologized for her past attitude that she regretted the way she acted, she promised to come to visit us and also ask for my mom's forgiveness, which she did, today we still communicate, but I do not hold her in so much high regard as I used to and I honestly find it hard to believe anything she says, because up till this moment Grace didn't pay back all the money I lent her, although I still help my friends in the best way I can, staying over in my place for accommodation is now a No! No! Once bitten twice shy" I think the person who invented this adage must have experienced similar situations hehe😄. I don't want problems, please.

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Familiarity breeds contempt indeed, most people take advantage of people when they get closer to them, reason why the innocent ones can't get help.

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It’s so heartbreaking when people we trust let us down. Your friend took unfair advantage of you and you suffered in silence until you were lucky enough to get rid of her. It’s good that you’ve taken something positive away from this experience.

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Yeah, I learned something positive from the experience. Thanks for visiting.

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When you know that humans attitude can't be predictable, you would find peace and rest! I nor fit try am at all! I would sweetly and strictly reject it! Imagine being lazy as a woman to even sweet house and lay bedspread, what would she do when she goes to her boyfriend's house?

I'm glad you forgive yourself and kept pushing on! If not ehh folks like her will make you bitter

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My dear, now I know why it is hard to do good, it's an experience that have made people hardened and wiser. Thank you for visiting

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Wow this is so relatable... many so called friends always feel they are smarter just because you decided to help them in a tight situation...instead of returning the favour, they even make you regret ever helping them but then that's life we learn everyday 🙂 thanks for this story.

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I wonder why people take advantage of our kind gestures, well I did what I should do as a good friend, but it wasn't reciprocated.

I learned and I moved on, and now I'm wiser. Thanks for visiting.

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And I always wonder whether there's a spirits that possess people in this state because almost all the stories I've read on this aspect always end with his attitude of being unfair to the person that provided shelter. So bad.

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It's really not a pleasant experience. Thanks for visiting.

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The way people tend to forget the help render to them in time of need is just so alarming and the way they ought to overlook the fact that your behavior toward me about someone might influence the way I think about a particular thing. I'm glad she realize her mistakes and apologize but it's too late already and I like you how you handle the situation and let it go peaceful... At a long run I'm sure you would give someone else a chance to stay over at your place because everyone can't be the same

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In the long run, I'm .re you would give someone else a chance to stay over at your place because everyone can't be the same.

Well, until then..

I had no choice but to let it go peacefully.

Thanks for your comment.

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I don't like to have trust issues with people who are close to me neither do I like it when my closest pals take me for a ride.
Sometimes, those experienced makes us stronger.
It's so heartbreaking.

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They do make us stronger and wiser, thanks for visiting.

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When people decide to pay goodness with evil, it never ends well. The fact is, there are still people out there who are like your friend. At their lowest, you are there for them but when they gain grounds, they become tigers and tigresses😂. I like that it all ended peacefully.

#dreemerforlife.

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That's why is always hard to help me because of the awful experience people must have encountered with the wrong set of people.

Thanks for visiting dearie.

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Quite a story. Perhaps an approach (should you ever find yourself in a similar situation for whatever reason), could be to set very clear rules upfront? I'm sorry to hear that you experienced something so stressful. Keep well.

#dreemerforlife beemed down from #dreemport - to this #dreemer curated post :)

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I think that is a great idea, a Yoruba adage says; where there is no law, there is no sin.

Thanks for the visit.

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Her heart should have still told her the difference between right and wrong.. but at the same time.. I guess you never know what another may have been through in their life as well? Keep well my friend.

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No matter how close I am with a person, the highest I can accommodate you at my place is Five days to a week. The reason is, the longer you stay together, the more you start getting uncomfortable with each and sooner or later problems will start coming up.

Some people are just too selfish and lazy, I am glad the two of you parted well. I feel sorry for her, if she doesn't change that her bad attitude, she would really suffer in this life.

#dreemerforlife #dreemport

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Hmm, so many things are best left unsaid. Thanks for your visit.

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Hehe.. That's true..

You're always welcome

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There are lots of people like Grace who pretend when they have trouble and show their true colours when the trouble is over.

You handled the ritual maturely and it's a good thing you didn't quarrel with her, keeping your distance away from her is cool.

I came through Dreemport.
#dreemerforlife

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I am glad I ended it peacefully. Thanks for the visit.

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It is always nice to be of help but it's always very dangerous to assist the wrong set of people, you might think you are helping them and at the same time, they might keep plotting one's downfall.

#Dreemerforlife

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That's the truth, and it's even hard to detect who is the wrong person. May God help us. Thanks for the visit.

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Its always bad when you feel you can trust or you know a person and that person disappoints you. It's going to be hard before you can trust someone to that extent again.
Thanks for sharing.

#dreemerforlife.

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