IMPORTANT QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER BEFORE TYING THE KNOT.

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Hello Hivers 🥰,
Today I'll be talking about dating, from the experiences I've had and the the lessons I've learned from others, I think it's necessary to put this kind of information out there especially for the young ones, they're not properly guided or prepared with the adequate information about dating so they just live life based on feelings and emotions which is extremely dangerous for the future and other generations to come.

I have been asked alot of questions, and more young folks have informed me that they have no idea what questions to ask when dating. Even though it's surprising, I'd try to break these questions down as much as possible into subjects that you can ask your spouse about. There are so many areas that questions should arise from but today I'll be talking about one of the most important areas which is the financial aspect of a relationship.
I've compiled a list of finance-related questions for dating couples.

Many marriages and relationships have financial concerns as a point of tension.
If you're dating or are thinking of dating any time soon, now is the time to start talking about it and pay attention to it. Don't overlook this crucial component of your connection. You should all sit down and talk about it. If you can't agree, find a middle ground or walk away. Find out the answers to these questions. Don't expect marriage to solve the problem, be intentional about what you want in your relationship.

So, let's get started.

• Do you and your partner or potential partner have a job or other source of income to cover your expenses? Love does not pay your rent or cover your expenses. Your duties will grow once you become married, so either of you should have a steady source of income. There should be a means of sustainance, as much as I hate to say this but money is one of the most important factor when it comes to expressing love, you or your partner may not need to have alot of it but the right amount is very necessary to keeping the flame of love ablaze.

• Who will manage your family's finances? Everything you'll need money for is included in your family budget. So you'll need to figure out what purchases will be made and how much each item will cost. Also, how much of your household's income should be set aside for savings. Couples managing their finances together increases the bond, I don't know if this has been scientifically proven yet but I'm sure of it, but if you don't think so, I would be wise to discuss this with your partner, that way you both at always on the same page in the relationship.

• Are you going to run a shared financial system together or separately? Like I mentioned previously, this will save us alot of quarrels and nagging in the nearest future. I've seen situations when the man demands that the lady close her account and only do joint business. Some people have their own accounts and also undertake cooperative work. Some people avoid joints entirely. Decide what works best for both of you. Some ladies believe that my money is mine and your money is ours. Are you in agreement with this? The early stage of a relationship is the best time for this discussion.

• Is he/she making more money than you? Are you okay with your wife earning more than you as a man or vise versa? For fear of being the breadwinner at home or in order to be submissive, some women refuse to accept high-paying offers. Check to see whether she's into it. I personally believe that both partners should contribute based on their income to the growth of the family, again this is just my opinion both partners should discuss and agree on what works for them.

• Who will be the housewife or the househusband? Who will be the sole source of income? Is it okay with him that you work as a woman? Or he wants to open a store/business for you, and you're not sure how comfortable you are with that. Talk about this in the earliest stage of the relationship to avoid serious heart break in the future.

• Will we split the bills? Is your husband going to be fully responsible for paying all bills while you do nothing? Alternatively, what bills would you be splitting with him? Inquire and discuss.

• Is my intended forthcoming about his earnings? My partner and I both know how much money we make. Determine whether he is the sort to keep this information to himself. I'm aware that some men refuse to share this information with their wives, or that they lie about their take-home pay out of fear of his wife squandering his earnings on frivolities.

• What other areas of making money are you both guilty of? Some people believe that gambling or betting is a sin, while others do not. Are you sure you both hold the same opinion? Are your definitions of luxury the same or similar? Find out and discuss to be on the same page.

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• Did your partner grow up with a certain financial system? Our family traditions have a way of negatively or positively impacting our perspectives, especially on money management. Determine whether your partner was raised in a patriarchal household or not, and which system would function best in your home or relationship.

• Can he put forth more effort to gain more money? If you're a go-getter, a complacent man would ruin your life. Can he (legally) hustle and work extremely hard to make extra money? Is he complacent and content with the current quo? A woman informed me that her husband doesn't mind if she makes more money, but he'd never look for better ways to supplement his $70,000 monthly salary. Find out from your partner or intended partner so you can make decisions based on their response.

• Is your partner a spendthrift or a cautious individual? Some people have no idea how to say no and will give money to anyone who asks. Are you at ease with this? Or do you live strictly on a budget?

• Does your partner repay money borrowed from you? If not, are you willing to let this go? My partner always returns money that he had borrowed from me but sometimes I insist that he keeps it. I always want to forget when he borrows money from me, but he taught me how to maintain financial discipline even between ourselves.

• How do you feel about investments? Is he the type who refuses to invest because he believes God will provide for our future needs? Or do you believe that investing is a sign of a lack of faith in God? You'll be surprised to learn that some people feel investing is a sin.

• Do you believe in tithing, sowing seeds, or planting the first seeds? You should inquire and be specific. Also, see if he sows at random to church and how comfortable you are with it. Someone I know went to church with her car and her wedding gift (N5 million from her parents) and didn't go back home with it. You must determine whether your companion is a gullible or rational sower. Another went to church to sow his January income as first fruit, despite the fact that his children had not paid their school fees.

• What kind of irrational financial obligations are you expected to fulfill? Some men insist on receiving their spouses' monthly earnings or profits. Make it obvious whether he'd do the same for you or you're fine with it.

• Do you have concerns about your partner earning more than you? Does having a woman earn more than you harm your ego or self-esteem as a man? I would never encourage a lady whose intended is harmed by her greater wage to pursue such a man.

• Who will be your No. 1 pick? Who is going to be your intended's (Next Of Kin)? Some guys consider their siblings to be their NOK. This means that if your partner dies intestate, the property or money will be distributed to relatives. Are you in agreement with this?

• Are you supposed to be financially responsible for members of your intended's family who are not related to you? Make sure you understand what other financial obligations you or your partner has? Paying for her siblings' education? Considering purchasing a home for your in-laws? Or perhaps providing a monthly allowance to family members?

• How does your partner feel about taking out loans? Some people believe in taking out loans for large projects, while others feel saving towards any large project is ideal. Make sure you know or ask, as this can cause conflict.

• Will you buy property in your husband's name, your own name, or both? Is he a believer in joint or single asset ownership?

And please pay attention to details, keep an eye out for body language, and listen carefully while you debate these important concerns.
These questions are designed to disclose as many gray areas as possible so you can talk about it, understand what you're getting into, reach an agreement, or walk away.

Thanks for reading my post☺.