Is cheating a choice?

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"You cheated" this term hits our auditory canal multiple times but behind the scene what's transpiring is unknown to us. In this post you will find out the roots, incentives of this cheating. Let's get started;

Preliminary stages of cheating ;

  • In childhood what we know about cheating is only restricted to games or exams. Where we have to verify ourselves during a competition with others. Now what we believe is only for success. According to me cheating is done to gain success by hook or crook. Do we learn cheating in our premature stages of life I suppose yes. When we snatch something from other and hide or consume it I guess it's the same cheating and thus happens among kids. Now here another action is involved which is falsehood , dishonesty. Thereby a single act of cheating accompanies other bad evils.

Progression with growth;

  • After fulfilling the earlier stages we merit the secret keeper stage. We are told the secrets but we keep on cheating and disclose them to others may be for benefit or for ascertaining our loyalty. It's the school or college going phase. Until then we are not aware of the true meanings of ethics. Things are insignificant in front of us as our maturity level is in its initial stages. Little fights can come to pass in order to cease us from this deed of depravity but only few learn lessons from this.

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The relationship stage ;

  • Emotions are fully involved in this state of cheating. Love, emotions and attachments are hurt, it not only destroys your physical status you have to suffer from trauma after getting ditched in a relationship.

Genealogy of cheating ;

  • This act doesn't emanate instantly there are multiple causes which can ignite a person to select the way of cheating. What are these incentives let's have a look;

-Money
-Revenge
-Psychological disorder
-Greed
-Ego
-Proving loyalty to other
-Past history of getting ditched

Worldly things matter when you are having fun with someone's feelings. Few pennies greed can make you feel so foolish that you forget the value of a person and cheat him or her without contemplating the emotional deterioration that will transpire after your wickedness.

  • Sometimes you are hurt in a relationship but you are unaware of the path you are deciding on while retrieving your pain. Hurting others can't be assuaging and for once you will admit this but things would be so messed up that you would be incapable of seeing the apparent view. Who was loyal to you either your past or the present person whom you are cheating just for sake of vengeance.

Revenge ;

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Psychological disorder ;

  • Few peeps cheat someone just to diminish the psychological pressure. Either they are born with these inadequate ethics or they earn these from their environment. They can't value the emotions of people.

Greed;

  • As I have pointed out, money in the first case now arrives to the fact of sexual covetousness. Just for the sake of self satisfaction one can go for cheating. Moral values are broken so severely that suicidal cases do transpire. Survival becomes problematic for both.

Ego;

  • Rich societies often use this way of cheating to demonstrate their inferiority. They are egoistic to smash the sentiments of other no matter if they ditch others on the name of love or success.

Proving loyalty to others;

  • Some individual are being asked to sell their ethics through performing cheating and they do so just to showcase their own loyalty. But in deep they are not royal to themselves. They don't have worth and affection no matter to which extension they go.

My experience ;

I was being cheated and I confess in both cases it was my innocence who made me quarry. Once my contact number was leaked and it was the time when I didn't have a personal phone. Someone grabbed my sleep away by calling at dinner time. I trembled all the time as I kept myself away from guys stuff. My brother addressed the issue and took legal action after doing mine analysis. As I was studious, a girl from my class used this trick to give me stress during exam days. Now who cheated on me, hehe my best friend whom I trusted a lot no matter how many times I was being appealed to remain away from her. I gained the nasty effects of this cheating as I quit being sure of people. From that day I took an aim that I will never ever will share the contact or information of someone else without permission.

The recent experience I brought in happened, unfortunately, I haven't told the tangible person that I was being cheated by that person. I was honest in that relationship. I pushed to the limit and am still on the way to conserve the respect element .As I value the enemies in a sense they deliver me lessons. I don't want to disclose the insights but yes I heard the sound of broken heart. I felt the pain of this cheating and I lost trust in everything related to love.

  • Does cheating benefit you I suppose not all, the individual who follows the devil nerves quickly falls deep into the crater of difficulties. They acquire nothing except attaining popularity as "cheater". I consider this as slang.

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Conclusive thoughts ;

  • People lose confidence in you. They would never ever believe in the existence of sincerity in humanity. You will not be in their good books. Either you duped them in the name of any relationship they will doubt the each worldly relationship.
  • That person can't remain away from cheating for once in life. Deceiver can't protect himself or herself from the fate where the victim's prayers would chase him or her. All the worldly superfluity looks worthless when it's time to acquire the reward of your cheating.
  • Your spirit criticizes you all the time. Cheaters can make everyone fool but their own soul will keep haunting them. They will be having hysteria in all the situation "what they have sow have to reap for sure"
  • I consider all immoral actions as cheating either if someone is doing bribery, cheating in exams, deceiving in a relationship, attaining success by hook or crook these are all branches of the identical cheating. So in my words cheating is unfaithfulness. And to all extent it's immoral and inappropriate, it can neither be justified as being called satisfaction or competition.

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Cheaters have a conscience but they just choose to bury it even when it is haunting them. The two experiences you have shared must have gotten to you badly, I don't know what people gain from cheating but it's not a behaviour that should be encouraged or allowed to grow.

In as much as it leaves a mark on the hearts of the victims, it also leaves a stain on the culprit.

I respect your feelings and thoughts about love but it does exist ... Sending hugs all the way from Nigeria.

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Cheating isn't allowed by any culture but people perform it so commonly I consider it moral corruption and the root of all evil. Being broken in relationships or getting despondent as others have snatched your opportunity by cheating these all are the same to bury someone alive. I appreciate your feedback, George, 🪄✨

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So many of them just have the mind to chest people or else cheating is not the best. So many people chest just to gain revenge or to have interest which would be the worst part of life.

It's not good to chest your fellow because when someone do same to you will will not feel happy

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I suppose they are not healing if they are cheating on others as it's an inappropriate way to take revenge for your misconduct on others.

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Just like you said cheating is a choice if don't choose to cheat you will never do this greedy and jealousy is the fundamental key to cheat

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Here comes another theory about jealousy apart from greed and revenge. People ditch others as they want to make others envious....another way of making fun of other's emotions.

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For me cheaters have no real life with anyone. The nature of cheating is an addiction for them. When they find a chance they cheat. In my childhood, I never played a single game with cheats. Although, I have been defeated by many people in gambling. Your best friend leaked your number, it is the worst. Personal things should be shared with only trustable persons. People greed and thirst for money never ever will be fulfilled, we should take essential measures to keep ourselves away from cheaters. In a relationship, I have buried the person who cheated me in my heart. Now I 'm happy like you 😂😂.

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Gambling is the game of cheaters just like ludo and childhood stuff arghh always being ground by smart elders who tricked me all the time...a lagging turtle back then. Hehe, I have buried that person furthermore I keep on giving water to the flowers on that person's grave lol. To all kings and all queens 🎶

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Thank you, If it is need water then many gallons I can drink 😂😂. Mate, you have a nice heart.
Allah AP ka Dil ki her achi Murad pori kerain. Ameen

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It was a well described article about cheating. You pointed almost every possible reasons behind cheating. It seems you have a lot of experience of cheating 😅.
In my opinion Best friend used to do such kind of things which you faced in your case. I don't considerate has a cheat😅.

In case of your second example it's very bad happened with you. I never had such kind of experience. Maybe it's because my personality keeping me safe from that kind of cheating.
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!PIZZA

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Well it's the only reason I don't trust people easily now as they have hidden daggers hehe. You are impressive (evil eyes off ) my experiences hmm the second one is underrated story which was capability to snatch happiness from your face ( le me inner wizard speaking now !LOL) love your feedback Intishar❤️

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