The positive influence which saved the life

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Life is so insensitive if you are going to affix all your motives with it more precisely when you love a human being. In considerable aspects of life, I have impacted people and thankfully my undertakings succeeded 70%. So here is the question proposed by @galenkp

Describe a situation in which you positively influenced someone - Who was it and in what way did you influence them, how did that accept it and what was the outcome.

Motivation is a secondary necessity and we all need it in the integral period. The tale I am going to describe is based on the most unfortunate period in the life of an individual. What happens with you is for a reason but to confide this fact to someone when he/she is having a tremendous casualty is not easy.

  • Situation;

This year friend of mine got a breakup. But it was so severe and heartbreaking that he was going to commit suicide. Both were having a schedule of marriage. But accidentally the girl dismissed him and said we can't be together. The guy was stunned and requested that everything be favorable for us but the girl still denied it. Blocked from each platform and no communication haunted him. When I came to know about all this I was in discomfort as both were good friends of mine. I had two ways;

  • Curse the faults of the girl, and show her as a villain so that the guy can easily forget her in hate.

  • Defend the position of the girl and positively influence the person.

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  • Positive influence;

I adopted the second option as it looked more comfortable to me. The scenario was clear yet my negative and bad words can be inaccurate as the girl was also a friend of mine so can't say terrible words about her. No, when I started my work that crying lover proclaimed that she refused to marry me when she persuaded me to do this. I answered back softly Aresh she knew that her parents wouldn't support her t, that's why she moved back. But my mom agreed and soon we were heading to the official proposal he screamed. I responded "it's bold for you as you are not a girl. She has to look for a decent future, a better place where her parents would be more comfortable for her.
But why not me?? I have done all the struggle for her and now when the time arrived she departed me alone.

As she had a better option so she sacrificed her choice. She is restricted and if she can't stand against society there is nothing wrong with this.

The argument continued and I kept positively defending her till he knew that true love is acknowledging the miseries and shortcomings of others.

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I requested him to pardon her for everything and pray for her better future. And thankfully he did that as he truly loved her. This positive influence changed his life and he promised to start the new life by exonerating everyone with whom he had an attachment. I invested a lot of effort in making him comprehend that he is a good person (in reality he wasn't and the girl left him as he knew that he was a scoundrel and somehow, for someday else he is going to replace her too. That's why she chose the better option hehe)

  • Outcome;

Imagine if I was going to tell the whole negativity and he who was on the verge of death would be going to curse me in later life that Ayesha is responsible for this. Maybe I would be untrue who keep him perplexed by not indicating the truth but yes I have finished up my job by securing his life. At the end of the story, the girl is happily married and the guy is busy in his own life with a new motivation that this time he wouldn't indulge himself in love affairs.I have taken consent from both the individuals and Used fictional names to protect their reputations. This incident happened for a reason and for the first time I realized that words do magic but only when they are indicial and appropriate.

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I'm not sure it can ever be over-stated just how very much we influence each other and the people in our family, our circle, our orbit. Well done for helpign your friend to resolve a painful issue.

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Thanks for the acknowledgment. I believe we need this help too that's why accomplish your job dutifully and sincerely.

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Well, what really mattered was that you were able to heal the wounds inside of him because he was able to let you have a say in his matter and you did it tremendously well for not disappointing him.
Many are cut short in life mostly by heart break, because there is nothing too deadly than messing with one's emotion.

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For me, it was a tough job to remain restricted yet to have the helping hands for rehabilitating him but yes somehow I fulfilled my responsibility as a friend.

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Helping a tormented and broken soul without judgement is indeed an honourable thing to do. I think @ayesha-malik that inevitably if he is committed to a new path in life that he will one day look back and in self-reflection realise and appreciate what you have done for him. !PIZZA !ALIVE

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Still, I inhale the fresh air for what I have accomplished, the year went but whenever we converse both indicate their gratitude. I wasn't going to share it but he influenced me as he considers this as his success story.
Thanks ❤❤❤❤

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Sorry found this @dreemport,

I came also in almost same situation,

my parents dislike my current wife as she is really young and so am I.

Truth be told we wouldn't have a good chance surviving by ourselves but, we both chose each other... I got kick out of my family, she got disowned for marrying an outsider.

Life was really hard, times I felt really pathetic... not enough food, medicines, and there is no support coming but we never regretted our choice. I work so hard I forgot I am working already 🤣 but eventually we built our own house, had two kids giving them things we are ourselves never had.

we eventually had names for ourselves and became a respected part of a community... the only thing bad about this story is it took me more than a decade to forgive my family (like I am now the one disowning them).

sorry for making it long, your story just touch a part of my life.



Quoting from memory:
"Sorry for writing you a long letter, I didn't have time to write a short one" Mark Twain
Source @newbies-guide ( somewhere there )...

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Sorry to hear about the trauma you tolerated,
Sometimes it's good to go opposite the waves 😁 and you proved it very well.
It's hard to forgive such people for whom you have sacrificed everything but they want more sacrifices 😂
Good to see you here.

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It's okay as long as you were able to help him heal and move on towards a new motivation. I hope that the guy and the lady in question both find a fulfilling life no matter the decision they take. Well done @ayesha-malik

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They took the right decision at the right time and they are fully satisfied now
Thanks for reading 😁

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You are a better person because I would have chosen the first option and cursed her out 😆

Lovely post, @dreemport brought me here.

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Hahaha I was about to say the same thing. I doubt I wouldn't have done the same😂😂

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Lol, I was afraid that when they will be united they were going to hurt me lol.

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😂😂😹 so fear was the actual push for that option?

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Hahahahahahahaha I can't do this Nah I ma having good nature😉🤣
Thanks for the feedback.

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Choosing between the options must have been hard and it’s honorable you choose the second option that was a lot more challenging to undertake
It’s great you were able to talk him through this heartbreak

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It was tiring as each time he compared me with the same girl and said would you do the same 🤐😂
For a time I had to think twice I shouldn't become his next option lol😉😂

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Ohh yeah that must have been tricky to deal with

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How thoughtful of you not to lash out at your friend but rather choose to influence the situation positively.
Your kind is rare and you are certainly blessed with a good heart. I am glad to hear that you stepped in and help your friends settle their difference and look, they got married after all and lived happily ever after😁

Its my first time on #dreemport. I just got registered today and I found your post there.
It was worth the read.

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Awww glad to have such appreciation,
It's true that in friendship you have to think about the emotions and multiple times we have to motivate each other
Good to see you on dreemport🥳 you have landed on the right and perfect place.

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Lol. I hope I have. Will see you around then

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I like how you structure you articles.
I need to learn even though a friend already give me the link I haven’t just read.

Keep writing great article

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Thanks for making me aware through your feedback.

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You have made a wise choice. Soft words bring peace and healing.

I got here via @dreemport.

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Words when used rightly on time do wonder for sure.

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Relationship matters are sensitive, you had handled the situation nicely. Sometimes all we need are positive words that could break the ice. I have never tried consoling anyone on relationship matters, I can end up spoiling everything. Hahaha.

@dreemport directed me here

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If you can ignite the others through your words surely you can break the ice too. But sometimes the person doing this gets the trouble too because not everyone wants and acknowledges the good advice hehe.
Good to see you.

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True, individuals differs

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