Should couples hide their devices from each other ?
In this present age our mobile phones have become a very big part of our lives. We tend to have a lot of important information about our finances, work related things , and even large aspects of our social life on our mobile phone. For a lot of people if you have complete access to their devices you can impact their lives either positively or negatively depending on your motives. For this reason a lot of people see their phones as a no go area.
Now a responsible relationship is a different case, in a responsible relationship it is believed that both parties trust each other and won't do anything to hurt each other. So is it okay to go through each others devices?
Going through each others phone and having access to each others phone are two different things.
I believe that in a responsible relationship both partners can have access to each others devices. They plan to be together forever, they love each other, so why can't they access each others devices? But it is a thing of choice. Some people love their devices to be completely theirs and its fine.
Privacy in relationships is not something I'm a fan of. I'm that type of person who wants to know everthing about you, even the little insignificant bits. But that being said i have my limits and will not forcefully snoop into your private business. Because whether I like it or not its impossible to know everything about someone. They'll always be things that'll be known only by that person.
For this reason i believe going through your partners phone (even with their permission) is a huge no-no. I believe going through your partners phone is a sign of lack of trust. When you feel there's a need to go through your partners texts messages and chats then something is wrong. Its a sign you're insecure probably because they have been behaving weirdly or you just dont trust them. Both of which are not good for the relationship.
That being said, I believe one shouldn't hide their devices around their partner. Hiding your devices around your partner raises suspicion and could make a big deal about things that aren't. You're to be free with your partner and hiding your device makes it seem like there may be something wrong there, even if theres nothing.
In the end trust, proper communication, and understanding are the things that are required to make the relationship work.
This is my entry to this weeks hive-naija prompt. Thanks for reading, have a wonderful day.
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Hmm, I wouldn't say hide but I'd prefer the word respect. It means, you shouldn't touch it unless you have his/her permission. If you trust each other, no need to go through over it. ☺️
Well said, Respect and trust are the major things. There's no need going through each others phone if there's trust. Thanks for stopping by
No, but you should not be checking them.
The only reason, I believe, that a couple would ever think of having privacy with their mobile devices would be because there is some form of distrust existing between them.
I believe, naturally, that both spouses should have nothing to do with the other's mobile device, unless there is an actual need to. For example, one may need to make a call as they may not have the airtime to do so.
For what purpose should "1 + 1 = 1" be for when there is a thing like "the necessity to access the other's device" to validate trust?
But really, it all comes down to the decisions a couple makes in their marriage. They could choose to have this level of privacy, and they could as well choose not to. In the end, it is whatever that works for them that matters.
Well said, somehow you've managed to hit all the keys points in this comment. There's nothing to hide but it doesn't mean one should go through the others phone. In the end different couples will have different levels of privacy, thanks for stopping by.
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At the end of the day, I believe trust is all that matters.
Yes, that's right
Trust me most times it isn't about distrust. Some of us have financial apps on our phones to avoid unnecessary see finish and billing you hide your phone from your partner especially if your partner is the extravagant type.
Hmm, true. But them if you can't trust them with knowing about your finances, do you completely trust them? I think it depends on the level of the relationship as well. Probably a married couple may see no need to hide their net worth, and a couple still dating may not want their partner to see it for the reasons you stated
My thoughts exactly. And when there’s a lack of trust, what’s the point of being in the relationship in the first place. Going through your partner’s phone will only fetch you what you’re looking for.. premium tears. Because for you to actually want to go through it, it means you have a strong belief that something wrong is going on. How about the person speaks about it? That’s a lot better than going through the phone.. it’s just crazy.
Indeed. Thanks flr your input
Anytime dear 😊
Someone like me...if you as my partner goes through my phone, you'd break up with me on the spot! I can be flirty when I feel like it and people term it as cheating...hahaha. Reason why I can't have any kind of romantic relationship like this😂 Thank you for posting in the HiveNaija Community
😂😂😂🤣🤣 Wahala. Me that's a jealous guy.
This fact is true. One matter how one tries to understand the activities of the other partners, there are things they can't know, and that's where trust should come in