Til Death Do Us Part? (LOH Contest #56)
For this week's Contest in our Ladies of Hive Communities I'm going to respond to Prompt # 2:
2️⃣ Would you ever take back someone who cheated?
I'll start by saying that I'm currently in my second marriage and totally happy this time around. My first husband, I would never take back, but it has nothing to do with cheating! And that's a whole different topic for another day.
When you find that certain someone, your soulmate, and the two of you decide to commit to each other (in whatever way you choose) you expect to be loved, honored and cherished. Cheating certainly does not fit into that expectation.
But does it happen? We have to accept that it does. Multiple instances are shown to us whether it's in books, movies, friends, or our own experiences. And if the unthinkable happened to me, how would I react?
My knee-jerk reaction says "Throw him out on his ear and slam the door behind him." Spend the next week ridding the house of every reminder of him and the evenings curled up on the sofa eating Cookie Dough Ice Cream and being miserable. And under it all would be RAGE at the injustice.
HOWEVER, I love this man with all my heart and I know that he loves me. What caused this breach of conduct. Why did this "other woman" intrude into my marriage? After the initial shock, I'd need details. Does it make a difference if it's a "one-time-mistake" or a long-time ongoing "affair"? What does he have to say for himself - is he sorry, or just sorry he got caught?
These details WOULD make a difference I think. A "mistake" I think I could live with and forgive. Who among us is perfect? But an "affair" would be a different thing. An ongoing chain of deceit, lies, cover-ups in order to spend time with another woman - that's a bridge too far.
And true remorse would need to be demonstrated as well. An acknowledgment of the hurt that was caused and the trust that was broken. So the end answer would be, YES, in the right circumstances I would be able to take him back and both of us put in the work to save our marriage and what we have built together.
But, ladies, don't tell him I said that!
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They say that infidelity just doesn't happen.
It is a series of small disloyalties that lead to infidelity.
"An ongoing chain of deceit, lies, cover-ups in order to spend time with another woman..."
Thanks for sharing, @blueeyes8969.
Good luck with the contest.
“Sometimes the measure of friendship isn’t your ability to not harm but your capacity to forgive the things done to you and ask forgiveness for your own mistakes.”
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When I was younger it was a clear cut NEVER!!
But now having seen relationships go through a phase, women sticking around for very valid reasons, some second chances working and some not, it isn't as black and white.
That's all it would be though, a 2nd chance, another time would make it impossible to ever trust again.
I'm sorry to hear about your first marriage. I do believe that everything happens for a reason and that's what makes your current life much happier :) No one is perfect and yes, giving someone a chance doest hurt us anything but it maybe works well in the end :) Great article and good luck in the contest :)
Yes, my first one lasted 28 years and most of that time was unhappy but we were raising our boys. I'm definitely much happier now and what we have is worth fighting for at least once. Thanks for reading and commenting!
All depends on age when things transpire, situation, reason life is never straight forward, besides how would you know if cheating takes place in the imagination not physical at all 😆
That's so true @joanstewart, there's more than one kind of cheating and mentally might be just as bad, lol.
At the end of the day one has to realize happiness lies within oneself, never rely totally on another. Have an amazing day!
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The way you approached answering the question indicates maturity, growth and understanding that I guarantee we had not acquired in our younger years. Back then it would have been a definitive throw him to the curb! (at least in my case.)
When there are children involved, everything is different...You're lucky you were able to cope and stay in your first marriage to raise your kids. Thrilled you were blessed to find your true love to spend the rest of your life with doing things you enjoy! @blueeyes8960❤
Thanks for the great comment @ninahaskin. So true, it would have been - don't let the door hit you in the A$$ on your way out, lol. And yes, I am truly blessed to be with my true soul mate now. I have a wall hanging that says "Wish I could have met you sooner so I could have loved you longer."
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