HOW TRUSTING PEOPLE HAS BEEN DETRIMENTOUS TO ME

I have had so many times that trusting people is not something very good because you never can predict what anyone can do at any particular point in time.but I am very sure that those that warns that no human can be trusted must have had their experiences with trusting people. I am not saying I am perfect or I am pure but I tried my possible best to be best I could be to people.

Naturally I always feel like we are humans and we should be able to confide in one another no matter but it now seems like betrayal is the order of the day.trusting people is something that has been in me right since my child hood and I having been trying to changes my ways toward people most especially in trying to be rigid with people but yet still the real me have not been able to do just that.the more i try,the less I change .

I have been a victim of trusting people on on many occasions at first I thought it was something normal in life but the frequency at which it is occuring is hurting me and costing me alot.i have had certain experience with people that I never believed could do otherwise to me and more reasons why i have restrained from having friends because i feel like it is better to be alone that to be with people that can hurt you at any particular point in time.

My first experience was when I was still in my secondary school,I had this friend of mine by then,there was this particular day that the whole class was punished for a particular offense but fortunately for me ,it happened that I wasn't in the class when the incidence happened.so when I got to class and met my colleagues kneeling I was like what happened and my friend explained to me that something happened and that's why we are been purnished.but because I wasn't in the class when the whole incidence happened i went to meet the teacher to explained to him why I shouldn't be part of the punishment,but the teacher refused to listen but my persistent made the teacher to ask the class if I was present when the incident happened and most of the student said no but this my friend whom I thought will even be the one defending me most was even the one insisting the more that I was in the class when the incident happened and other students were shocked with my friends attitude.But because everyone knows this guy as my friend,the teacher concluded that he can't be lying against me and that was how I got punished even more than any other student in the class because the teacher said I was lied despite the majority of the class saying I was in the class when the incident happened.

There have been several occasions to this which I can't even start mentioning here because I will not finish typing or narrating everything.But the most disastrous of me trusting people in my life was in my former place of work. Four years ago it happened that I was working for a printing company as secretary,my job was to make sure that all files are in order, arranging meetings for the top managers and so on.aside from this,I was also saddled with the responsibility of calculating workers day of work before they are paid.most of the time I handle the payment aswell.

So one day it happened that I paid some workers and after the payment it happened I decided to hand the remaining money the accountant but he insisted I should go pay it into the bank myself because he trustedme,but unfortunately that day I couldn't go to the bank due to the fact that I was busy.so the following day when I was about going to the bank it happened that the assistant the accountant came to work early and was also going to bank so I decided to give him the money to help deposit into the bank.unknown to I didn't know this man has an alterior motive and on that day the man left with the money without coming back.for several days i was under investigation until before they find out the truth that is didn't have anything to do with the money.buy I was sacked at the end of the investigation because I trusted him by giving the money to him to deposit in the bank.my believe was that he someone that has been working with the company for a long time and he was also we trusted but on that day nobody knew that this man has an alterior motive.

This are some of the problems I have face from trusting people I have been trying to change my trust on people but I have not really been able to.