But what about the WAHMEN!!!!
Yeah, I was born in the 80s. So we grew up in harmony with women. Sort of. I mean I could never figure them out because they would almost always say one thing but do the exact opposite of what they said, and they were always so cute that blaming them was nigh impossible.
But my friends really understood them, and they were all in long term relationships before I even knew what the clitoris was, so that to me meant we were mostly in harmony. I was just the odd ball. And generally women were nice to me too.
I've spent a good part of my life being friends with women, working in industries that are mostly filled with women, and trying to get in a relationship with women. I must admit, I kinda like women. I always have.
But today, we seem to have gone on a weird trajectory of black and white thinking. I don't find this on hive, but it's almost everywhere I go. What do you think people say when I tell them that I run a place for men? You can see it on their faces, the panic, the hysteria, omg, I must be one of those misogynists.
That right there, that reaction is why I decided to run somewhere for men to be men. Not because that I hate women, but because it is socially accepted these days that if you create something with men in mind then you obviously hate women.
Which to me is quite insane in reality.
I mean most of my life has been filled with women. I live with a women, a lot of the people I still talk to online are women, all my ex work colleagues are mostly women - I love 'em.
But we've moved into this weird era of black and white thinking where if you're not with us then you're against us. Which to me is a bit moron-like.
If I had a dollar for every time I've been told that I should consider starting up something for women as well because those are the ones that are particularly marginalized I wouldn't be rich, I'd be Marky rich. I'd have the general wealth the likes of Jeff Bezos.
And well, I have no idea what it's like to be a woman. I don't really know about what women struggle with. I have no clue. Me starting something for the ladies would be short sighted and stupid. Plus, there are plenty of people doing that already.
People that suggest men run groups for women should never be let loose running a group, that's for sure.
This isn't a complaint either. Because I know people are people, and most people are short-sighted, stupid, bogged down by their own biases, and can't see past their own noses, so I knew what I was getting in to. I was ready for it.
But I don't know how we got here. It must have slipped past me. Suddenly we all get along then I have my friends pop up on my messenger asking me about oppression and wondering if they've been marginalised because all the men have been keeping them down in their life.
And it's like no, YOU have been keeping you down all your life. No-one else! The mind is a beautiful thing, but it can also be eternal torment. You can live in constant paradise 24/7, or you can live in eternal hell all the time. Sadly that choice is yours, and sometimes you've arrived there at no fault of your own, but it's now your responsibility to get yourself out of it!
And that's why I created a place for men. Where we could challenge each other, participate and thrive!
But, still early days for now. We'll just have to put up with @stickupboys crap gifs daily until we get busier. hah!
I wise person once observed to me that "polarization is way to distract people from paying attention to the actual solutions."
We don't really need "us vs. them," we need "all of us, together."
I remind myself of that when I encounter mindnumbing shitshows like Andrew Tate or some uber-woke counterpart of his. They separate, rather than connect.
I generally stay clear of such discussions, though, as they seldom teach anyone how to become content with who they actually are.
But hey, I was born in 1960, so what do I know?
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I very much agree with this. I was watching a long interview with Andrew Tate the other day and he's a weird one. Like at points he talks a lot of sense. So much sense that I'm like wow, he actually knows a thing or two, but then he veers off on some crazy tangent. He almost reminds me of my Grandad who had Alzheimer's. On some days he'd be incredibly lucid and on point, but on other days he'd be away with the fairies.
But yeah. Most big influencers that inhabit the male and female spaces will never bring anyone together and in tune with themselves. Hating on other people gets x100 more traction on social media than anything wholesome. Sadly the human mind is primed to be on guard of danger and warn their friends. This is being capitalized on at the moment.
Whatever I do I try and bring people together. It's not easy of course, most people don't get along. But we can at least try.
Indeed... perhaps the best thing we can do is stay true to ourselves, rather than having truth dictated to us by "popular" talking heads on social media.
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Support groups for men and women are both valuable. Let's talk things through with respect, and not pick sides with anyone. Understanding each other helps everyone grow better and be a better version of themselves. Great one here.
I agree :)
Thanks, for that. Have a great day ahead
You and me, outside, now!
There seem to be a lot of men feeling insecure these days and maybe that is because women are getting opportunities that were mostly denied to them before. I don't expect all the old stereotypes to disappear, but how well you do in life ought to depend on your abilities and not your gender. I speak as the father of a very smart daughter. I have plenty of female friends and am in bands with an equal gender mix. What matters there is how well you play.
Women do tend to be better at talking to each other. Men are often crap at talking about their feelings and problems. We hide behind 'macho' topics like sport. I think it is reasonable to have our own spaces to perhaps open up a bit.
So yo to all the bros out there.
I used to think that too, you know, men feeling insecure. But I'm beginning to think it's not that. We're entering a weird cultural shift right now that we've never experienced in the history of humanity.
Stems from broken homes. It's easy to say the lack of a father in a household, but that's just stupid talking points. Kids need both mum and dad. I watch my wife put incredible love into our son, but she's only able to do that because I'm around. I couldn't imagine the hardship she'd go through if I wasn't, or equally if it was just me that had my son.
See, a lot of men (and women: think onlyfans as one example) are growing up in broken homes and they lack the discipline, orderliness, love, compassion etc that both parents would infuse into them were they to grow up with both. They generally lack the safety most kids that grew up in my generation and before.
My generation was mostly the beginning of that. Kids looked at me as if I was weird not having both parents. But as a result I grew up incredibly insecure. And this was something not many of my friends grew up like. They were tough, resilient, etc.
I was kinda lucky that there were men in the community that'd see me in my situation and take me off fishing or some crap (dads of my friends) - as far as I'm aware that's not even a thing now.
I came from a stable home, so I was lucky. Unfortunately the internet amplifies extreme views, so we need positive messages out there.
Definitely agree!
I love women as well. The unfortunate reality is men and women are growing further apart. Our future in the United States and Canada is pretty obvious to me. We can see it in Japan and South Korea. Birthrates way below replacement. High suicide rates.
The dynamic is off between men and women and we have been put in competition with them.
Some men have went so far in an attempt to be close to women and defeat them they have pretended to be a woman to play sports against them and be in their locker rooms. That's how far we have fallen.
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