My Dressing Is Not A Dilemma!

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Andrea Piacquadio



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I was going to take some personal pictures for this post, but one thing led to the other and the day was over before I even knew it. Crazy how time flies, huh? Yeah, I know.

Anyway, when it comes to dressing for me, it’s something that goes with my mood. And I mean that in every sense of the word. I consider my feelings more than that of the place I’m going, or more than what people will think when I get there. Saying that I dress for my comfort, sounds like an understatement but that’s just what it is.

I’m the kind of person that can wear my Christmas clothes to lectures on a hot Wednesday afternoon, and then wear faded shirts and jeans on Christmas day. Dressing has been something that has given me stress because for me, as long as it’s clean then I can definitely wear it.

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I’m most comfortable in joggers or shorts, and then polos are good for me. I own a couple jeans as well. Then, with a scattering of senators here and there, I managed to get by. As I write this, I don’t have a single shoe. I gave up on them when I outgrew my last shoes. That particular one hurt me a lot. Shoe of over 37HBD, it started to tighten my feet within six months. And if there’s one thing I hate, it’s being uncomfortable.

Eventually, I had to give it to my Dad and he’s been using it ever since. For me, I make do with palm slippers. They’re like my lucky charms because I use them for everything. No matter where I’m going or who I’m going to meet, I wear palm slippers. I have the leather kind I wear for my more serious meetings, so I can polish them and they won’t look so flashy.

Honestly, I just love palm slippers. They’re easy and comfortable, so easy to wear and take off. You won’t have to spend minutes shoving your ankle in or out.

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Also, I wear sandals. Or rather, I have sandals. I just hardly wear them. I had to get sandals because I swore off shoes and I needed something that would give me some semblance of casual looks when I needed it. However, since I bought it, I’ve not worn it up to ten times. Yeah… sucks.

I know you might mention that owning a shoe is important, I know that. I’ll be needing shoes soon when I have to defend my project, that’s not something you can do wearing slippers or sandals for that matter. However, I’m just not going to stress myself. I’ll simply buy something cheap, not over 5HBD, and wear it just once. When I go to the market, I’ll see second-hand shoes I can easily buy. I use it for that day and dump it. If anything comes up later on that will require me to wear shoes, the same thing will happen.

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My dressing is basically how the spirit leads. Someone once told me I dress too casually to church. I just wear a shirt and jeans, with a few of the buttons open, and then a bushy head of hair that’s just so stubborn it never looks combed. I was advised to tuck in my shirt and wear shoes, so I’ll look nice and fine like a good boy. Hehe… I’m sorry ma, I’m not a good boy.

Back then in high school, we were one of those who hated tucking in our shirts. The longest our shirts were tucked was for the duration of the assembly, even as we were marching to class we were already pulling the shirt out and popping the first button open. My friends and I honed our senses sharply, once a teacher was around we could easily tuck in our shirts in seconds and they’d have no idea. Other times, we just fold the tails of the shirt inwards, giving the impression of a tucked-in shirt.

Just saying all this to let you know it’s how I’ve always been. It was my own form of “big boy”. Polished sandals, white socks, half-buttoned shirt to show off our white singlet, and the bad boy aura. Looking good was so easy back then and I like to believe I killed it… and now it still is. As long as you choose to do it on your terms. Besides, I’m an engineer, tucked in shirts and ties are not meant for people in my profession.

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So, however the spirit guides, I dress and it has always come through for me because I do this for myself and for no one else. As long as I’m not indecent, and the clothes are not dirty or torn, then I’m good. It’s not like you’ll beat me, is it?

I don’t know just how long I can go on like this, and it’s even worse because I rarely go out so I don’t have reasons to want to buy new clothes and such. Even when I do, I just wear whatever I want, go out, and come back in.

I’m not gonna lie though, I wanna do better. I wanna be better. I want to start paying more attention to my dress and looks. But as I said, it’s still under the file marked “I Want To”. And boy… There are so many things listed in that file.

Anyway, the future does hold a lot of mysteries and anything can happen. I can end up becoming someone who freaks out about what to wear, or I will just remain this way. I guess we’ll have to see how it all plays out.

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Thank you for reading. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below, I would love to know what you’re thinking. Till we meet in the next post.




This post was inspired by the second topic of this week which is Dressing Dilemma. Feel free to try it out.




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Ahn ahn why will you wear Christmas cloth to lecture and wear faded jean I. Christmas hehehehe that's funny.
Well I try to understand the mood issue in it. Hehe

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Omo... once I buy clothes, I'll just be itching to wear them. Just leaving them for a special day won't seat well with me. But once I wear it once or twice, it loses it spark, and I can wear it to anywhere at all.

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Heheh I see it happens sometimes too.
But ehn I still have outing wears and house wears separately

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I can't stop laughing reading this.
Been an engineer really fits you because I can imagine how you will be struggling with a cloth Tye in a bank settings.

Maybe an oversize shoe will be good at a point of purchase. A little oversize won't hurt your feet.
My moods sometimes determine what I wear but not up to how casual I see you dress.
But it is fine so longs as you feel comfortable in what you wear.

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I tried that... getting oversized shoe for me is not that easy. I have big feet, so if I'm gonna enjoy the shoe, I'll have to have it custom made. That's expensive biko...
I might do it later... but for now, let me just keep flexing my palms...

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You are funny, it's evident from the way you wrote this post, lol. Well I do think you will look cute acting like a bad boy and I was just trying to imagine how you will look like in all the different style of dressing you mentioned and as much as I want to tell you to try to be a good boy I think I'd prefer you to stay a bad boy, hehe.

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Omo... I'm not a bad boy again ooo 😂😂
I still dress basically the same way sha... just that now no teachers to tell me to tuck in my shirt. 😅

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Hehe, I'm sure you have outgrown some of those things now, hehe.

Yeah I can totally relate to the fact that now you are the person that make almost all if not all of your decisions as regards what you want to put on.

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Lol, I think what matters more is the question, are you comfortable in what you are dressed up in? If yes, then it settled. Although other factors come into play like the setting, is it a formal or informal setting that kind of thing also matter, one doesn't want to go dressing informal or casually to a job interview, except the job requires that.

Awesome post

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Yeah... comfort matters, also the statement you plan to make with your dressing matters as well. You dress according to how you want people to see you and maybe that could help in whatever situation you find yourself.

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I’m the kind of person that can wear my Christmas clothes to lectures on a hot Wednesday afternoon, and then wear faded shirts and jeans on Christmas day. Dressing has been something that has given me stress because for me, as long as it’s clean then I can definitely wear it.

I think most guys go with this than girls. Reading your post made me imagine if I could wear anything I see in my wardrobe to anywhere without feeling uncomfortable. I have many dresses I bought for church but dumped them because I feel they don't bring out what I want to see or they make me look somehow 😂😂.

I just like dressing to impress myself knowing that when I'm confident in my outfit what others see is not my concern.

You talked about shoes of 5HBD when you want to defend project. With the economic quamire in the country, it looks to me like getting any shoes for that price would be difficult.

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You're just like my sister, she has loads of clothes, but still always complains of what to wear. What a dilemma 😂

About the shoe, I'll just get the cheapest one I can. I would have loved to borrow, but the owner may never like his shoe after that.

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You're just like my sister, she has loads of clothes, but still always complains of what to wear. What a dilemma 😂

Is not our fault o, when we want to dress to kill and slay, what do you expect. 🤣🤣🤣

I would have loved to borrow, but the owner may never like his shoe after that.

Lemme hear well o 🤣🤣. That day now, just your shoes would attract the attention of everyone. I believe and expect a post that day, I would like to be the judge. Hahaha.

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Lol
I think I love the fact that your dress is how the spirit leads and that's how it is supposed to be instead of wanting to be heavily dressed all of the time

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Heavily dressed?!😂
I pity some people sometimes...😅

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Hehe. I am more simpler than you and I don't even bother myself for thinking about it. Till my dress is clear I have no problem with it and I can pick randomly to wear although I decide which one I will wear in the next day before I go to sleep.

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Hah... you're trying ooo 😂😂
The only time I pick out what to wear is that moment I'm about to wear it. With mostly polos, joggers and jeans, I don't really have to worry about ironing and the like. So, it's always easy peasy for me.

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My dressing is basically how the spirit leads. Someone once told me I dress too casually to church. I just wear a shirt and jeans, with a few of the buttons open, and then a bushy head of hair that’s just so stubborn it never looks combed.

Sincerely I like this kind of dressing pattern oo just you are led. For me this is the best way to curtail the issue of dilemma. You've inspired me sir. Thanks for sharing

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It is good that you go with how you feel. Not with what others want - then you are truly comfortable in your own skin and your second skin. That is the best. Clean clothes and you are good to go. Nice.

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Yeah...
As long as they're clean, then I can work with them.

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