Changing the story: from failure to success

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Hello community!

I hope that you are enjoying this Monday and beginning of the week 💖 I would like to share with you a realization that has changed a feeling of failure into a feeling of success.

I will put you first in context. Last summer I moved to Bali with my boyfriend. Before moving, my main source of income it was as a content writer. During the year I did a NLP training and my idea was moving from writing to coaching.

Curiously in summer the writing job stopped. It was okay for me since I wanted to enjoy my travels, but it didn't increase after summer. I took it as a chance to focus 100% in "my coaching business".

I created an online course for digital nomads. I learned that it's not only about creating a course but also about selling it. So I started to use social media to sell and I hated it. First thing that I did it was modeling what other coaches were doing, so I investigated and I observed other coaches strategies, try to "copy" them and I realized it was not for me. (I wrote this post about my findings in this industry in case you are curious).

After that I met a Dutch couple that were creating a project in the field of personal growth. They wanted to enter the Spanish market so they proposed me a collaboration. At the beginning I was very excited since the guy also mentioned that with his previous company they made more than 10 million euros in online courses sales, so I thought I could learn a lot. But after a couple of weeks I decided to step out because I was not feeling it.

What happened it's that I burned out. Before I thought that you could only burn out when working for a company.

My body was telling to stop actually even before to say yes to the Dutch couple. I was sick for 2 weeks, but I didn't listen. I just told myself the typical "it's just a cold".

Then, since I mentioned that the writing jobs stopped, my mind started creating this thoughts of scarcity. Going to memories of my past when I used to work in the financial world, remembering how while doing that, money came easily to me.

So I felt that I wanted to go back to my comfortable and safe zone. Which meant going back to Spain. Since I knew that my boyfriend didn't want to come back to Spain and he wanted to go back to Africa, I proposed him to separate for a while and see what happens.

Everything happened very quick. We booked our flights to Thailand and after on the 25th of January me to Spain and he to Ghana.

For a couple of days I was telling myself a story in my mind of failure. I was telling myself that I failed in my entrepreneurship and in my relationship.

And yesterday I realized that is not my story. My story is different. I'm going to Spain to publish the book I have been wanted to write for years. To present in different places. To see my family and friends. To create a couple of things in person I have been thinking about since I changed my story. And to get the vaccine and visa that I need to go to Africa with my boyfriend.

I have had a lot of success. I realized that the coaching is not for me. I am finishing my first book which will be ready to be published in the first quarter of next year (as actually I have been planning since I started writing it). I'm taking the time to see my friends and family and recharge my energy. I trust so much in my relationship and in myself, that I know that these time apart will just consolidate even more our love.

I'm an independent powerful woman and a great writer.

That's my story.

Thank you for reading 💖