How important is the support of your family when starting a business (ENG/ESP)

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Hi Hivers,

I come again to share something that it's been holding be back from starting my own business: my family.

Like many of us, I have been educated in this system to become an employee. Not to be an artist or an entrepreneur but an employee. Since I was little I wanted to have my own business. To the typical question of "what would you if you would win the lottery?" I have always reply the same: starting my own business.

Thanks to the Internet, nowadays is possible to start a business with little or no investment. So of course like many of us I am using this chance to create what I feel I want to create.

But I realize that something is keeping away from success is my family. I remember that the first time that I heard about this was when I got a Akashic Record reading, but to be honest I didn't pay much attention.

A couple of hours ago I talked to my mother and I told her that I sold my first online course and her reply was: "Does this give you money?" If I go back to when I started as a freelancer her first response was: "you are not going to make a living writing articles in the Internet". And I keep continue going back to my childhood when I wanted to take drawing classes instead of maths and physics and she made the choice for me to maths and physics because "artists don't make enough money to buy food".

I know that she doesn't do it with bad intentions. I also know that this is coming from oldest generations than my mother. But what I don't know is how to deal with it.

Of course I get angry when I listen to these comments. And I tell her. She says that she supports me, but subconsciously she doesn't. Otherwise her responses to my achievements would be different.

I know that I am not the only one here with the same conditioning. I have seen videos of others entrepreneurs who describe similar situations. And since I am also aware of the important role that our subconscious mind play with everything in our lives, I came to realize that this is one of the points when you can sabotage your own success if you have grown up with these kind of believes.

So the intentions of my post here are:

  1. To bring awareness. If you are a mother or father be aware of how these comments might affect your child's success. If you have tried previously to run your business but you feel that you have not have had the success you wanted, think about this. Really think about what your family think about having your own business and if this is subconsciously affecting your own success.
  2. To ask for book recommendations. Maybe you know some author who speak about this and you can recommend a book or other form of information.

I appreciate your time and I wish you a lot of success in whatever you are creating 💖


Hola Hivers,

Vengo de nuevo a compartir algo que me ha impedido empezar mi propio negocio: mi familia.

Como muchos de nosotros, he sido educado en este sistema para ser un empleado. No para ser un artista o un empresario, sino un empleado. Desde pequeño quise tener mi propio negocio. A la típica pregunta de "¿qué harías si te tocara la lotería? " siempre he respondido lo mismo: Empezar mi propio negocio.

Gracias a Internet, hoy en día es posible iniciar un negocio con poca o ninguna inversión. Así que, por supuesto, como muchos de nosotros, estoy aprovechando esta oportunidad para crear lo que siento que quiero crear.

Pero me doy cuenta de que algo me aleja del éxito es mi familia. Recuerdo que la primera vez que oí hablar de esto fue cuando me hicieron una lectura de los Registros Akáshicos, pero para ser sincera no le presté mucha atención.

Hace un par de horas hablé con mi madre y le dije que había vendido mi primer curso online y su respuesta fue: "¿Esto te da dinero? " Si me remonto a cuando empecé como freelance su primera respuesta fue: "no te vas a ganar la vida escribiendo artículos en Internet ". Y sigo recordando mi infancia, cuando quise tomar clases de dibujo en lugar de matemáticas y física y ella me hizo elegir las matemáticas y la física porque "los artistas nada más que pasan hambre".

Sé que no lo hace con mala intención. También sé que esto viene de generaciones más antiguas que mi madre. Pero lo que no sé es cómo afrontarlo.

Por supuesto que me enfado cuando escucho estos comentarios. Y se lo digo a ella. Ella dice que me apoya, pero inconscientemente no lo hace. Si no, sus respuestas a mis logros serían diferentes.

Sé que no soy el único aquí con el mismo condicionamiento. He visto vídeos de otros empresarios que describen situaciones similares. Y como también soy consciente del importante papel que juega nuestro subconsciente con todo en nuestras vidas, me di cuenta de que este es uno de los puntos en los que puedes sabotear tu propio éxito si has crecido con este tipo de creencias.

Así que las intenciones de mi post aquí son:

  1. Ser más conscientes. Si eres un padre o una madre, sé consciente de cómo estos comentarios pueden afectar al éxito de tu hijo. Si has intentado anteriormente dirigir tu negocio pero sientes que no has tenido el éxito que querías, piensa en esto. Reflexiona en lo que piensa tu familia sobre tener tu propio negocio y si esto está afectando inconscientemente a tu propio éxito.
  2. Pedir recomendaciones de libros. Tal vez conozcas algún autor que hable de esto y puedas recomendar algún libro u otra forma de información.

Agradezco tu tiempo y te deseo mucho éxito en lo que estés creando 💖.

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Oh God! I know the feeling very well as have been in this situation with many other millions in the world. They were brought up in a different world and choosing safety has always been their priority.

I can't recommend you any books as my policy is work out what it's best for you, but I can tell you, the only way to break free is to make the move. Once they see you're doing well they will change their minds. It's not going to be easy and you're going to face a lot of hardship, but it's the only way.

Anyway, good luck and follow your dreams, don't let others make you follow their dreams.

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Yes, you are so right! Actually today has happened something unexpected that has given me again the strength to keep following my dreams 😉 Thank you for your message and support 💖

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I'm glad to hear that 🤗

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This is good. I have an online business and have been supported by my family when it got off the ground. Now that support is mostly emotional.

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I'm very happy for you :) You are very lucky to count with that support 💖

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Hola @capitanabeach has tocado un tema que atañe no solo al emprendedor, creo que muchísimos pasamos por la desaprobación de nuestros padres y en muchos casos sentimos su inconformidad por lo que hacemos y nuestros logros. Para ellos es como si nada fuese suficiente.

El asunto es que ellos no van a cambiar, así que nos corresponde a nosotros aprender a vivir con lo que ellos son, sin que nos afecte tanto y entonces las preguntas son otras, por ejemplo: ¿Por qué requiero de la aprobación de mi mamá?; ¿qué necesito demostrarle? Es como dices, un trabajo consciente para soltar las amarras.

Un libro que hable de ese asunto puntual no conozco, aunque todo lo que he leído y practicado en relación con el crecimiento personal me ha ayudado a romper con esas ataduras emocionales que de muchas maneras limitan ese crecimiento, entre ellas he trabajado con la programación neurolingüística mis creencias limitantes, de manera más espiritual he trabajado la aceptación y el agradecimiento con respecto a mi madre y en general todo aquello que comienza con el pensamiento positivo y que me da herramientas o estrategias para estar en bienestar con lo que soy, lo que sienten hago y tengo.

Saludos cariñosos, me encantó tu post. Espero que encuentres tus respuestas 😊

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Muchas gracias por tu amable comentario y recomendaciones 💖

Es algo que he analizado con programación neurolingüística y otras terapias similares. Y sí que no veo necesario la aprobación de los padres, pero creo que si la tienes puedes avanzar más rápido. En cualquier caso también he mantenido una conversación con ella para aclarar las cosas 😊

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I remember the first business I started back in my childhood days, it was actually the strong backing of my family that keep me going and till now I still appreciate them for that because I tend to learn a lot from the business

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I'm glad to hear that you could count with your family support 💖

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Bueno amiga, lo que te puedo decir es que es lamentable que no te apoye. Seguro ella piuensa que no te irá bien y que te conviene más otra cosa. La misión de los padres es ponértela lo más fácil posible. Pero tal vez si le demuestras que eres felzi haciendo eso y que tambien puedes resolver lo que le preocupa a ella (que me imaginqo ue es el tema económico) puedas destapar esa olla del apoyo...

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Muchas gracias por tu comentario @ibrahimc 🙏 sí, efectivamente cuando vea que va funcionando espero que cambie de idea ;)

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We're told we can't succeed as entrepreneurs or as owners of our own businesses by people who themselves have not been entrepreneurs or owners of their own businesses-- or those people have tried it and themselves failed at it.

As well-meaning as these people are, are those really the people we should be seeking for advice in this particular area? I say no. Instead, we need to find people who are in the position where we want to be. What did these people do to get to where we want to be in a few weeks / months / years from now?

We should always aim for the stars because even if we reach "only" the moon, that's further than most people have gone.

Most of us think of succeeding as entrepreneurs in the same way we think o winning the lottery: we want to win that huge jackpot. The problem with that is that there is just one huge jackpot; once it is won, that's it, it's gone. It's a numbers game, so we need to figure out how to make the numbers work in our favor even as we aim for the stars. Instead of trying to hit all 6 numbers once, we should work on hitting 4 numbers repeatedly and regularly. We may not win all the time, but we will win more often with 4 numbers than with 6 numbers. (Check your local lottery for the prize stats for hitting X numbers.)

I'm not a parent, so I can't answer your 1st question. I don't have any book recommendations, so I can't answer the 2nd question. I just wanted to share a few thoughts I had as prompted by your post. You're doing more than many other people when it comes to being an entrepreneur, so I just want to wish you continued success as you keep moving forward.

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