[Eng-Esp] He cheated on me with my cousin... and I forgave both of them

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Crecí en una familia humilde. Mi madre era un mujer llena de respeto y valores, desde pequeña siempre nos aconsejaba y nos daba ejemplo en todo. A pesar que mi madre fue sufrida y víctima del maltrato, no dejaba de orientarnos. Admiro a mi madre porque es una mujer fuerte y valiente.

I grew up in a humble family. My mother was a woman full of respect and values, since she was a little girl she always gave us advice and gave us an example in everything. Even though my mother suffered and was a victim of mistreatment, she never stopped guiding us. I admire my mother because she is a strong and brave woman.


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Cuando cumplí la mayoría de edad, me casé con un hombre que a mi parecer era bueno y respetuoso. Con el tiempo la familia fue creciendo y los problemas también. Todo había empezado a cambiar cuando se supone que debería mejorar, pero en mi caso no fue así, siempre fui una persona tímida y de hablar poco, además de eso me consideraba noble e ingenua con buenos sentimientos.

Al pasar los meses, mi pareja me fue infiel con mi prima y lo curioso es que no fue una sola vez, fueron varias veces, tanto que perdí la cuenta. En el escrito que viene a continuación, les hablaré acerca de un tema sumamente importante que será de gran ayuda para muchos, ya que a veces pasamos por momentos tan dolorosos y fuertes que nos llenamos de ira y rencor.

When I came of age, I married a man who I thought was good and respectful. As time went by, the family grew and so did the problems. Everything had begun to change when it was supposed to get better, but in my case it was not like that, I was always a shy person and not very talkative, besides that I considered myself noble and naive with good feelings.

As the months went by, my partner was unfaithful with my cousin and the funny thing is that it was not just once, it was several times, so many that I lost count. In the following article, I will talk about an extremely important topic that will be of great help to many, because sometimes we go through such painful and strong moments that we are filled with anger and resentment.

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Luego de vivir, y pasado por lo que pasé, muchas personas allegadas se me acercaban para decirme o incluso preguntarme como hacía yo para vivir y perdonar a las personas que me hacían daño. Les explico. A los días de haberme enterado lo que mi pareja había hecho con mi prima, les confieso me sentí destrozada y dolida por unas semanas o meses. Al tiempo me sentía un poco mejor y salía a la calle como si nada hubiese pasado; podía mirar a mi ex pareja con mi prima tomados de la mano y dando un paseo. Algunas personas se me acercaban y me preguntaban que si era que no tenía sangre en la venas, ya que ellos en mi lugar no se hubiesen aguantado en armar un problema o incluso entrar en conflicto con mi prima.

Entrar en más conflicto… Eso honestamente no iba, ni va conmigo. Una de las cosas por la cual las personas se me acercaba para comentar o preguntar era porque les decía que no les guardaba rencor a ninguno de los dos por haberme hecho sufrir y no solo eso, sino que también los perdonaba.

After having lived and gone through what I went through, many people close to me approached me to tell me or even ask me how I was able to live and forgive the people who hurt me. Let me explain. A few days after I found out what my partner had done with my cousin, I confess I felt devastated and hurt for a few weeks or months. After a while I felt a little better and went out in the street as if nothing had happened; I could see my ex-partner and my cousin holding hands and taking a walk. Some people would come up to me and ask me if I had no blood in my veins, since in my place they would not have been able to bear to make trouble or even enter into conflict with my cousin.

Getting into more conflict... That honestly wasn't and isn't going to happen with me. One of the things that people approached me to comment or ask questions about was because I told them that I did not hold a grudge against either of them for making me suffer and not only that, but I also forgave them.

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Suena increíble y sorprendente pero es así, las personas me criticaban por las cosas que yo decía. Pero algunas me admiraban. No todo el mundo perdona así porque sí, y menos un engaño.

Para muchos se le es difícil perdonar. Una vez tuve la oportunidad de hablar con una conocida y me comentaba que tenía años odiando a muerte a una mujer que intervino en su matrimonio y que nunca se lo perdonaría. Honestamente yo me quedé en shock pensando en cómo puede haber personas que piensen de esta manera.

Te digo algo.

El perdón es lo más importante que debe existir en el ser humano, sin embargo para perdonar, primero debemos perdonarnos a nosotros, para luego perdonar a otros. Lo bueno y lo más importante de perdonar son el alivio y la paz que sentiremos dentro de nuestro corazón. Te invito a que pienses en esto, reflexiones y lo practiques. El pasado es pasado, ahora vivimos el presente, para bien o para mal, la vida nos vuelve a dar nuevas oportunidades y hay que aprovecharlas.

It sounds unbelievable and surprising but that's how it is, people criticized me for the things I said. But some people admired me. Not everyone forgives just for the sake of it, let alone cheating.

Many find it difficult to forgive. I once had the opportunity to talk to an acquaintance and she told me that she had hated to death for years a woman who intervened in her marriage and that she would never forgive her. Honestly I was in shock thinking about how there could be people who think this way.

I tell you what.

Forgiveness is the most important thing that should exist in a human being, however in order to forgive, we must first forgive ourselves, and then forgive others. The good and the most important thing about forgiving is the relief and peace that we will feel inside our heart. I invite you to think about this, reflect and practice it. The past is past, now we live in the present, for better or worse, life gives us new opportunities and we must take advantage of them.

Tal vez te preguntes si hoy sigo con mi ex y te respondo que no, no sigo con él. Ellos hoy siguen juntos. Lo perdoné, pero eso no implicaba que podía ni quería seguir con él. El perdón es principalmente para uno, para liberarse de rencores y tener paz interior. Hoy la tengo y es lo importante.

You may be wondering if I am still with my ex today and I answer no, I am not still with him. They are still together today. I forgave him, but that did not imply that I could or wanted to stay with him. Forgiveness is mainly for oneself, to free oneself from grudges and to have inner peace. Today I have it and that is what is important.

Esto ha sido todo mis queridos amigos de Hive, les envió un cordial saludos. Gracias por visitar mi blog.

This has been all my dear friends of Hive, I send you cordial greetings. Thank you for visiting my blog.



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It takes a lot of courage to forgive the people who betrayed you and your trust and for you to be able to handle it is amazing. I couldn't bear it if it happens to me. Bless your heart!

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That's right friend @explowithsasha, although at first I felt a little strong, after a few months I reflected that it made no sense to suffer and keep resentment in my heart for something that is not worth it. I understood that feeling hatred and anger would gain nothing and I was sure that I would feel happier having my conscience free, even if I had done nothing. Life had better things in store for me.

Thank you for commenting.

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You're very much welcome. I know time heals all wounds. Life may throw us a lot of challenges but stay strong. We have a lot of things and trials that will come on our path but life must go on, we should free ourselves from the anguish and move forward.

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Forgiveness requires courage and also gives peace of mind.

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I totally agree with you, it takes a lot of courage to forgive, but once you do, it's a weight off your shoulders. Thank you, best regards.

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Excelente reflexión, perdonar es lo mejor para nuestra salud, mental, física y espiritual. Lo has hecho muy bien!

!LADY

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Gracias, así es el atreves del perdón encontramos la paz y la tranquilidad en nuestro interior. Saludos.

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Sentí mucho alivio cuando dijiste que ya no estas más con él jajaja. Me alegro de que lo hayas perdonado, pero seguramente mereces a una persona mejor que te respete y valore ❣️.

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Yo también me alegro haberlo perdonado eso me hace sentir libre. Perdonar no es fácil, pero nada ganamos guardando rencor en nuestros corazones. De hecho ya encontré una persona maravillosa que me ama y me respeta. Gracias amiga @lauramica, por comentar.

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You are very strong to have forgiven them and move on with your life. And I agree with you, forgiving others is actually not for their benefit but for our own. It frees us from burden and hurt.

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