[CHI&ENG]主动经营| Proactively manage

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原本计划每晚十点就放下手机，躺在床上准备睡觉的，无奈管不住手，拿起手机一看，果然有找我的，当然和发帖子有关系，于是处理处理，没想到又到了十二点。昨晚遇到一个新问题，还是第一次听到，比如她问我自己是否能在这里有成名的机会？啊？想成名？不过个人觉得如果自己有才华，那在哪里都是有成名的机会的吧。由于时间太晚了，只能跟她说自己需要休息了，明天要早起，因为适当的情绪价值我已经提供了，再聊就很晚了，更重要的是我觉得蜂巢的大佬不仅是有财和才华，更重要的是都日复一日的坚持了接近十年了。

说回晚上十点睡觉这件事，还是无意中刷到了孙俪老公邓超的视频启发的。邓超说有次和孙俪吵架了，晚上忙完后没和孙俪联系，感觉到好像少了点什么东西，但是一看时间，已经超过了晚上十点了，当时就觉得哇，孙俪睡得好早。虽然别人的视频本意并不是这个，但是我在这个视频里得到的启发却是要早点睡觉。毕竟孙俪这样的强人设的知名演员，又是两个孩子的妈妈，怎么都会比我还忙吧，却把生活节奏经营得很健康，在这点上，我怎么都得向她看齐呀，中医养生说的是晚上九点就躺床上，如果按照早上五点起床的话，这个时间点也是科学的。

虽然依然比平时睡得早了，但是问题却是躺在床上半睡半醒的状态，要么就是气血不足，要么就是生物钟没有调整过来，还沉浸在以前熬夜的状态里，不过用早起逼早睡这套倒还是很行得通的，晚上到了一定的时间点就感觉困了。因为还有小孩子，我不睡她也不睡，但和她不一样的地方是她是一睡着就是深度睡眠，听着她均匀的呼吸，感慨“年轻”真好。不过我像她这么大的时候，也是三更半夜睡不着觉的状态，经常能够盯着天花板一晚上，也许我是个夜猫子型的人，或者我心里有什么放不下的事情，大概瘦也是这个原因。

昨天提到玄学，发现有好几位朋友都挺感兴趣的，大概在没有发现命运的安排这回事之前，我们每个人可能都只是命运的“提线木偶”，那些自以为是的个性，也只不过是“木偶”的一部分。那些主动的选择，也有可能只是被动的被安排了。但总有人能够凭借坚定的心，主动的经营过好人生，这被赋予的坚定的性格，不知道是不是也是天意，又或者是后天的磨砺，我相信后者居多。总有人稀里糊涂的过了半辈子，从来没有觉醒过，也有人跌跌撞撞的活了一生，还一直执迷不悔，当提线木偶还是主动经营当命运的主人？

于是我也打算改变一下每天的打卡事项，比如某个app必须每天看半个小时的视频和15个广告，打算这半个小时的时间找比较有质量的内容来听，广告打算静音不听讲的什么，这样就不会花时间研究这个产品是不是值得买了。其他时间大部分还是陪女儿去玩，奥特莱斯的卡还剩下一次了，准备玩完了就不续了，昨天去玩的时候，竟然闻到尿味，另外就是那么几个项目，感觉挺单调的，女儿似乎不在乎在哪里玩，而是每次都要我陪她一起玩，必须让我也参与进去才行，羡慕那些把孩子往游乐场一放就可以专心刷手机的家长们。

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I originally planned to put my phone down at 10 p.m. every night, lie in bed, and get ready to sleep. But unfortunately, I couldn't control myself. I picked up my phone and, sure enough, there was something I needed to handle, which was related to posting. So I took care of it, and before I knew it, it was already midnight. Last night, I encountered a new issue, one that I had never heard before. She asked me if I thought there was a chance for her to become famous here. Huh? Become famous? Personally, I think if you have talent, there are chances to become famous anywhere. Since it was late, I could only tell her that I needed to rest because I had to wake up early tomorrow. I had already provided enough emotional value, and continuing the conversation would make it too late. More importantly, I think the leaders of Hive (the platform) not only have wealth and talent but have also been persistent for nearly ten years.

Back to the 10 p.m. sleep plan, it was actually inspired by a video of Sun Li's husband, Deng Chao. Deng Chao said that once he had an argument with Sun Li, and after finishing his work, he didn't contact her. He felt like something was missing, but when he checked the time, it was already past 10 p.m., and he thought, "Wow, Sun Li sleeps so early." Although the original intention of the video wasn't this, the takeaway for me was to go to bed earlier. After all, Sun Li, a famous actress and mother of two, must be busier than me, yet she manages her life rhythm so healthily. In this aspect, I must follow her example. Traditional Chinese medicine suggests going to bed by 9 p.m., and if you wake up at 5 a.m., this timing is scientifically sound.

Although I am still sleeping earlier than usual, the problem is that I end up in a half-sleep, half-awake state, either because of a lack of vitality or because my biological clock hasn't adjusted yet, still immersed in my old habit of staying up late. However, using the strategy of waking up early to encourage early sleep does work. When it reaches a certain time at night, I just feel sleepy. Because I still have a child, if I don't sleep, neither will she, but the difference is that once she falls asleep, she sleeps deeply. Listening to her steady breathing, I can't help but feel that "youth" is wonderful. But when I was her age, I was also in a state where I couldn't sleep at 3 a.m., often staring at the ceiling all night. Maybe I'm just a night owl, or maybe there's something I can't let go of. This could also be the reason why I'm thin.

Yesterday, I mentioned metaphysics, and I found that several friends were quite interested. Before discovering that there might be "destiny's arrangement," we were all probably just "puppets" of fate. Those self-assured personalities were just parts of the "puppet." The seemingly proactive choices could have been passively arranged. But there are always people who, with a firm heart, actively manage their lives well. This steadfast character, I'm not sure if it's fate or something forged through experience, but I believe the latter is more common. Some people drift through half of their lives without ever awakening, while others live a life of stumbling and never regretting. Should we be puppets or actively take control of our own destiny?

So I decided to make some changes to my daily routine. For example, there's an app where I have to watch 30 minutes of videos and 15 ads every day. I plan to spend that 30 minutes watching quality content and mute the ads so that I don't waste time evaluating whether the product is worth buying. The rest of my time will mostly be spent playing with my daughter. The outlet mall card I have left only has one visit left, and once I've used it, I won't renew it. Yesterday, when we went, I actually smelled urine, and there are only a few activities left, which feel pretty monotonous. My daughter doesn't seem to care where she plays, but she insists that I play with her every time. She has to make me participate too. I envy those parents who can just drop their kids off at the amusement park and focus on their phones.

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