So zero, zero, not as you might think. There is something called experience that tinges with good that we start over, be it a cake, a job, or a relationship. This is my publication for the initiative of our friend @mosa71 in Holos& Lotus.

I've been a repeat offender of hitting the same stone again and my feet have grown from so many blows, but telling myself: "You're going to sit here, still, still" NO! I never intend to neutralise myself again, because there is a demanding me in me, that seeks to get out of what doesn't work, of what hurts.

Call it: work, friends, relationship, family, whatever, if something becomes toxic, I will open the window and seek to breathe clean air and if in doing so I see that I can start something different and I like it, I will do it and I will detox my soul to walk the new path.

I throw away my suitcase

There are very common mistakes that are made and we pay for them, if I made rice in a very small pot and I spilled some of the contents on the cooker, when I make it again I must change the pot or use less rice, sometimes it is necessary to change the cooker or stop making rice, something drastic that shows that there has been a learning process. Throwing away the suitcase means that I should not start something new with the old mistakes.

I should not do like the little old lady who was warned of the danger on the shortest route and went back the same way, only to fall into the same hole again. The longer route can have other experiences, and help me think better to enable me to make other decisions.

To live again

It is a mistake to get cold feet, and when I have felt this way, asked for help and accepted advice, I do not deny myself the possibility of continuing to have positive experiences. The energy you experience when you get new air is healing and gives new meaning to your life.

All men are equal

This premise is negative and harmful, not all women are the same and that is what makes this adventure called life interesting. Fear, learned from previous experiences, limits the opportunities to start over. People put their own obstacles in their way. Very justified, but they still become a paralysing trap.

I have started again because previous negative experiences do not have to become laws.

Of this water I shall not drink?

The decrees of "never again" are never completely fulfilled, without hidden suffering. Some of them are carried out, mostly because of social impositions, to avoid what people will say: "that woman doesn't last in the workplace", and others are more aggressive, who won't shut up because you make one decision or another, there will always be a critical and judging entity, so the best thing to do is, with five fingers in front and your hand on your heart, to make the decision you want to make.

I value learning very much, I will start again, whatever I am not successful, as many times as it takes, if I like it, if it fulfils me, if it is good for me. I told them that once I retired I started studying law, I was not happy with anything I was learning, I did not want to see myself, given my nature, in the middle of litigation, I did not find a space that would take me away from the stress and I gave up with the conviction that it was not for me, would I insist again? Definitely not.

Conclusion: what I am going to start from scratch depends on my decision, it depends on whether it works for me or not, whether it helps me to be a better person and whether it suits my happiness.