How do you battle depression?

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They're a lot of people in the world, an estimated billion people make up the world's population and out of this many people, more than half are either broken or depressed asf( permit me to use this language). Most are either angry, frustrated or tired with life.

I wouldn't blame them actually, they're a thousand and one reasons why depression creeps in. This world we live in is filled with a lot of beautiful and also filled with a lot of hardship. Most times the hardship feels like a big whale swallowing the little happy moments we've experienced and then life only gets harder.

I can't really count the number of reasons why people get depressed. Some are lonely, faced with a lot of problems, most times it could be financial constraints (this usually gets me down) and other times is heartbreak(especially when your crush doesn't even look at you), it can get really depressing.

Depression is sometimes seen as a mind disease and I don't disagree but I feel it can be treated. But then how does that really work?..How can someone who's also going through hard time help another who's facing a harder time. I've always tried to understand how the concept of depressing works but I just can't.

When I was around 10-12years, I hardly had any course to worry or break down like I do now. They were surely times when I felt sad, maybe because I couldn't get some of the things I wanted but it didn't last for to long. I just think for a while and then when I go to play football it all just clears off my head and I'm with no worries (I miss my childhood days).

I wonder what changed, did growing up grant me a depression label?. Is it a must for us to always start being depressed and suicidal the moment we start growing up. What did growing up expose us to. Did it infect us with this virus that slowly takes over our mind and gradually eats up our consciousness, our faith, our hope, our love. It just leaves us empty, hollow, begging to feel nothing, nothing at all.

I can't quite explain how bad it is, this state of deprivation, or depression. I've broken down a lot of times, I've cried a lot of times and each time I see another person going through that same ordeal it breaks me down. Funny thing is most of this people hide behind emojis, social media trends and whatever but deep down they're fighting a deep battle, one that would end their soul before their lives even end.

Most people are scared to talk to others about it for fear of being laughed at, mocked or taken advantage of. It's how the world operates , so most times we just tend to fight our demons our selves and continue loosing. It's an unending phase untill life ends itself.

I really don't know what I'm typing again, because right now I feel really bad. Not that I'm depressed, I'm just sad that I can't help someone who's depressed. A depressed friend just texted me and I couldn't really be of any help to her. I just didn't know the right words to say to comfort her and it really weighed me down.

I need you all to share your own experiences and how you were able to come out of depression. I need suggestions on how to fight depression and also how to be of help to a depressed person. Please share below.


This isn't really a post it's just me expressing how I'm feeling right now. Thanks for reading anyways ❤️.



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My story of depression is something that I would love to share and how i overcame it. I was just about to talk about some causes for depression

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Pls do share.. I'll love to hear your story. It could probably change someone's life

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This is a really powerful post - so many people talk about depression in an impersonal way, but I felt your frustration, sadness and hopelessness over not being able to help your friend.

I think one of the best ways to help someone with depression - is to let them know that you're there. That is so important. To let them know that they're not alone, but that even if its just a phone call and your care over the lines (or even text) that you want to help - even if you're not feeling like you're good at it

Then I think, asking them to explain as best as they can - the things that are hurting them. sometimes when they're just feeling sad, and they don't talk about it - it starts to be just sad feelings that are overwhelming. but if you can get them to talk about it - sometimes they see there are parts that are things they can actually control. Taking the conversation apart a little at a time and helping them to see how they can control and fight back against the hopelessness (like someone saying that they have no motivation to go outside - encourage them to walk a few times a week anyway. give them a schedule to just start being more active a little at a time)

giving them little ways that they can stop being so powerless, and start being powerful - is a way that you can come alongside them to change parts of their situation.

another thing - maybe asking them if you can meet up with them soon - to walk and talk together. to let them see your smile and feel your hug. those things work wonders :)

just a few things that i'd try... not sure if it helps - but at least you can try! and that means something :)

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Thank you so much @dreemsteem

I think you've made a very beautiful suggestion. I'll try to apply these things you've suggested. Making them feel loved sure is the best way to go.

Yeah exactly, she's been locked up inside for a while now.. I'll try to convince her to come take a walk with me, atleast once or twice.

I dunno why I felt so weak regarding helping her out.

But now I've had enough courage to go the extra mile.

Thanks for your suggestion again ❤️

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I know why you felt weak... because you doubted that you had the PERFECT words to say.

and that's what we all fear. "What if I don't have the MAGIC WORDS to say?" hehehe

but what we need to remember is... people don't need perfect. They just need love and understanding and a friend close by

And I know that even though you THINK you weren't able to help her??? just your presence helped! Remember that now - and for next time :)

You have a beautiful heart

and if you do take a walk with her? why not take pictures of where you walk... and share it with @tattoodjay's community for #wednesdaywalk.

It doesn't have to happen on a Wednesday , the walk can happen at any time - just SHARE it on some Wednesday in the future! 😊

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I must commend your post @chincoculbert.

Thanks for putting up this post related to depression. The truth is, depression is inevitable in life — it's part of experiences one will surely encounter in life — that's why it's escapable. I must say that, coping mechanism to ward off depression is what most of us lack. Two persons may experience the same depression, and one may decide to take his or her own life, and the other one may decides to live life and continue striving in spite of it all (hoping things will get better later). That is to say, COPING MECHANISM is paramount, and HOPE is what we should also have (we should vehemently believe that things will get better later, and depression does not last forever). I have experienced same DEPRESSION so many times, and mostly, MONEY💲💰 is what always triggers this depression, but I always give myself Hope and do listen to my friends eveytime I voice out my pain. I always believe that things will soon get better later... @chincoculbert

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“I think one of the best ways to help someone with depression - is to let them know that you're there. That is so important. To let them know that they're not alone, but that even if its just a phone call and your care over the lines (or even text) that you want to help - even if you're not feeling like you're good at it.”

This is another good advice; this would surely make the person feels loved, and the more you give that person attention, showing that you really care and you're there for him or her, the more the person feels loved...

Once the person made known the source of his or her depression, if you're in the position to give a helping hand, then one must surely do, this will absolutely go a long way...

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