A BEST FRIEND IN A MOTHER

I haven't experience motherhood before but I am sure it is one of the greatest feelings in the entire universe. To feel a child grow in your belly and eventually come from you seems like a really amazing experience. Motherhood comes with a lot of sacrifice as well, because it changes one forever. You start living for another set of people, in the most selfless way ever.

Sometimes, when I visualize the kind of mother I want to be, I just smile, because all I see is different shades of beauty. I see myself bringing up my kids with so much love. It is not like I have a ready-made guide and plans for my motherhood journey, but I am aware of some things I would and wouldn't want.

Since this post is all about the things I wouldn't do as a mother, let's get to it. This first one is very funny and that is why I want to start with it. I wouldn't want my kids to crawl with their bare knees. I wouldn't want their knees to get dark because of the time they had to learn to crawl before they could walk. I know this may sound cliché, but then, I want to pay attention to that aspect.

When it comes to correcting them, I do not want to lay my hands on them or raise my voice at time. I would make sure to create an atmosphere of effective communication from the beginning of their lives. I would sure that correcting them doesn't turn to war, and I would definitely not spoil them either. From my experience, being too hard on a child in the name of correcting them can cause a lot of havoc to that child.

They can get too silent or get more stubborn, while some actually turn out fine to be very honest. I just feel like there should be better ways to teach a child than being aggressive. I am aware that kids can be a lot, and that's where I pray God helps me.

I also do not want to keep things from my children. I want to confide in them and also be their gist partner. I don't want them to have any issue and the next thing that will come to their heads is that 'mommy must not hear'. I want them to see me as the first person they talk to about it, no matter how serious it is and I will also try to handle it carefully.

I'll also not want them to be too far away from me as well🥺. For instance, I do not think that I will allow them to go to a boarding school. Of course, it's going to be a decision by both my spouse and myself. But then, personally, I wouldn't want them to be that far away from me. Apart from that, the outside world is really crazy and I wouldn't expose them to it when they are so young, and definitely not without lecturing them about it to a point where I will be rest assured that they will be fine.

At the end of the day, I don't have anything planned out or a map I am planning to follow. I just pray God helps me, and make motherhood as beautiful as I dreamed it to be.

Thanks for reading❤️