Does Society Favour People Who Are Married -
So, there is a time that the society that we are living in was actually peaceful. There was a time that it does not mean anything if you are single or married.
There is nobody that is putting your life under pressure. The singles are enjoying their singlehood and they will surely get married when it's time. The married ones are okay with their family and there is no problem from any quarter.
But all of a sudden, we entered another generation, the Gen Z generation, and a lot of things started falling apart decades ago. The likes of divorce, broken homes, single mothers and many more. On and on, we started moving into divided families and homes.
Then the government started making laws that are home-breaking in nature. And also in a way that you shouldn't even say it out if things are going bad. If you decide to call someone to order or for correction, you can be penalized by the law for it.
Then a time came when people who have no restraint, no level of morality, started making decisions and rules and regulations and penetrating into the executive arm of government, making rules that desecrate the morality and the sanctity of family and marriage. As time goes on, things went from bad to worse. Then the fallout of that kind of a thing was a new generation where being married becomes an achievement.
Being single is signing up for depression. Then you don't even want to be seen as single for a long time. Some people are even desperate to marry and settle down.
Marriage is not a deadline. That you can't marry at a particular age does not mean that the time of your life has ended. If you finish school, you can get a job, then you start making money.
Then everybody is getting interested in knowing your relationship status and if you are getting married or not. It does not really mean that people that are married are better, no. But being in a relationship is a proof that something is actually going on in your life.
There is also a high level of respect for married couples, either the husband or the wife. The singles don't enjoy this respect that the society bestowed upon the married ones. Family also plays a huge role.
The way your family portrays a home is the way you are going to bring it up too. So, in many African families, marriage is not just between two people. It is a family matter and parents want to have their grandchildren too.
And that's another level of pressure and achievements too. There is also social comparison where a family compares their own marriage in terms of the amount of money that was spent on the wedding. They compare it to others that their own were not much.
We live in a very crazy world. Thanks to the likes of TikTok, Instagram and Facebook, there is now a lot of pressure put on singles to measure up to weddings, funds, occasions and enter debt in the process. If you are not careful, you keep asking yourself, am I behind? You are not.
You are just using another person's ideology to run your life. It is a well-known fact that humans want companionship. It is good to have someone that you want to talk with, share experience with, you come home to, you build your future life with.
And this is a very beautiful idea. This kind of relationship can build you up in a healthy way. If you are staying lonely for a long period of time, if you enter any depression at any point in time, you might find it hard to come out of it.
Why? Because there is nobody to help you out of such a situation. But let's assume that you have a family, children or a spouse, someone you can share it with and can tell you, oh, it's going to be a better one or there will be a better day tomorrow. Trust me, you will want to get out of that depression faster.
These are many more what makes marriages to look like an achievement because there is a lot of help inside marriage. Emotional helps are so many. Whenever you are giving birth to new children, the care and the attention that they need and seeing them grow is a joy on its own.
And it's not something that is available to the singles. So when a nurse asks you if you are married or not, there is no need to be pressured. Just tell the person straight up, I am not.
And that will have solved the case.