ENTRY TO W33E1 CONTEST "THEY DON'T NEED ME", IN HIVE LEARNERS COMMUNITY

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Hello Hive Learners, how are you today...?, i hope everyone doing great today and still exciting to start a new week of contest in Hive Learners.

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The 32nd week was very exciting and many participants started to take part and were also excited to take part in the 32nd week's contest. Interesting topics became the main attraction in the last 32 weeks and unfortunately the exciting week has ended. But, this time we will start week 33 and I think there will be a lot of fun among the topics provided in this week 33 and I hope it will add to the fun like the previous weeks. For this reason, this time we will enter the first edition in the 33rd week, as previously announced, the first edition in the 33rd week we will discuss rejection, whether in the field of love, career, or other things. In this first edition I will tell you a rejection that I experienced among many other rejections as well. For more details, let's see my story below...

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Rejection is something that often happens to us, especially to the things we desire and aspire to. Often this rejection happens to us maybe because the thing or person we are aiming for doesn't see us deeper or we don't like them yet. I myself think this is a natural thing because they must have their own clarity or reason for the refusal and as long as they can prove it, for me it is a natural thing.

Rejection will make us a little disappointed because we expect too much of something and we have no other option if we get the rejection. One proverb once said that "Do something even if you don't want it as long as it's something useful, because it's hard when we don't get it, especially when we need it". This proverb is very realistic with what happens in the real world, there is no smooth road to achieve something you want or aspire to, but something that is not needed or not needed will always be achieved without us even realizing it.

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If I tell you about my experience of being rejected in various ways, I definitely won't be able to write because of the many rejections I've had. For example, job refusal and the like, I often experience it but I'm not too sad because I'm ready to accept it, moreover sometimes I don't meet the criteria they ask for and this is a normal thing and we just have to study harder to be accepted and everything will be fine.

When applying for jobs, I usually don't focus on one place, but I keep applying to places that aren't even my criteria. I did that not because of my desire to work there, but as an experience and also to know my limits in the world of work. And in the end, I'm used to this and I won't be afraid to face it anymore, moreover I already know my limits and what aspects I need to improve until the time comes when there is a suitable job for me, I'm ready with all the possibilities.
Things like this are normal, and everyone will definitely get used to this, this will continue to be repeated every year. Maybe for those who have just tried it, they will feel hopeless when they are rejected.

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I've also experienced rejection by my friends. This sometimes makes me have to introspect myself and ask if something is wrong. Sometimes we need friends who are around us and color the days full of laughter. However, making ourselves have many friends is not an easy thing to do, at least they trust and think we are people who behave well towards others. I myself am not an easy person to get along with and for me is a difficult thing to do, especially since I am an introvert. Maybe now I have my own friends and they look good to me, but when I am in another group of friends, I often get rejected, usually because the way I get along is not the same as them or even their group is too negative for me and I myself refuse me to join their social group.

I think the rejection by my friends indicates that our actions or language are not pleasing to their eyes, to avoid this, I usually maintain my attitude even though I am in the circle of my friends who are relatively younger than me, there is nothing wrong with maintaining an attitude, and it does not only apply at certain ages as long as we respect others, then other people will respect and also accept us into their environment.

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And the saddest of all is rejection in love, of course. I've only experienced it a few times and the pain is beyond my other resistances and I think everyone will agree on this. In terms of love, we often get rejected for various reasons such as being stuck in the circle of friendship, and the like. This also happened to me when I was still in school and it was my first time dealing with love problems. At that time I got a rejection from a very beautiful girl in my class and even at my school, one thing I didn't know at that time was that I had to compete with dozens of boys in my school. My mistake was to think I was worthy and think that she would accept me easily, and I was not a worthy rival considering the girl I love has a good reputation in my school and other schools. Of course this made me rejected outright, not me, those who are smart, handsome, and also have the same reputation as her may not necessarily have it easily.

Maybe at that time I felt a little sad because every time I saw him at school, I always remembered the times she rejected me, so that for a long time I finally forgot about it and when I changed schools I even saw another girl who was like her and from there I believed that not only is she a person worth fighting for but out there are thousands of girls who have looks and achievements that even exceed her and made me completely forget her, until she really remembered me when we had a reunion a few months ago. I'm sure, if it happened again this time, then the rejection would lead to acceptance, but that is no longer needed now.

From all that stories, I remember one of the sayings once said, "Imitate a thief, when he finds one closed door he will look for another open door for him", meaning when we we can't feel what we aspire and want, then rest assured there will be thousands of other places or people who want us as long as we are willing to look for it.

Special thanks to :

@hive-learners
@bruno-kema