LOH CONTEST #84: POSITIONS, EXPECTATIONS & EFFECTS.
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For a very long time, I always tried to draw an explanation from my behavior and that of others. I always believed that our family played a big role in how we turned out to be one way or another. Today, I am given the opportunity by the Ladies Of Hive community to discuss on this topic.
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I am an only child and as such the expectations are not set to low standards. My mom never made me feel like she expects the world from me but society has a way of making it seem like nothing you ever do is good enough.
I've received comments in passing about how I should do things this way or that because...I'm the only child. According to them, there were certain things I couldn't do no matter if it's within my age range.
EXPECTATIONS & RESPONSIBILITIES
Growing up with just a parent was quite difficult. Being the only child growing up made it worse because I had to be more mature and do things a certain way to keep the house standing when mom wasn't there.
I remember how I'd always plan my day...
Get back from school at 3pm
Take off my uniform and immediately fill the house with water
Wash uniform and do the dishes
Make dinner
Do assignments
Clean the house
Of course, I was always multitasking to meet up with time. Mom always got home by 5pm and it was always a joy to me whenever she'd meet the meal ready. Then we'd sit and enjoy our Soap Operas. Since Junior high...
POSITION & CONTRIBUTION
I feel my position as the only child has affected me more in a good way than bad. It has hardly hindered me except in the terms of chores where I'm just one person with two hands.
It made me think ahead on most days and I believe planning stemmed from a young age because It was always a race against time. Thankfully, my school was just a three minutes walk away from my house.
Till now, I'm still racing, trying to come up with new ideas and new tactics for survival in my house. I don't know when it happened, but I stopped looking to my mom and she started looking to me. She'd always want my advice on something, we'd always discuss future plans and most times, she's always pushing the responsibility of a decision on me. I am both the manager of our home and finances because I always demand a certain amount from profit to save. I've also educated her once on how to divide and subtract (I think this might have been my mistake...LOL).
I think this is what forced out my win mindset because I just couldn't fail my mother. Today, I have just 16 hours in a day and I still find myself rushing to meet up with task, making sure they are done to satisfaction.
This is also as a result of who and what I represent in my family. The saying, charity begins at home has never been more true.
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It has been a great challenge being an only child, with great learning for your future life @deraaa
You really learnt to be mature from a young age. I'm sure sometimes you felt lonely and wished you had a sister or brother but thank God your Mum was all that to you. Remain strong dear.💪
Ser hija única es mayor la exigencia las expectativas de los padres van dirigida a ti éxitos en el concurso
charity begins at home all our goods deeds are ways to begins from our various homes.
Nice write up ✍️
Thanks for sharing 🌹.
Hello @deraaa. It sounds as though being an only child is similar to being the first born. You are naturally expected to learn to be a leader at a young age so you can help direct the younger siblings. However, in your case as probably in other only child scenarios, you learn to be self-sufficient because you don't have any other sibling around.
I've had friends who actually told me that being an only child was good for monetary purposes....you don't have to share. However, it was a bit lonely. I think this is true if there are no cousins or other same age relatives who live close.
It was nice to read about just you and mom. I've had friends tell me that their mom is their best friend because they had no siblings. But, the fact that your mom came to depend upon you at some point shows she has confidence in and respect for you.
I love this. Thanks for sharing. Have a good rest of your week.
What a great point, I am the oldest of three and as I was reading this post from @deraaa I was thinking to myself, uhuh yep did that oh did that too!
Well, one thing I know is that your mum is proud of you. You have been a rock right from when you were a child.
I loved reading this and although I am the eldest, there were many similarities in what you did as an only child to what I did as an eldest child.
This is a wonderful insight into you childhood @deraaa :)
Oh yes I did pop in via dreemport!
I admire you for growing up so well. Your mom must be so proud of you for who you are and what you are becoming.❤
I would say dera, God loves your mom that's why He has bestowed her with duch a loving and caring daughter. First or only child are not that responsible always. Sometimes, they are the spoiled ones. You proved yourself best and I wish you more powers to be even better.
Thanks for the invite
Oops, being an only child makes you want to do things as perfect as you can, you always have that obligation, I say this because I was an only child until a certain age and I had to assume many responsibilities that I had to learn to face because my parents both worked, that's why I identify with your post, I loved reading it, greetings!
I think nature has that figured out. You just find out at some point in your life that you are now responsible for your parents and no longer the other way round.
It's not easy being an only child with just a parent. You have to be both a child and a partner to your parent. You seem to have done a really good job at both and I really admire how helpful you've been to your mum and still is. I wish you all the best and I hope life smiles on you and softens up every hard part.
I bet, that becoming the only child can be so hard especially when it comes to doing tasks in the house, running errands and having no siblings to run around within the house on who to do the washing today or tomorrow 😂 but the joy there is you get to enjoy all goodies from parents.
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I wonder what it means to be an only child, must have been hard but at the same time cute 💕💕💕🥺
You took on a lot of responsibility for your age as an only child in your home, my friend 🤗 It seems that it has contributed to your strength of character over the years. I always feel like there are insufficient hours in the day to get everything done, so I burn the candle often hehe. I hope you are managing to get some rest and sleep now that the exams are over for you. Good luck in the LOH contest. I found your post in Dreemport this evening. !LUV !ALIVE
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The young lady I married was an only child as well @deraaa, but her circumstances were way different from yours in the way she was brought up. She had both parents, and they were super strict with her growing up until later when they both worked.
Excellent summary of growing up. Yet I'm getting the impression it hasn't changed for you yet. And you did learn to be more mature and responsible that a lot of people in your situation.
Oh, and teaching her how to do math is a good thing even though it seems weird hahahahaha!
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i only can imagine how it is to grow up without sister or brother, i think it can be lonely at some times. and as i read your story, my feeling get's stronger that my sis and i were very lucky that our mother was an stay at home mom, she was always there, accept the times she was hospitalized due to her COPD
An only child? I can only imagine how you coped all those years.
I love the thought of siblings, so I always imagine how those without one feel.
And the major responsibilities facing you? Hmm, I can only wish you more strength to pull through all and you are already doing well so far with your explanation.