I Didn't Come to You For This

I was watching a clip by Andrew Huberman on sleep and the next recommended video was surprisingly a criticism on him and his dating life. It turns out he's quite the player, or at least going by the revelation by the New York Times journalist. The problem to me was the push to question his integrity and slander him by going into his personal life is quite from the playbook of most of us, and especially used in the socio-political space as a tool.

We live and learn everyday as humans, but I personally think one of the things that stands out for us is that everyone is ultimately flawed in a sense. Some of us put up a mask, while for some others there is a deliberate effort to address those flaws. Nonetheless we live in interesting times where the message is sometimes passed on the shortcomings of the messenger.

My point here is that since we all have shortcomings we probably are better off not discarding the message completely for a few flaws. Sure I believe there are certain standards people who are looked up to should hold, but we shouldn't deliberately scrutinize their lives for flaws just so that we could discredit the entire message. Does integrity matter? It certainly does. Yet integrity and competence should be placed and laced together on a case by case basis in my view.

I probably will have skepticism taking relationship advice from someone who has multiple divorces, yet there is something to learn even from those circumstances. On the other hand I'll be all too glad to take financial advice from the same person if they were financially successful. Sometimes we go in search of the wrong lessons from the right teachers. It is quite obvious even from a productivity standpoint that specialization has made the World a better place. If even economics advises against being a jack of all trades, why then do we love the idea of perfect human beings?