Less Expectations. More Surprises
In our life we have a lot of things kept in anticipation and expectations. And that could lead us to feelings of sadness and the disappointment. Often they say that expectations are kind of an enemy of our own happiness.
We often take things for granted when we expect things to go our own way. And I have realized that we tend to surprise ourselves with the way things go when we least expect them.
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So let's discuss how not expecting gives us more surprises and happiness.
You expect less, Disappoint less
You may find that you want to be rich? you want to have happy family without doing a thing. You want happy relationships. You want happy people in life. But that does not work. Everything goes to the sync.
Does that disappoint you? It would to all of us. I think being disappointed in our everyday life can be difficult. So we choose what to expect and what not to as we move ahead as well. Expect less and start seeing the change.
You expect less, Universe Work for You
Universe is always working for us and against us in a way or another. And when we expect too much from the universe, it creates rubber like stretch effect. And universe would stretch some of our plans so long and expect us to let go.
When we let go we realize that universe would let us find some of the different outcome for our effort. This has been pretty much the case for most of the time with the expectations in our everyday life too. See if universe helps us or breaks us as well.
You expect less, You Let Go
Biggest lesson you should be learning out of the expectations and the disappointment is the ability to let go in our life. Your ability to hold onto things can be bad too. You would learn many good lessons from those experiences. You learn how not letting go of things controlled you.
You would realize that things which you chase often control you in grand scheme of things. Let them go and see what happens to you there. Like you want to be rich but don't want to work for it? Start working on small things and wait for your turn to be rich. It will happen. When? How? Well let the universe figure it out.
You expect less, You Get Control of Life
You noticed that some of the times letting kids go on their own also gives you power that you are not having to micro manage them? You would have more control when you forget that you own something. I know it's hard to picture this but yes control works like that.
You get control when you let go of the mindset of being in one. Your mindset then takes over the things only that are in your hands. This way imaginary control over situations, outcomes just vanish.
When we are living the life of the expectations, a lot of things happen but those things happen randomly. And we seem to lose control over what we have. And so in order to change that for surprises or for happiness, we have to expect less.
Do you expect less? Or do you prefer to think through everything?