Decieved and Betrayed; Journey to adulthood

As a little girl, I couldn't wait to be an adult.
I watched those grown ups as they go about, doing whatever they wanted, eating what ever they liked and wearing whatever they felt like, and no one stopped them. My little brain back then felt like that was the best thing for me since I would finally be free.

But, look at me today.
I am an adult.
I eat whatever I feel like eating,
I wear whatever I like.
I dress up and go to wherever I feel like, no one stops me.

But, is this what I really wanted?
No one ever told me that being an adult has alot to do with more than just freedom.
No one ever told me that to enjoy those freedoms that I must pay a very huge prize, no one ever told me that as an adult, full responsibility is really needed, how come no one ever talked about the struggles, hustle and tuzzle it takes to be an adult.
How come no one ever told me that to eat where ever you want you would have to work hard for it
No one ever told me that as an adult that if I don't work there would be no food for me to eat talk more of wearing whatever I want.

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Wow!
Why do I feel so decieved and betrayed, why do I feel like the generation before me set me up on this adulthood something.
Why do I feel like this is a whole something different from what I saw them doing. Come on, I am supposed to be free but my life feel more trapped than it has ever been. I am supposed to eat and jollying but suddenly I am consious of my weight, I don't eat much because I don't want to be fat (this was never my problem back then 😔)

Talking about wearing anything I want, back then my image of the right dresses were cute pink gowns and shoes but suddenly they are outdated and I suddenly want to wear some designers that cost a fortune. Wow! Too many surprises with this grown up thing.

Don't even say anything about going to anywhere I want to. I am suddenly uncertain about everything. Would I mingle well, is my dressing proper, what if others show up in more classy dresses and hair. And at the end of the day I'm locked behind my own doors. Still the same doors the little girl from yesterday really want to run out of.

Well after much thought i finally concluded that being an adult has a lot to do with more than just age, being an adult has more to do with consistency, hardwork and commitment. Because your age might be forcing you to be an adult but you just keep pulling yourself back.

Being an adult means working hard, it means struggling, it means pursuing your dreams even when it seems you have hit a dead end. It means not giving up.

So, are you really an adult?



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Well said here and I think it’s great that you recognize these things. Sadly not everyone does and thinks the world is out to get them. It’s a shame, really. Adulthood is brutal and it’s very difficult but it’s also incredibly rewarding in so many ways. Once you have children you will step back and appreciate so many things. Seeing the world through their eyes and the wonder of it makes everything worth it in the end. The stressful nights, misery and all of it is worth it to try and raise a child in what you feel is the right path.

I know a lot of adults that say don’t grow up because being a kid is the best years of your life. It’s very true in many ways but it’s how we act as an adult for the kids that’s the most important aspect of it all. I’m not perfect and I make a lot of mistakes but I try to do the best I can for my son so that he learns important lessons from me, in hopes that he has different challenges than I did.

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Wow

Then I guess being a parent is another while phase of adulthood.

Thanks for your kind words, I really appreciate

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Well, unless this is fiction, I don't know where you grew up or how, but looks like you have not been prepared to face * life*. People nowadays want everything for free, without working for it. We live in the era of entitlement. Teaching kids how to take responsibility, how to work for what they want or how things work in life should be a priority. I'm sorry you face reality like this, but the sooner you acknowledge what adulthood is, the better.

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