Forgive Enemies ?


Hello Learners,

The trick to dealing with enemies is not to worry about them years after they're gone. You'll only be irritated by them if you keep memories. Instead, forgive them quickly so they're no longer an annoyance. Everyone struggles with forgiving. When we're harmed, we desire revenge, not forgiveness. Don't be tempted by revenge. By holding a resentment for so long, you let someone else's actions define you and your happiness. Instead of letting them rule your emotions, forgive them. They may have thought they were being clever by taking advantage of your kindness at first, but they probably realized it was wrong and apologized instead of trying to play innocent all these years later with an apology that sounded more like an admission (which is exactly why few people tend to bother apologizing much).

Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much. ~ Oscar Wilde


Try to be impartial when dealing with business associates

When it comes to dealing with business associates, try to be impartial. Do not let your feelings about the person affect how you deal with their actions. Be honest with yourself about whether or not you are being impartial by allowing yourself to focus on the positive aspects of the person as well as the negative ones. If you can maintain your objectivity, you will be in a much better position to make better decisions about how to approach your business dealings with that person. If someone does something to you that hurts you or disappoints you, try to resist the urge to make them pay for it with your negative feelings towards them. There is no reason to let their actions define who you are because they are not the person that you really are. Conversely, you do not have to become the person that they are.


Understand that not everyone will treat you fairly

It is important to understand that not everyone is going to treat you fairly. Some people might be kind to you and treat you respectfully for a time, but for one reason or another, they might eventually treat you in a way that hurts your feelings. In those cases, instead of looking to them as the bad guys who don’t know any better, you can look to yourself for what was happening that made you feel that way. For example, a business associate might begin to treat you poorly one day, but you can remind yourself that they were not treating you that way the day before. At that point, they were treating you the way you were treating yourself. Recognize this, apologize to yourself for it, and change the way you are treating yourself so that the way that you are treating yourself becomes the way that others treat you.


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