Valentines day surprise! How do I know I'm in love?
Tuesday, 14th of February 2023 [46]
Valentines, hey? Love them or hate them, the world-wide celebrations will prevail! I personally am somewhere in the middle of both. Same with birthday celbrations, xmas celebrations and any other mass and commercialised celebrations. I mean... do you need a date in a calendar to buy a gift for a loved ones?
My ex-husband would make a big deal out of all of these. Valentines, Women's Day, Anniversaries, Birthdays, Xmas'es. I could always expect a big bunch of flowers and/or overly expensive gifts for either of these occassions.
When I would come home from work and wanted to hug him though, I'd hear:
'Not now, my heands are dirty'
Or any other other excuse.
'Come, cuddle up on the sofa' I'd ask another day.
'Not now, I'm busy doing ...'
So on fb we would be this perfect couple. Everyone would go ohhh, ahhh, you're so in love, while in real life the intimacy would pretty much not exist. Unless you call sex intimacy, cause I don't. That's what comes out of intimacy.
My next long-term partner was the total opposite of my ex-husband in this area. He'd bluntly ignore ALL of those celebrations. Until the point he once forgot about my birthday! I was in the right mood when it happened. I don't need a big celebrations and expensive gifts, but it's nice when your partner remembers your birthday and just gives you a kiss first thing in the morning with a 'Happy Birthday'.
He would often just buy me things he knew I needed or things that would make me happy on any random day of the year. I absolutely loved it about him,
Where do I stand in all of this?
I guess, right in the middle - like with everything else. I'm like Switzerland in all I do. I don't take sides. I'm neutral.
There are not many things that I hate in this life. Hate is a really strong word, which I avoid using at all cost. If there was one thing that is close to this desciption it is POLITICS. Politicians can say so many words with no essence at all. They give you the answer which makes you more confused than you were before asking the questions. Politics also split the communities into sides.
You have to be left or right, black or white, while there are so many angles and colours in between the two.
So I'm Switzerland. I'm right in the middle:
- It's nice to celebrate LOVE, but does it have to be on a specific day?
- I love you, but I don't have a Valentines card for you. Does it mean I love you less?
- I have 0 money on my account, but I remember it's your birthday, so I will do something special for you.
This kind of neutral.
That takes me to the topic of this week's #ladiesofhive community contest. How do I know I'm in love? What are the signs?
Well, I must say I have been one 'lucky' girl. I have been blessed with being #inlove many times in my life. I can recognise myself being in love almost instantly.
First of all, it's the vibe. My witchy gut is never wrong. It's the feeling I can not describe, but I will sure try.
One sure sign is that I want to be around this person a lot more than any other people. This comes from the person who's favourite person to be around is No 1 - myself. I'm not really a people's person. I guess that's the introverted side of me, which usually disappears when I know and like/love people around me.
Secondly, I think about them just before I fall asleep. Ever since I was a child, I created the habit of imagining the stories in my head, just before I fell asleep. It was a protection mechanism. Otherwise I'd be laying in bed, worrying of what could happen when my dad comes home drank again. So I would imagine nice scenarios, where I am happy, rich and apprecialted/loved.
Only later on in life, once I read many wise books I realised, that unconsciously I tapped into the magnificent art of creation. So many of those fantasies came true years later!
Thirdly, I wake up unusually early without any alarms or a reason that I can think of. Usually, I set 3-5 alarms to get up for anything. Sleep is my favourite thing in the world and I can sleep much more than anyone I know (apart from my mum).
All that said - the above things will apply when I'm in love with anyone and anything. Cause I'm a lover. I fall in love easily. In people, in general, but also with things, experiences, animals, sometimes even with life itself. The latter I experienced for a brief few months towards the end of last year and now it seems I'm out of love again. I'm a bit sad, a bit frustrated and at times indifferent.
Hence why I didn't really expect this Valentines day to be any special this year, but sometimes life has surprises for us.
This morning I barely got out of bed, even though I slept since 7:20pm last night. I had 10.5 hours of sleep by the time my alarms went off and still, I didn't want to get up. I dreamt of sleeping forever again. Sure sign that I'm out of love again. I wanna avoid reality by sleeping.
However, a sneaky smile showed up on my face when I arrived at my desk at work today. How could I not smile? A tulip, baby Yoga and chocolates! Who wouldn't smile seeing this?
There was also a red marker and a knife! So a murder mystery started... who wants me to kill myself on a Valentines Day? 😂😂😂
Just kidding. Of course, the thoughtful person, who left me the gift, used the knife to cut the flower, so it fits the coffee cup - the only thing they could find for a flower. I knew who it was, but still, I walked around my foundry asking who gave me flowers and who owns the knife 😉
One of those things would be enough to make me smile. Just a little thing to say they thought of me on the love day. To show me that they care.
Once I arrived home, I also found another gift. This time from momma nature.
The weekend before I took half of Saturday watering and fertilising my orchids. I saw a little thing that looked like it could be a flower spike. Then last weekend I was susprised to see that this little 'thing' turned into a spike with 4 buds and I was really shocked how quickly this happened. In the past couple years a few 'things' like this totally aborted and I removed them all dried up at the last watering.
Today I almost missed it, but suddenly I remembered and spike, turned on the light in my living room and voila! All 4 flowers are here to show me their love on the Valentines Day 😍😍
I'm really, really happy to see this particular orchid (Coelogyne Intermidiate) in bloom. Mainly because it hasn't bloomed for a few years and also because I have a draft about her and I was hoping to update it with the most current flowers. I hope the flowers will still be fresh for more pictures in a daylight on Friday :)
Before I go, I want to give you a sneaky Valentines gift. If you happen to read this part, leave the comment with 'blue' code-world in it. I want to give 3 units of SBI (1 each) to those who read till the end. If there are more than 3 takers, I will give to first 3 people this week and follow up with more next week, once my Hive stash grows a little more again. I have found out about SBI Units from Alexanrd @stdd and I think it's a brilliant way of sharing the blessings with the fellow Hivers.
Until next time 💙
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Lovely post 💙 not a big fan of this day but I got a gift from mummy nature too 😉 not that one about I have posted today but another today and it's a purple blue new flower!
I don't know what it's the blue code, anyway it's ok Happy Valentine's Day 😘
These are best kind of gifts! I saw your succulent this morning at work, from my other account, but seeing you here reminded me I wanted to read about it!
You got the blue code well! I’m sending you SBI unit right now. You can check your units and their value in your peakd wallet under ‘other’. The more units you have, the faster the amount accumulates and you’ll receive regular upvotes from HBI!
Happy Valentines day sweetie 😘💙
Ohh thanks a lot!!! 🤗🤗
I haven’t seen it yet before closing my laptop, but hopefully it will reflect tomorrow 💙
I have checked now and I just see that SBI but an error message: "Error fetching Hive SBI details, please try again in a few moments"
Ahh, so it doesn't show that you have 1 Unit? It was the first time I tried sponsoring and it took Hive from my wallet, so I assume it will update eventually, but I won't send anymore, until I see yours arrived 😉 Maybe I did something wrong. I’ll read some more about it later 💙
Ok, I will check it later and let you know 😉
That would be cool, thank you 😘💙
Still same message dear Moni, I will check it time to time, if that is useful for you...
I see the same when I look at your wallet. Also no increase in mine’s. I sent them another message today 💙
Ok 💙
It’s in your wallet now 😁
Let me check, one sec... yeah @fantagira updated! It's there 🤗🙏💙 Thanks a lot! It seems it takes some time that's all. Happy Thursday my friend!
I think my extra message helped 😉
With only one Unit it will take a while before there is enough collected for a vote, but there are many SBI giveaways around, so hopefully you can collect more with time 💙
Ok now I know what this is so easy to see if there any chance to get more... I had no idea because it is placed in "others" in the wallet, unknown territory for me until now so thanks again 😊👍💙
Happy to help sis! I learned about it from Alexandr (mentioned him in my article). He runs his gratitude giveaways regularly and that’s how I received my first Unit. It’s a very interesting project. Every little thing helps with the votes, right? 😁💙
Interesting to know... 😉 I'm learning new things, thanks! I will keep an eye 😎
I am probably a little on the non-Valentines day side of the fence. For me it is just too commercialised and as such loses the meaning. Too me, any day can be special and I prefer to surprise my gal when it feels right!
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Absolutely! These days everything is about money. Spend, spend, spend. I don’t like this part either. Have an amazing day nonetheless 💙
I don't think anyone should feel blue about not getting a Valentines Day gift -- as long as you know you are loved, and it is shown in different ways, then that's it.
I had a boyfriend once who wouldn't hold my hand in public. I should have known then. I knew he loved me but I wanted a bit more affection than that. That was my need, and in that way and others he couldn't fulfil it. HE did get me Valentines cards though - so who knows. Definitely more complex than love me/love me not.
Lots of love to you on every day of the year!
Oh the outside view of a relationship, been there. Little do people think what looks perfect isn't perfect!!
I'm kind of a believer in it matters everyday not just one particular day. Not saying you shouldn't add extra sauce on special occasions you should if you can.
That was a cute assortment on your desk. May the force stay strong with you, hehe. Take care and get more rest 💙 💙
Same here Bob. Every day little gestures speak volumes.
I’m in bed already, but tomorrow after work I’ll send you SBI unit 😍💙
Happy Valentines 💌
Sleep well dear Happy Valentine's day!! Thanks for the advance gifts. Good Night 💤
I am the type of lover who is not vocal nor fond of expressing my love through surprises or gifts. Yet do not underestimate my love, it is just I am not expressive.
Thus, I am glad that my partner accepted this attitude of mine and between us, it was he who usually greeted me on all occasions.
Yet, he also not the type of lover who doesn't wait for an occasion if he wanted to buy me a gifts.
There are different types of love languages, we just need to know our partner in order to understand them and for us not to get mad and sulk 😬🤣.
Happy hearts day Sis!
That’s very true, sis. Many love language’s indeed. Hope your !love day was good too 😘💙
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Love is just good in the beginning I must say, but makes you feel 'blue' in the long run 😂😂..
It’s more exciting in ‘puppy love’ stage for sure, but it can be good for many years 🥰
Ohhh the Coelogyne! I never had one.
Pity its not... blue :p
Speaking of blue! There will be some blue 😍I’ll write it at the weekend hopefully 🤞 💙💙💙
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I ❤️ you, Switzerland :) hehehe! It's amazing how we are all the same yet different, say in expressing our feelings to another. Your office mate is so sweet, whoever it is that gave you those gifts. It's the thought that counts hehe!
Lovely blooms, your orchid has given you. And they came right on time too!
Happy Valentines !LADY 😍
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Aww 🥰 Thank you so much sis! Yes, many love language’s, like Lhes said too. Once we learn them all, we can be with anyone 😁
Love you too !QUEEN 😘
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Interesting that my latest is about Blue Valentine :D :D This only shows how nature never fails to disappoint. It just loves unconditionally. All we have to do is look and observe and nature's love will reveal itself. Toss me some chocolates please :D :D
So true!
Which one of them is your favourite Lee?
What a nice little surprise 🥰
Happy Valentine's Day Fantagira.♥️
It was lovely. Flower still alive today. Thank you and hopefully yours was great too 💙
Oh dear Monika, You wrote it so correctly that it was as if I wrote this beautiful post, not you.
If someone loves you, don't need or want unnecessarily expensive gifts only on certain days. But that doesn't mean, don't want it at all. If love is to be shown only on 'special occasions', would that be so called love? I don't think so...
If it's to be called love, I don't want it. It is absolutely way better to have nothing at all rather than half of it. I think I'm a 'if I can't have at all I don't want it' kinda woman when it comes to love. 😂🖤
Love can be shown in so many ways, that I paper card with pre-printed message sounds like a very low effort way of showing it.
But I get it. I was once young and I too picked and received those cards, thinking that’s how we odd to show love.
These days presence is worth so much more to me. Gifts are nice too, but if it has to be on a specific day, it puts a pressure of finding ‘the right thing’ and sometimes the right thing just doesn’t show up until a day after birthday 🤷🏻♀️
Anyway… I better go before I write another article in the comments 😂
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I cannot say I didn't receive or give different kinds of love but among all of them, the presence is holding its finger up to say something. I do not mean the physical presence, what I tried to write is mental presence. At some point, of course, physical presence is important too but it means nothing by itself for some... And I am one of that some 😂
You are right 😁 this topic can make us write a whole mouthful article on comments LOL
Take care🖤
I know what you mean by presence. That’s the most important thing 💙