LOH CONTEST #85 - HOW DO YOU HANDLE CORRECTION OR CRITICISMS FROM OTHER PEOPLE?

In life, correction is very important. Great Disaster when we neglect correction.

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WHO DO WE CORRECT OR CRITICISE
Family members, husbands, wives, children, friends, loved ones, young girls and boys, colleagues, people you say hello to on your way to work and on your way back from work, and Friendly neighbours and their children.
HOW DO YOU HANDLE CORRECTION
Correction should always be in love.
My case study is a family member my husband's nephew 21year old, lavishly spending money he can't give an account of, involving himself in dirty habits and businesses. He never likes to come home only when he wants huge money for one project or the other.
Presently the state and federal universities in my country Nigeria, are on strike. This has made him a homeboy.
Everyone now knows and sees the kind of lifestyle he has. Too bad and unbelievably
This has made him always look for money and ask family members for money.
My husband and I has a good relationship with him before he got admission into the university and my husband lived with his Mother before he moved to Lagos state where we live now. The young boy is drifting away for reasons best known to him and needs close supervision. His father said he would skip a year in the university for his actions and he would work for the money himself to pay his school fees before he goes back to school.
This made my husband invite the boy to work in his water bottling company where he would be responsible for his activities and be supervised on how he runs it. He lives in the staff quarters and comes home on his off days to my house where we chat together like we always do before he went to the university, that's one of the reasons his parent granted our request for him to come over to Lagos from Owerri Imo states where he resides.
My discussion with him is "Direct" and "Open" with no Criticism. He opened up to me, now I know the cause of his attitude and actions. "He said, my friend from secondary school who gain admission to the same university all because I asked her to was deceived and raped when we were in 100 level. She came to the school because of him now she has left the school and he wasn't able to do anything but with the lifestyle he choose now he became a bad boy and a dangerous man in school. Justices have been served
for the gang that carried out that action, he made them report themselves to the school authorities. Now his friend was raped, she left the school, he wasn't able to protect, her family doesn't want him around their daughter, he is now a bad boy and whenever he smokes he forgets but as soon as the smoke effect is gone he remembers again that makes him sad and he continues to smoke.
"Persistent" I always choose the right words when I speak with him I encourage him to be a better person, forgive himself and understand that no one has rejected him, they aren't happy with what he has turned himself into. They all wish he becomes a better person. I see him healing gradually, taking responsibility and being accountable for all he does at work.
Correction is essential but never easy.
HOW DO YOU HANDLE CRITICISM
My husband's nephew said everyone in the family has rejected him and that I and my husband are the only ones still showing him love and concern even when he told me the things he did, my "Calm" response was enough for him to change.
I "encouraged" him to put aside all forms of persecution he receives from his family and the people around him.

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No one is perfect, I encourage him to think about his "strength" of being a good boy and a great person in future and his "weakness" now everyone sees him and talks bad about him, he should be open-minded to be able to understand the difference, that would help him approach all criticisms he receives.
He should show "gratitude" to everyone that shows concern although it may hurt but understand their motives and thank them.
A sincere "apology" to his parent and family is a clear indication that he can take responsibility.
He says, "my father always shouting whenever he tries to correct me." I "suggest" and I tell him to detach the two words SHOUTING - CORRECTION and focus on the useful correction.

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My happy boy has turned himself into a sadist but I would always tell him whenever I see him looking sad and lonely, "a smile will create a positive feeling and lighten the situation" Please put a smile on your face.
Change is the only constant thing I know, that's what I believe and hope for my husband's nephew
I hope I was able to share how I handle correction or criticism from other people.
Thanks for reading.
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This is my entry to The ladies of hive community contest #85