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Raising children requires wisdom and insight from above. It is only God that can intervene in nursing them to the right path.
So, my dream child-raising would never include the following points highlighted below 👇👇

• Choosing a Career and forcing a passion on them.

Choosing a career for my children is what I would never include in raising my children. I'll never force any of my children to conform to societal norms or expectations. I want my children to feel free to be themselves and pursue their careers and passions without feeling pressured to fit into a certain frame. When a child is forced to take a career, are we the ones to do the job? I believe in allowing children to explore and discover their own identities, rather than imposing my own beliefs and values upon them. Discovering their talents from a young age and helping them turn that talent into something bigger is what I would do as a parent. I would encourage my children to embrace their individuality, pursue their passions, and celebrate their achievements, no matter how big or small it is. Children should be allowed to choose their careers themselves.

• Physical and Emotional abuse

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My dream child-raising would never include any form of physical or emotional abuse. I believe that children should be raised in a loving and nurturing environment, where they feel safe and supported to explore and grow. Yelling, hitting, or any form of punishment that is meant to intimidate or belittle a child has no place in my dream child-raising. A child raised without any use of magic words can never use it when they are supposed to use it.

I once stayed with a cousin of mine some years back. Every day is one form of abuse to the other, my cousin and her husband usually engage in fights and abuse to the extent it became a daily dose. Their children have become so used to the system of abuse. I had to leave because I was not raised in such a toxic environment and for my sanity and total well-being.

• Negligence

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Negligence of parents has destroyed so many children, rising stars, future leaders, and so on. I am a teacher, and we see and treat cases like negligence each passing day. Some children are neglected, abandoned, and left to suffer and they end up becoming what they shouldn't be.

So, raising my children would never include any form of neglect. I will give my children full attention, guidance, and support to thrive. Neglecting a child can lead to low self-esteem, depression, suicidal attempts, and loneliness. I would try my best to spend quality time with my children, listen to their thoughts and feelings, and provide them with the necessary resources and opportunities to succeed. Every day, I ask my children what they encounter in school, and their challenges, and I proffer solutions immediately.

• Showing extreme love for one over another is what I won't do.

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My dream child-raising would be rooted in love and respect for all my children. I would try to create a loving, nurturing, and supportive environment filled with laughter, and endless love where my children can feel the genuine love I have for them all. I will make sure they are valued and heard, to be their real selves without compromise. My siblings thought our mother loves me more than she does to them and this is a chaos we have not been able to settle since case study of our last girl. I want them to love each other unconditionally and also, to be able to create a strong bond between my children. Every day, I tell them to say "I LOVE YOU" to one another. Why? Trying to build a strong bond between them.

• Inculcating fear, pressure, and manipulation.

I would also never use fear as a means of discipline. I believe that discipline should be about teaching children right from wrong, rather than instilling fear or obedience through threats, manipulation, or intimidation, such as yelling, berating, or using physical force, which can damage a child's sense of security and self-worth. My children must have a sense of trust in me. I would avoid putting pressure on my children to meet up with unnecessary expectations.

Every child is unique in one way or another and has their strengths and weaknesses. Mounting pressure because someone else's child is doing this can create anxiety, self-doubt, depression, and low self-esteem. Some children are manipulated by their parents to go into rituals or go the extra mile to bring in money. All they want from their children is money and material things. Leaving the right to inculcate good things in them. They have sold their birthright for something else.

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My submission to Hivenaija weekly prompt 37.

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