The aftermath of premarital sex among the youths. Loh contest #173
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Nowadays, premarital sex is rampant among young people. What if you got pregnant, and encountered rude in-laws with a partner who is incapable of standing by himself or standing up for you? Would you rather endure their maltreatment, or walk out on your relationship and raise your child alone? Why?
Firstly, I would like to give meaning to premarital sex.
What is premarital sex? According to the Oxford Dictionary, it is sexual intercourse between two unmarried people. That is before
Premarital sex is now more common among the youth nowadays than it was before. It is a thing of shame that has resulted in more single mothers roaming about especially the young ones.
Why is it now common?
The female genders are too lazy and not too calculative to know what's good for them, they are tempted by material things because they want to belong automatically. So, slaying involves being intimate with the opposite gender without looking at the aftermath. It has now become something normal when young girls are into hook-ups, they don't care what the outcome will be anymore.
In my area, it is now a thing of Shame seeing a teenager with a baby and no father. Why? They have been manipulated. Some of these teenagers fend for themselves, some have no parental care while some lack home training. They end up getting pregnant as a result of premarital sex to get money or material things.
a lady who is of marriageable age raising a baby alone just because there has been a mistake that she ought to consider before going into the relationship. Nobody has the right to judge anyone but it seems so common these days. Why not look at the aftermath of what you are enjoying now? Why not keep your legs closed? Why not think twice before you jump?
A cousin sister of mine was in this mess a year ago. We all kicked against her going into a relationship with David but she ignored us. David is not from a responsible family, the father is a drug addict and the mother is not educated. David is the first son of six children. The inquiry we made gave us a warning that a gentle girl like my sister should not be found in that kind of family. Little did we know that she was already pregnant out of wedlock. So hurtful!
My Uncle was angry and sent my cousin to David's house. She was three months gone at that time. Hmmm! Beating upon beating from David's younger ones, insults and abuse from the mother-in-law, and lots more but David could not defend her. She came home to report but was sent back as a result of her disobedience.
Could she endure the maltreatment?, No
She couldn't bear the pain and suffering after she had given birth, the abuse from the in-law was so much that I had to intervene. I called her and tried to let her know that the deed has been done, so for this reason, walking out on the relationship and raising her child alone may be the best option in this situation.
She needs to prioritize her well-being and that of her child. She has a child to take care of. Enduring maltreatment from rude in-laws and a partner who is incapable of standing up for her can hurt her mental health, lead to depression, and cause untimely death.
My advice to the young girls/ ladies
Walk out of a toxic relationship and raise your child alone
Even though raising a child alone may bring about challenges, it is advisable to remember that you are strong and capable of providing a loving environment for your child. However, it is better to be in a situation where you can rise, pick yourself up again and where your child can grow up in a positive and loving environment, rather than staying in a toxic and abusive relationship for the sake of what people would say.
It is better to stay alone, raise your child, and think about your next move so that you won't fall victim again.
I'm not judging anyone with my write up but going into premarital sex without thinking about the consequences can be the worst mistake in one's life.
Premarital sex is more common among the youth nowadays than it was before as a result of negligence, greed, disobedience, and lots more. Virgins are no more, it is not a thing of value anymore because it has been traded for money and material things.
*It is better to leave than to die in a toxic relationship
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This is my submission to Ladies of Hive weekly prompt #173
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Any relationship that is toxic shouldn’t be ignored, cause it more like a death pill the more you keep on talking it the more the risk.
Thanks for the advice you have give
Thanks for sharing.
Although some of your views are a bit insulting to women, you have a point and I understand it...some facts are truly hurtful...
Not with this one, though.
Let's not generalize it...if there is something to blame, I guess it's love... Not all are materialistic. Some ladies are just blinded by their feelings. Some tend to be ignorant despite the hurtful fact. Ladies are just weak, but men take advantage of it. However, when circumstances happen, it's not just the woman's will, but both of the involved parties...young people seem wild and free, so they tend not to care about the aftermath...there are safety measures though not to get pregnant.. That is another thing that young people should take into account before engaging in premarital sex... We can't avoid that thing. But we can avoid the worst circumstances...
But then you are right. If that really happens, it's better to raise your child alone than stay longer in a toxic relationship that can only harm both you and your child.
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That was why I said, I was not trying to judge anyone because I didn't want to be biased in my judgment.
But it is better to walk out in peace than to stay with an incapable man who can't stand up for you.
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Hey there!
These are some valuable points, indeed.
Teenage pregnancy is horrible on so many levels, and having to deal with other elements, such as the family of the partner, can be traumatic.
Thanks for sharing:)
Thank you so much for the comment👍👍
You're very welcome:)
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Some parental advice on considering the consequences and pre-sex preventative advice could go a long way on preventing an unplanned pregnancy.
Yes but majority lacks parental care nor advice.
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I guess it high time the young ones are being properly educated about the effect of premarital sex
I really did enjoy your piece
I pray the Lord give them understanding of IJN.
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Very raw piece, I appreciated your honesty here. Obviously it takes two to make a baby, but in my culture feminism specifically has had the same effect on women. Many here have devoid themselves of responsibility and would rather claim victim than correct their actions. The issue of abortion is also rampant here due to the lack of self-responsibility and poor choices in partners...
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Abortion is the worst of it all. It is also very rampant here, they don't want to take responsibility for their actions ayet they refuse to see the danger signs🤔
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Great points and thankyou for the wonderful advice 👍
I think our girls needs more of sex education and parental guidance to avoid this unwanted pregnancies
If everybody can take up this task especially, the parents, the world can be a better place.
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Thank God your cousin survived,but I think she was blinded by love and not material things. People tend to mistake a toxic relationship as love these days and its sad.
Very sad 😢
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