RE: Always a Beautiful Sunday, Sublimely so

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Coffee? That is the beverage of the gods. Ha ha ha ha . I love coffee and value its social importance. It is just the good excuse for conversations with colleagues, friends, and family. At least for me and my girlfriends, it was always an excuse to "waste time" in conversation or catch up on personal matters. I remember when I first got here, I had one of my first culture shocks over coffee. Twice I went out with Americans for coffee, and it was literally that: drinking a cup of coffee. No long conversations or "another coffee, please" ha ha ha. Then I understood that there really wasn't much to talk about, and that for American friends, who always lead a hectic and busy life, that "wasting time" in chats is not profitable. It was a little disappointing, but then I understood and learned. Although I will tell you that I was lucky to find the right people: those who loved coffee and long talks.

I love that you share time with your children and enjoy them. . You seem to be very close to your children and I love that. It is obvious that I am speaking from my Latin-Venezuelan culture, where the attachment between mothers and children is very strong. I don't want to say that here it is not, but it is different. Here I see that my friend asks her daughter for permission to visit her. In Venezuela, that would be odd. My mother would never ask permission to visit me. What's more, my house would be her house anytime she wants to (this would not apply for my mother-in-law's. ha ha. I'm kidding . Anyway , keep that bond with your children . Even when they are grown up, make them see that they are still your babies. Hug them and kiss them a lot, even if they don't want to.
Sometimes i feel you are "my dear diary"...



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Your friend asks permission to vidit her daughter?? Seriously? I cannot for the life of me believe that! I actually don't know anyone that has to ask permission to visit! I know some people like a heads up, but, permission? My mother? My mom and dad would come to visit me for a month, two, sometimes three months a time because I don't live near home. When my sister in lay had a death in the family, my brother and her flew to the States (they were working in Panama) I picked them up and gave them my car to drive to her hometown Florida. I took her two little kids and watched them while she laid her dad to reat. That is what family does. My family shows up on my doorstep with no notice and I live 5 hours from the closest one.

My real point is, I am a busy person. It doesn't matter. Family rules. I love them all. All of us would do anything for one another and have been called upon from time to time.

My house is their house. Indeed. We are all close and have been our entire life. I expect us to be that way until we stop breathing. I thought all people were like that, but, they are not. I adore my three children. My son is the oldest and takes great pleasure in doing nice things for his sisters. Always has a soft spot for them.

Coffee is meant to be shared with others and I can honestly say that even as teenagers, we spent hours and hours at cafes, where you were never rushed off and would get another and another and another. The conversation was endless and the laughter was infectious. I can see that some people are wound too tight and need to step back a bit, but, they may very well have been raised that way.

I am sorry that you had that problem. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Have fun, Delight in the company of others. Just hearing you say how awkward the other people were that you met saddens me. It makes them seem hollow inside. Never change! I know I won't I love life, my children, my family! It is the way it should be.

I love being your dairy! Sorry I have not been so great getting back to everyone, it has been busy here, but, not crazy! I don't run around like a chicken with her head cut off, but, only because I like to be chill and not stressed!

Love to you! That is what the world needs! Love, sweet love! Have a great night! ❤️

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Your friend asks permission to visit her daughter?? Seriously? I cannot for the life of me believe that!

Kind of. She wants to see her grandchildren and spend more time with them, but she has to wait for her daughter to say when or how. It does not depend on her , but her daughter's. That is what I see like asking for permission. Well, I just feel that it is part of American cultural: being less dependent on others, drawing clear boundaries in relationships with everybody. As simple as that.

My real point is, I am a busy person. It doesn't matter. Family rules. I love them all. All of us would do anything for one another and have been called upon from time to time.

Yes, it is not difficult to believe you are like that. You seem to be very thoughtful!

Thanks!

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