Just One Assumption I Wish People Will Stop Making
Don't we all have one or two assumptions about those around us? Sometimes these assumptions are true and sometimes they are not. You get close to someone and you begin to assume they are very happy, rich, or broke, whereas they may not be. They might just be the opposite of what we assume.
Allow me to make money, I need it as much as anyone else
As for me, there is just one assumption I really wish people would stop having against me. In fact, not just about me, but about young ladies. Who tells you women don't need money? In this part of the world, we hear things like, Are you not a lady? Why do you have to look for money this hard? Do you forget your husband will be taking care of everything once you are married? Ladies, this statement sounds very harmless and true but believe me, it's a trap. Don't fall for it.
As a lady, I need money just as much as anyone else. Don't be deceived by this dangerous assumption. I do tell ladies, when you don't have your own money, you can't be free. In fact, you can't go after a man you truly love, as you will always be chasing after men who you think can solve your financial problems.
First they said I don't need to work for money, then they believe I can never get broke because I'm a lady
Chai, like I can whip my feminine fingers through an ATM machine, smile to it's Camara, command it, and it will start giving me money. Or my husband's salary comes in tenfold just because he has a wife at home.
Sometimes I wonder why people make such a cruel assumption, even when they know it's not true. Back when I was a student, sometimes I heard talks like, Oh, why do you have to study this hard? After all, even when you graduate, you don't have to work for money. You can simply get married and your husband will be sorting everything out financially. Really? 😏
Why do they say things like this? Thank goodness I never fell for such a dangerous assumption. As a lady, there is pride in making your own money legitimately. There is joy in spending from your hard-earned money. There is respect when I don't have to rely on my husband before I can spend every dime I have to. So please don't be deceived. Take this from someone who is married, and any married woman out there will tell you the same if they really want to be honest.
I simply don't know why some people pretend it doesn't cost so much money to raise a family, and that a large percentage of men can handle the financial responsibility involved even if they wanted to. Even if they have been told and programmed all their life to do so, it's not that easy for them. So they need our help to support the family a lot of the time, and when this help is not coming from his lady, there might be money problems in the home.
The other day, I read a comment on a lady's post who was complaining about how her place of work is underpaying her, and this comment — from a married man whom you would have thought would know better — goes like, "Well, you are married now, you don't have to worry about making money any longer, your husband will be taking care of everything."
O boy, I just shook my head and passed that comment, because if I should start dragging words with him, it might not end well.
This lady just wants to earn decent money to support herself and her family, and you just assume she doesn't need to. Who do you assume her husband to be? A billionaire? Oh dear good Lord, my stomach hurts at the sight of such comments.
Do you have an idea of how many married women are frustrated right now just because they are not making money of their own? I see them most of the time, and I just feel bad for them letting themselves be deceived by this dangerous assumption.
Dear ladies, most especially my single ladies, make your own money, enjoy yourself, and be with a man you genuinely love and not just because of his money.
They said there is dignity in labour; this quote applies to everyone regardless of your gender. So please don't be deceived by any dangerous assumption that was meant to entrap and enslave you. Be wise and rightly guided. But then, I know my ladies on Hive are rightly guided when it comes to having their own money 🤑 hehe.
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It's a trap...runnnnn 😀
As if the man doesn't have life, too. They also need to breathe, too. They are human beings, too, with heart.
It's a pride thing to have your money as a lady. With that you will earn respect, not only from your husband but his family and society, too.
Your post is so interesting 😉
Hahaha 🤣🤣😂 I ran o as fast as my legs could carry me.
Yes, we need our own money to earn our respect in the society and to enjoy our freedom.
It's sad how the social and cultural context limits women's full expression and freedom. I applaud you for having such clear priorities.
Sending you a big hug of light!
Yeah, I hope someday the society will learn to be better.
Thank you so much 🥰🙏, I wish you a beautiful weekend.
Always a pleasure for me. Hugs!
I remember this kind of feedback in one of the recent prompts in the qc-community 😀.
I can tell everyone for free, especially the ladies out there.
When we depend on our husbands or men for everything without earning a decent fund with which to take care of ourselves and support our families.
We become liabilities, lose our respect before our immediate family, extended family, the neighbourhood, the church and worst still, the society.
Nobody wants to relate with a liability.
People around will start using you as a point of negative reference " that good for nothing woman".
It is advisable to prepare ourselves and earn that financial respect.
Again, no amount of money given to you will be enough if you don't make some funds here and there.
Even that your husband would at some point be pressured to give in to politely insulting you.
For example, you request for 10k ,he will give you 5k reminding you of how you are not working and so ,you need to manage the 5k.
But when you earn your dough. When he give you the 5k you augment and life happily moves on.
Thank you @funshee for being candid on this topic.
Thank you for your input dear @cagolistic.
These are all true, but I wonder why the same society makes it seem like a lady shouldn't bother to make her own money. It's manipulative.
Very manipulative.
They make it look like men can shoulder the whole financial burden without a lady's imput but in practical its all fallacy.
Proven times without numbers.
Even when some of them think they can ,their body language sends another message entirely and if you are not smart then the lady's name will answer sorry.
Some will even end up with, "even if he's doing it "are you not supposed to assist.
Now tell me how we all got here.
We have to be wise even in our comfort zone.
Exactly 💯
Imagine being made to believe all your life that it's not your job to make money, and you enter into a marriage with such a mindset. This is part of the reason a lot of homes are crumbling in our society today.
I hope someday we will reach a point where society will realize that a woman does not need to be manipulated to get the best out of her, but when a woman is supported, everyone wins.
!INDEED
You are correct, I look forward to true friends, family and relatives being able to voice out an this issue and being sincere advices and councillors to the ladies especially before marriage.
Yes, that would be very helpful; we women have a lot to do in this aspect.
You nailed it, and it's loud enough.
It gives inexplicable joy as a lady when you know you support your husband in your own little way with income from your legit hustle. You'll be proud of yourself too.
No one should be cajoled into that trap of "you're a lady, you don't have problem, your husband is there for your needs".
The truth is, most marriages crash due to lack of money than love. It's a union of two, both should contribute financially for its growth.
Thank you, dear @ivyann, you got my point. We need each other's support in every way, financially included for a happy home.
People need to stop making young girls believe they don't have to make money to be alright.
It's my pleasure!
Exactly! It really has to stop.
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I'm behind the hall and I could hear you well 😄.
You've said a lot, and not just a lot but a lot of reasonable things. I wish ladies, especially the younger ones will see this and understand it. A woman needs money as well. And one point you made captured me...
This is really true. But this is largely to the ladies, so let me drop my pen here too. Haha.
Hahaha 🤣 I'm happy the sound reach your side !LOL.
It's a collective work, we need to encourage every lady in our conner to make their own money, it's make life easier for everyone.
Very true. Thank you for sharing this.
It's my pleasure, thank you very much for your time, have a great evening.
Lol ... I wish it was that easy. But trust me, there's so much pride in a woman making her own money. It makes her husband love her more and accord her respect.
When most people say things like "you're a lady, you will just get married and your financial problems would be attended to by your husband" honestly it sounds so funny to me.
Because I'm like ... Don't you find joy in being a helper? Helper in all senses.
Well truth is let's be guided when listening to people. Know your principles and know what aligns with it.
There's joy in handling problems on your own with ease. 👌👌👌
Thanks @funshee for sharing 😊
Exactly 👍, there is nothing compare to having your own money as a Lady, it's gives you respect, peace and joy.
Thank you for visiting, I appreciate you.
It's my pleasure 🥰🥰🥰
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