My least favourite thing about being a man.
I have never regretted being a male even though a lot of challenges and responsibilities come with the gender. I respect the female gender a lot but there is no how I would have wished to be a female. Don't get me wrong, they are amazing but I just would love to be a man over and over again.
Despite my love for being a male, there are things I feel bad about the male gender. It has nothing to do about responsibilities or the challenges attached, I feel honored to take responsibility and tackle challenges as a male but society's expectations of the male gender are sickening.
It is expected of males to be kind, hardworking, and strong. As a male, you have to be financially stable regardless of whatever challenge you are going through, and among these expectations is being respectful to the female gender even when the male does not get a pinch of respect back in return.
I saw a terrible thing on a bus some time ago, a female bus ticketer stabbed a man with a pen while they were arguing. We were just about 2 minutes away from the bus station when the guy got a call and he requested that the bus should stop so he can alight.
He paid for the distance covered but the lady insisted on the complete bus fare. He wasn't even sitting and I felt bad for him. He didn't retaliate and the lady kept screaming at him, he grabbed her by the neck and people started screaming that he shouldn't injure her. In the end, they begged the guy and he left with his cloth stained with blood.
I wouldn't have done anything if I was in the guy's shoes as well because it would have been a messy situation if the guy had attacked first or retaliated.
Most time, I feel like the society doesn't care about what the male gender might be going through and as long as you are a male, you have to bear a lot of things. Males are not robots, we feel as well and these ill treatments cause some men emotional or mental breakdowns.
A lot of men suffer in silence because of being treated unfairly even in their relationship and the fact that males are tagged as a weakling for voicing out makes things worse.
Another thing I feel bad about is how the male gender is being judged wrongly. I understand that some men have done similar things for selfish reasons, they made some impression just to have their way to flirt and do other shitty things but no one should be judged by others' sins.
Honestly, I feel terrible when judged wrongly because of what some men have done before. The truth is that helping whether a male or female is about me just looking after a fellow human.
I was at an event with my neighbors a few years ago, I practically didn't want my girlfriend to go with me. The celebrant is not someone I was very close to but we do say hello to each other once in a while. He gave me the invitation card and I wasn't willing to go but my neighbors who were also attending succeeded in convincing me. I felt it doesn't make sense to even bring someone along to a party I wasn't willing to go to.
The atmosphere at the event was cool, I sat at the table with some other party guests and my neighbors who weren't happy that I didn't come with my girlfriend because she loves to rock parties. The party went on and a lady joined us at that table.
She was tall, pretty, and endowed but the expression on her face wasn't okay. She kept looking at herself in a small mirror, it was like she doubted if she was looking good for the occasion. She caught me looking at her and felt more uncomfortable. She wanted to leave the table but I said hello which made her stay.
I went further to tell her that she look beautiful and perfect, she shouldn't bother about anything and just enjoy the party. She smiled and ended up sitting opposite me. We chatted while the event was on but my intentions were pure. My neighbor said to my face after the party that she knew I had a mission and that was why I refused to allow my girlfriend to come with me.
I wasn't surprised though because I have lost count of how many times I have been judged wrongly for helping the opposite gender.
The female gender gets judged wrongly as well and we can't continue dragging things back and forth about gender favoritism or discrimination. I am not trying to make the female gender look bad but these things give me lots of concerns and I wish both genders can be treated as fairly as possible.
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Man or woman we are all people and as such we can improve on our flaws and try to be the best version of ourselves.
I love being a man, but simply because I can't know what it's like to be a woman; I've only tried this and I can't see the counterpart, what I know is that there are great women and great men and I'm inspired by them!
Almost everyone loves being either male or female and for me, I do stick with the male gender even if I have the opportunity to switch.
Respect, care, love and selflessness are the things we just need to show to ourselves.
I felt bad for the guy on the bus and for you! True there are so many freaking wrong judgment in both genders.
I felt really bad for him as well and whenever I remember that incident, I always wish both genders can tolerate one another.
Both gender are been misjudged by each other and it is important that we don't even judge others whatever the situation maybe.
True! There are so many misconceptions about the two genders! We can just libe happily and peacefully if we tale that judgment in us away.
That's right, as long as we can put away our differences and stop judging one another, we will experience a new level of peace between both genders.
Im sorry for the typo errors from my previous comment.
It is interesting what you raise. In recent years I have noticed advertising campaigns aimed at fathers where they invite their sons to express themselves by crying if they wish to do so. In macho societies they say... Men don't cry, serious mistake.
I'm sorry they misinterpret when you are a gentleman, there are also phrases like, Don't confuse chivalry with flirting.
Men cry, men have weaknesses as well but the society treats them like they were created with iron.
We have feelings and deserves loves too, shout-out to every woman who look up on their man mental state.
I feel sorry that you were judged wrongly. Most people are like that. They just jump to conclusions without even realising that they are hurting a pure soul.
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I am use to hearing those things, even my fiancee sometimes misjudge me for doing some things. We are human and bound to make mistakes but we should always put into consideration how that thing we want to say would affect the person we are saying it to.
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People get judged wrongly all of the time, it is something that annoys me quite a lot as well.
It's unfair that you being friendly towards that woman, was viewed as you having a agenda with them, perhaps because that is what the other person would have done, so it is more a reflection of them than you xx
Lolz, probably that's what the person does really. Normally, not many people show kind gesture except they have something to gain from it.