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Greetings dear community of Catharsis, today I decided to share with you something that makes me noise and sometimes takes away my sleep is to let go and accept the detachment with our loved ones.

I was thinking for several days that writing a little about this part of my life was important, especially to take advantage of this wonderful space that our network gives us, there is no better way to drain and express what one feels.

I share with you the following thought of Maciel Numhauser, son of the Chilean poet Julio Numhauser, with which I totally identify, I give it and let it pass until it fades in my walk.... "I feel like a tree that has been pulled out of the ground and has been left with its roots in the air, the only way to become a tree again, to bloom and bear fruit, is to take root again...".

Today, I understand that everything changes and transforms in time, we change course sometimes suddenly and in these times even more so. We are in one place and suddenly we find ourselves in another place with other people but always with myself. No matter where we are, the important thing is to recognize ourselves that everything changes and transforms.

Today I flow and let myself go, when I love, let go and experience, that is what I get at this moment. I tell you that a few months ago my daughter Alejandra and my grandchildren Santiago Andres and Avril moved away from home, being the place where we shared for thirteen years approximately, it hurt a lot, I felt the loss of a family member as well as when a loved one dies, although I understand that children are of life and that the time came for them to take flight, so I change paradigms and they can experience new worlds, other circumstances that help us to value every moment to share in family and other contexts.

We, as human beings, are one hundred percent emotional, we are not used to changes and when we live together for so many years as in my case, separation makes us feel a great emptiness. The separation with my family leads me to live and feel closely a strange sensation... I remember when my daughter was preparing to record her posts, publish in the networks, her support and advice to improve relations at home, likewise, my grandchildren running around the house, their laughter, witticisms, negotiations to get something, enjoy their paintings, singing and playing together, preparing cakes and various recipes valuing gastronomy, among others, come to my memory.

Now everything is different, it is up to me to get used to this new way of seeing things as a mother and grandmother, I know that at some point this had to happen, it is a law of life. These are new times, they invite me to move forward, seeing things differently, from the positive in this case. Everything that happens is the best, even the most unpleasant things are sometimes what is convenient, perhaps, we do not see it at the moment, however, it manifests itself in time and I am grateful for it as a learning experience.

Currently, three months have passed since my daughter Alejandra and my grandchildren left home and I have been able to experience the nostalgia of saying goodbye after each meeting... I evaluate myself and it hurts less and less, now it is different, for example, inviting them to a concert, eating an ice cream, going to the movies, preparing a delicious meal, walking in the park, staying over eventually, among so many activities, much can be achieved through letting go through love.

When I live the separation with my family, I stop, I think and that feeling leads me to take care of myself more personally, I take advantage of the free spaces to dedicate myself to do what I like, without the presence of my daughter and grandchildren, understanding that time passes and that they have the great possibility to open their wings and continue their flight where they should be.

Besides, the most important thing is that we know that we love each other and I as a mother and grandmother gave the best I could to accompany them during all these years, now it is their turn to do it alone in the distance and in the search of their own way, that gives them more strength, developing new potentialities, understanding and feeling as I do, "the detachment", because these are new times...

I believe that we come to life alone and we leave alone, it only corresponds from now on, to continue healing wounds, turn the page and although it seems contradictory, letting go and loving is important. This situation teaches me that we are just passing through on earth, time is short and we have to enjoy it to the fullest despite any circumstance that may affect us at any given moment.

One of the most relevant lessons learned in this process is that "life changes and everything changes" as the song of Julio Numhauser, Chilean poet, says. In my opinion, this experience invites me to move forward taking small or big steps to mature and grow in my daily life and most importantly, it invites me to create new spaces where I can share and spend pleasant moments with my family, understanding that we are individuals and each one deserves to have their own space.

Gracias por leerme, será hasta una nueva oportunidad...

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Thanks for reading me, it will be up to a new opportunity....
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