No One Owes You A Thing - WE85 post topics: Learning, curiosity and mysteries.

My response to "WE85 post topics: Learning, curiosity and mysteries"

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Today's Topic:

Tell us about a time you learned a very valuable lesson. What was it, the circumstances around it, how did the learning process go and what was the result?

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I used to be a child at heart and even with my parents too. I was close with my dad and I hardly do anything for myself. I am saying this to make everyone understand the angle I am coming from for this post.

When he died, it hit me harder because I depended on him for anything and everything. I wasn't used to doing things on my own without consultation. I wasn't used to living without him but I had to learn the hard way.

A lot of promises were made by family members and friends. I felt a bit of relief because I knew at least, it won't be that bad. Everyone moved on with their lives and there I was, expecting hand downs. I wasn't doing things for myself and I was still waiting for those who promised to be there until frustration and depression started kicking in. Right there and then, I knew I had to take responsibility for my life.

There is nobody that owes anyone anything and whatever we get we need to know that it's out of love and favour from others, not necessarily because we deserve that magnitude of things especially when we didn't do much. From that time onward, I learned to do things for myself and be intentional about my growth.

I stopped looking up to people and started reaching inside of me. I got to know that I am not entitled to what belongs to others but what I have gained through hard work and sweat. I wasn't prepared but life forced maturity on me but I am glad it was sooner rather than later because I would have reached a point of no return.

The learning process wasn't easy because I sincerely suffered. I couldn't think straight and I was always back in the hole when things didn't work out as I wanted. I blamed everyone else but myself. Maybe I even blamed my dad at some point for leaving that early but let's face it, he didn't want to die either. He used all his money to salvage his health but it wasn't just meant to be.

The transitioning was hard because I was used to having it all, having people come to our house to ask for help and suddenly it was only familiar voices I kept hearing as against the strange new voices every day and every week but I am glad, here I am. I am holding strong, fighting through and seeing the best of every situation.

I've learnt how to take ownership of my own life without blaming others because I am the one to blame if my life turned out differently and I always imagined what advice my dad would have given and how tough he would have been on me if I didn't take the needed and necessary steps.

The result of all these birthed a strong, determined and resilient Adeniyi and that's why I am gingered up to face whatever life throws at me. I've gone through heartbreaks and I came out better because life had dealt me a strong hand before, so what's heartbreak that I couldn't take?

I am better and I go after the things that would advance me. I save my energy for bigger and better things rather than waste it away blaming those who have nothing to do with my journey and my life. I hope to tell my story more, in-depth one day, either through a book or through speaking engagements.

Thank you sir for this opportunity.

Cheers.