Overcomer by Mandisa made me realize that - A LOSS CAN BE A WIN || [WE-135]

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I always identify myself as "advanced" when it comes to exercising. Hmmm! If you see me in an amoeba shape one day do not call me a liar, I am referring to brain exercise through music. I like listening to music that has a story to tell, lessons to relate to or even motivational and funny ranting lyrics (try "Bill Joe Shaver (R.I.P)- people and their problem" Link-for a good laugh) hahaha! Anyways this is the type of exercise I am talking about as I have a couple of songs that can cover almost all the emotions my brain gets exposed to.

It is scientifically proven that music provides a total brain workout and can keep one's brain engaged throughout the ageing process -source

My most emotional song of all time is Mandisa-Overcomer. This song makes me feel at peace in seeking a second opinion when I get rejections.
My favourite part
You're an overcomer
Stay in the fight 'til the final round
You're not going under (you're not going under)
'Cause God is holding you right now
Don't quit, don't give in

You're an overcomer became my theme song during my university years and it made me realize that giving up on my studies then was not an option. While doing my final year project I was given a project that integrated two disciplines because the module coordinator then believed that my majors were diverse enough to cover and address that research. I was reluctant at first but she motivated me and her belief in me was enough. Fast forward to the following year, I was excited to continue with the topic to the honours level as I already had a good conceptual understanding of it.


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Feeling hopeless

The module coordinator called me to her office during registration to tell me that I cannot continue to honours level with that research topic because the new assigned supervisor has identified a student he want to work with. At first, I thought it is justified if it was someone who probably showed the type of "academic" potential he is looking for. But I found out it was the student who was in the same class and had no much background in chemistry which was the main major that got me to be given the project the previous year. Why this student now?

Well, it turns out the research topic was funded to continue to masters and there was a naturally selected type of students he would rather give that opportunity to. It then clicked that Grandpa Charles Darwin's theory on natural selection was now at play -that is where biology did me dirty with my skin Melanocyte - Ouch! So I had to take another alternative which was not even within my preferred discipline. I wanted to just leave with my degree but there was a high chance of spending a whole year if not a decade and eternity at home looking for jobs with no success. So I just tagged along hopelessly to fulfil my FOMO.

I was assigned to another research group and this changes made me feel like a redfish among whales. I was the only honours student In the new group -they had one masters student and the rest were PhDs. So that also came with a lot of intimidation but the best part was I was free to make a lot of mistakes and not feel incompetent. I was more of a sponge absorbing more knowledge from them. During the year, the universe decided to turn my lose into a win and this new whales- supervisor got funding for my project to continue with the project the following year.


First round of the fight

The best part in the following year was having an honour to watch the former student who took my project defend their project. The student kept saying "supervisor x said that...." and nothing that made it out of his lips was his thoughts when answering the questions. The head of our discipline got pissed, put his pen on the desk, adjust his glasses, fold his arms to lean back and said: "We are hear for you to tell us what your results are telling you not what your supervisor said".

I know you might be thinking I had a good silent laugh and happy feet dance. No! It was painful to watch because this was a student whose potential was misplaced and he took part in it. I remember him even feeling the need to explain himself to me the day he was given the topic. I even heard about the new group I am going to be placed in from him first- but still the student in me was on his side for his Masters defense presentation! I mean we all had to move on and I had convinced myself that I will cope with another topic and to stay in my academic fight until the final round.

There is no doubt that I was broken and my heartache hit like a hurricane when I had to take another topic which was really not my passion. But little did I know that the universe was preparing me for the flexibility in a job industry where one doesn't necessarily rely on passion but flexible mindset. After submitting my project, I got an internship in reputable research institute and the thing that made them chose me was the background I had in the new research topic I got. Amazing RIGHT? I had to process a large database, learn new things that I never thought I would have any idea on operating them.

Guess what the universe did to prove that it is never Bias?

That supervisor who didn't want to supervise me made a dataset request to our institution data portal which went to my former work supervisor. He didn't know any background I have with the person requesting data but he forwarded the email to me saying "Humbe is the right person to help you with this request." That's when it hit deep that the song I have been listening to over and over was actually manifesting in spirit and this must be the final round of the fight. 😎

I am not going to lie and say I was over the whole situation.
I was tempted to push his request to the bottom of the names in the list and give back same energy.

But he was also offering authorship meaning I got opportunity to collaborate in the paper which adds to my career ladder - I got the internship because his rejection got me to do what was relevant to the internship and that opened other doors for me. A loss became a A WIN- I am an overcomer!🙃

The two images in this post are mine.


Source: Mandisa - Overcomer music video

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Thank you for your original content, I sent this post to @curangel. I also appreciate your recent comment to one of my own, and the link you provided That situation has been dealt with.

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It's a pleasure! 😊
Thank you for the platform, and your prompt action is greatly appreciated.

Cheers!🌺

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Most welcome. You can see my comments in that post if you're interested.

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I just finished reading all the comments now. Hmm! I think that's a happy ending where nobody walked away with grudges.👌🏽😊

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Yeah, sometimes people rant and rave at me because of them being caught out for plagiarising - It never goes well for them.

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That's really tough. At least you know how to handle them!🙂

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