Overthinking kills
I am a very emotional person, not the one that cries excessively though but the one that is always reading meaning to every damn thing, from the blinking of your eyes to the pouting of your lips, I read meaning to every freaking thing, and guess what happens when you are like that? You tend to read things wrongly most times and get into trouble.
“Take it easy IB”
“It’s not that deep,” they all say but to me, it’s deeper than you can ever imagine. When you are an overthinker do you know what other trait you possess? Making decisions on impulse, this trait is added to the mix.
I worry about the most minute thing all day long, things that get sorted out in a matter of minutes, and whenever I am in my overthinking state I am usually nervous and restless, good thing I don’t fall sick easily and surprisingly I do not have high blood pressure as that would have been devastating to my health.
A tragic event occurred in 2021 that shook me, and one would have thought that I would learn my lesson after that.
In mid-2021 while I was living in a corpers lodge, a corpers lodge is a house built for young graduates who are rendering community service to their country for one year. I made some friends then but one particular girl was a problem, she was always fighting with everyone until one day she had an asthma attack.
Prior to having the attack she texted me that I should take her to the hospital, I immediately ran outside to confirm if it was a prank or if she was being serious, to my surprise it was not a prank she was truly sick, since it was late and I was dressed in my pajamas I had to quickly go into the room to change and that was when I heard someone scream. I ran outside and I saw some other corpers gathered around my friend, my friend was on the floor and was having an asthma attack.
I have never witnessed an asthma attack before except in movies so everything was strange to me, I thought she was dying as she was gasping for air and was saying she was dying.
The first thing that came to my mind was what if I was fully dressed and I immediately took her to the hospital what would have happened if the attack happened on our way to the hospital, would she have died there with no inhaler and a sane person by her said? This thought flashed in my head and watching my friend almost unconscious made me scared, I panicked, I started crying, and was pacing like a mad woman, while they tried to stabilize her with the inhaler which was not working and we later found out that the inhaler had expired, for a year plus she hadn’t had any attack until that night.
I saw no progress in what they were doing, I rushed to get my phone and started calling all the people in charge of us as we were under the guidance of a church and none picked up my calls since it was really late. I called my friend's dad and broke the bad news to him, still in my panicked state, my friend's father heard the news and just when he was about to get his car keys to drive down to the city where we were he fell down and this added to his deteriorating health condition and later had a partial stroke.
I was oblivious to what was happening in my friend’s family house. We rushed my friend to the hospital on getting there the beds were too old as we laid her on the bed she fell flat and sustained some injuries.
After they were able to stabilize her, hours later I called her family to inform them that she was stable, her mum broke the sad news to me that her dad fell while trying to get his car keys, my heart sank, she left the partial stroke part out of it but when my friend broke the news a few days later I felt so guilty and stupid, why in God’s name did I panic when I called her father?
The fact that I panicked and my overthinking nature clouded my judgment which in turn ruined someone else’s life hunts me to date.
My friend keeps telling me that her dad is better now and it wasn’t my fault that he wanted to drive by 10:30 pm to a city that was 5 hours away from where he was.
I still can’t help but feel bad, if I had been calm, the narrative would have been different but no I let my emotions get the better of me.
To date, I try my very best to stay calm at all times but I still lose it most times, sometimes for the most minute thing, it is a very big problem for me and I am on a journey to change such a lifestyle.
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It is sad though you learned the hardest way. Overthinking isn't the way out especially in terms of emergency.
I am glad your friend's father is okay. Thanks for sharing.
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I don't blame you for overthinking, likewise I'm like that as well.
Completely understand what you are going through and sorry to hear that you have to learn it the hard way through the incident 😥
Like what you mentioned in your bio, we are simple humans but made more skeptical in a complicated world 😖
Hang in there, you're not alone! 💪
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That was an awkward situation It wasn't your fault; you wouldn't have called him if you had gotten the help that was needed at that moment. Thank God, the man is better now.
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Yeah I am grateful to God that he is alive😃
Please do not be harsh on yourself, you didn't do bad coz of the state you were in. Hopefully he recuperates well. Thank you for sharing
Thank you so much James for your kind words😃
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This can be really devastating. I can imagine the guilt you still carry around. Its a good thing that no one lost their lives in the process but dear IB CHANGE😂. Overthinking can be very bad sometimes.
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I panic too when things I don't expect or things I am confused about happen. I am glad your friend is still alive and I hope her Dad gets over the partial stroke. About reading meaning in everything around you, 😃 you need to give yourself a little break on that.So you don't go blaming yourself on things everytime or getting offended by people all the time.
My dear this and many more happens to me, sadly.
Overthinking doesn't solve problems at all cause you will end up making a mountain out of a molehill.
Asthma attack can be very scary. Looking at the person, you will think he or she will be dead in a matter of seconds.
I actually expected you to calm down a bit and think of other means of conveying your friend to the hospital, with the help of other corpers. Instead of contacting the dad, who was kilometres away from you guys.
Thank God for the good health of the dad and your friend.
Well, I'm just glad you've learnt your lesson, even though it was in a hard way. Afterall, experience they say, is the best teacher 😂.
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It's freaking scary!! Now that I think of it, all the asthma scenes I have seen in movies do not clearly depict how asthma attack happens in real life.
Yes Nkem I trying so hard to change.
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I must admit one of my favourite bits of advice is to tell people to stop overthinking. It is like that other dangerous thing .. The "what if"!
Life is one big lesson that is never ending. Asthma attacks are like epilepsy attacks and are very scary to witness.
The worst thing anyone can do is tell someone to calm down, lol it does the opposite.
Things happen IB but we learn from it.
Wishing you a wonderful weekend😁
Lol so true and I keep wondering why.
This is really soothing, thank you so much and have a wonderful weekend too😃
Overthinking is a bummer. I find myself reading meaning into everything and most times I am right but for the few times that I am wrong, I try not to jump to conclusions but give the benefit of the doubt.
I see why you could blame yourself for your friend's dad’s accident but we all make mistakes as it comes with the territory (being humans) it's learning from it and moving on that matters.
I can't tell what I am capable of when panicked but you handled it well. Your friend is good so is her dad. Thank goodness.💕
Whitney how can we be so alike on so many levels, I need to go ask my father if I have another sister in Abuja oooo😂😂😂
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Oh dear me, I can understand your trait character
I have a senior colleague like that. Just one word from you she has up to a hundred meanings into it and oh, and she can arrest, judge and sentence you without first getting her facts correct.
Putting up with her at the office needs extra carefulness.
About your guilt towards what happened to you friend's dad, you need to let it go, forgive yourself so you can heal.
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Wow I wanted to respond directly to the overthinking topic but first let me say that’s a pretty intense experience but nobody reacts perfectly in those kinds of situations so I don’t think you need to judge yourself.
The “overthinking” is just a sign of a nice head on your shoulders and one that can observe and analyze lots of information.
I think the confusion comes about from feeling like we (I’m the same as you, very very active brain 🧠 🤣) need to find an answer or solution every time, taking things personally or feeling overly responsible for things that we don’t need to feel responsible for. This can really cloud our judgement.
What I mean is, maybe the way a friend is actually angry at us when they make some unfamiliar facial expression, but we aren’t going to assess it 100% correctly and so I try to let go of my assessments long enough to discover patterns that are consistent. Wanting to explain everything as soon as possible is a natural feeling but it clouds our natural talents. Just observe without worrying about the consequence too much and I think you’ll get much more accurate with your super awesome brain.
Sorry this isn’t a reply to the main topic of the blog. Also don’t mean to give unwarranted advice, just sharing what helps me and my awesome and previously chaotic brain.
Also wanted a chance to say thank you thank you for trying to keep the #culture tag on Leo active. I didn’t do a great job of rallying people behind that, you did a better job than me. Now we are using the #crossculture tag on threads. I can’t promise it’ll be that active but you are always welcome to use it where you feel it’s relevant.
Now this is a twist to the narrative😊😊
This looks like a solid way to not overthink, thank you so much @selfhelp4trolls I'll try to do it.
It's a superb advice.
Ohh I did see something like that on threads but I was too tired to read about it and most definitely I'll get involved.
I have been willing to ask why did the crossculture monthly contest end?