CAUGHT UP IN THE MIDDLE OF FRIENDS INDIVIDUAL DIFFERENCES
Ever been in a situation whereby you have two favorite people who are in a fight and you just don't know whose side to be on?
Well, the truth is for every fight to surface there would always be a misunderstanding, and the best way to sort issues like this is to have a full understanding of both parties for easy way to settle
I got caught in a scenario between two friends, both of them happens to be my friend and not having a full understanding of each other which they thought they have brought up a quarrel for me to settle
They both stay together as roommates and we all together happened to be in the same department, they chose themselves all because they thought it would be easy to get along as they are both in the same department but then more is attached to sharing bed space and more tolerance is needed
After a while of staying together, little issues like sleeping with light and without light, trying to study while the other is having loud chat on a phone conversation, taking the other person's things without consent became a big issue and often they have quarrels
These became a lot for both of them and as a friend to both, I got caught up and was left to pick a side
Sometimes as a Friend who's trying to make peace reign in a circle of friends you don't pick a side rather state out the cause that brings misunderstanding, explain, try to make peace reign without picking a side, and most importantly settle matters with love
Two people will always have individual differences and to make things work they need to agree, with this mindset I made both parties understand there's a need to tolerate one another and let little things slide if they want peace to reign, I wouldn't be the reason for friends break up all because I want to pick a side with just listing to one of them part
I made things work by making each other agree to one another and settling boundaries and with time they got to tolerate each other more often.
Little quarrels stopped, though they still have quarrels sometimes and it is okay because that is inevitable but with my approach and way to doing things I got to make each other agree to each other's terms and tolerate one another
It's important when we find ourselves as a middle man in quarrels we don jump to picking side rather we try to make peace reign no matter who's wrong and settle matters amicably
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Wow that is an amazing pic! And also, those are beautiful eyes!
😂😂😂 me that doesn't like sleeping with light.
I and my roommate have issues too sometimes i just try to sacrifice for her to avoid issues
Yeah we tolerate just to avoid issues
Yeah
Thank you for sharing
Hmmm you have indeed helped a lot by making them come together and to settle their differences...
You have indeed handed the situation with utmost good will and dedication 💕💕💕💕
Thank you for your kind words.
You are very welcome my dear friend 💕💕
Picking a side only escalates the matter and I've learnt never to do that. It's good to know you were able to broker peace and also help them understand these little things. Thanks for sharing!
Yeah that way one get to settle things amicably
I can completely relate to this. This used to happen during my college days as well. I think it was purely out of Inconscience. I fill myself with joy thinking about all of those moments. I think you must also be feeling the same? Thanks for sharing your experience. It was good reading.
things like that (fights) are very detrimental to both sides, lucky you did something really well, that's great.👌
I know how it feels to be in that situation. Lolz. I lived in dorm throughout my Uni days and the least we were in a room was somewhere around 8 or 9. Haha.
Imagine that. It was a very tough experience, but I learned some really good lessons about people through that experience.
At the moment, I'm done living with people or sharing bedspace. Haha. I wouldn't want to relive that experience.
Exactly Coz not every one can tolerate I enjoy my space and space alone.
Indeed... This is why boundaries should be made clear and also be respected. That way, it would be easy for many people to live together.
You did a great job here.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Yay! 🤗
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It's always difficult to settle fight among two people you are friends with. It takes wisdom to settle such misunderstanding. There is no how fight won't ensue especially between people living in the same room. One would want this while the other would want that and not tolerating each other causes fight.
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