EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE IS A WEAK LINK

Hello everyone, I hope we are doing great,this is another topic from the minimalist.

  This will actually be my first time of posting here,but nevertheless I feel at home,I was informed by @sholex94 about this community,so I just thought to check it today after a series of procastination, thank God I came at the right time, because the topic has been something I have struggling with despite the fact I'm getting over it.

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• The first was when my first love broke up with me;
  This girl was the one that made me knew what live is,we started dating while we were in secondary school,and it continued till our university days.

  Although I was a senior to her ,I gained admission before she did,but still I remained loyal.Sonetimes I might be away for months due to school lecture and schedules,but still I will find time to call her and even do video calls. I really love her that we were planning marriage,not knowing she has been seeing someone else while I was away.
  

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This continued without my notice till she got admission into another varsity. One way or the other got her password into one of her social media account and saw their chat,they have been dating six months I left.

I was so pained,I mean how could she be so cheap and gullible,I trusted her with all my heart but she proved wrong.

It was hard to let the feelings go that I was sad for months,I wish all could be a dream, but no,it's a reality.

It was what made me had a wrong perspective about girls,how deceitful and gullible they are, I have lost interest in them ,that I prefer to ever remain single or just have a baby mama.

• The second was when I was duped by a friend;
  A friend I really loved and trusted like my brother duped me of a huge amount of money,for business sake.

He asked me to invest in his plans Which he proposed and showed me proof,of course I believed him ,I trusted him without knowing of his bad intention.

He took the money and eloped to another country,I really lost interest in friends since the incidence.
~~It made me have the feelings nobody is to be trusted,and nobody is worth friendship.
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Alot of friends has really come my way which I showed no interest and has made them left.

What it has taught me and How I have been overcoming the baggages

Forget what has happened and move on with your life
move on, because past is gone,but focus on the future

learn to be smart with my things,don't be careless with what belongs to me.

Give room for new friends or lover because a friend is an opportunity

Never let the past hold you down

This is my first post @kiss and I am inviting @vinally