Coping With Stress and Depression (LOH 111)

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7th December 2022

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I'm a person who likes being productive and multitasking. My body has probably become used to working, as even holidays are spent online grinding. Slacking is not really my forte. As much as possible, I would find things to keep me busy, may it be online or offline as I feel like I am wasting time if not doing anything at all.

Yet, oftentimes, it's overwhelming having a lot on my plate making me so busy bee. As a person who doesn't like having pending tasks in my job, I tend to push myself to the limit just to accomplish everything at hand so I could have some time grinding online. Busy bee at work during the day, and would do online grinding at night. And most of the time, I'm handling both at the same time so I could accomplish more things.

It probably is a positive characteristic to be so productive and full of enthusiasm. However, there are times that I would just stare blankly at the horizon or stay in the corner, feeling so exhausted and losing the desire to carry on my things. I just want to rest longer but it seems so tough to grant my body's wish, especially when thinking about my responsibilities as a breadwinner in our family.

The downside of this though is when my body is totally burnt out, it triggers my anxiety and depression. So it isn't just simple stress to cope with, but also dealing with anxiety. And when things are out of control, depression will be triggered too, compromising my health too.

Oftentimes, I would feel like the world is so unfair. Whoever works hard is those that feel more pain and unfavorable circumstances. Meanwhile, others who kept receiving just feel so easy and comfortable in life. I wish to do the same sometimes. I just want to do nothing at all and just simply rest.

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Now that the holiday season is here, I'll be swamped with a lot of work again, juggling one thing and another, and doing things that are out of my line. At this point, I get less time online, and it stresses me out not interacting much with people across the platforms I am handling. I get less time to write articles which I don't like as it has become part of my daily life already. Because honestly, I enjoy working online more than doing my job. I ventured into vlogging recently and when putting them all on one plate, that's too much stress to deal with. Nights become longer, and rest becomes shorter.

At the end of the day, it is only me who is suffering much, especially my health and well-being. But since both offline and online hustling is important to me, I'm finding ways to deal with them without compromising my health.

Putting priorities on top is the main way. I kept reminding myself that my work in the real world is much more important than my online side hustles. From the word itself, they are just part of my side hustles that should be placed after my main duties.

Another thing is not to put everything on one plate to avoid too much exhaustion that could trigger anxiety and depression. To be able to handle my online side hustles during my free time in the real world, I'm doing one step at a time, handling one platform before the other, and allocating a certain time for each platform. Not managing all at the same time.

Work and earning opportunities online are undeniably helpful to make ends meet. However, everything becomes pointless when health is compromised. This isn't just a reminder to myself, but to everyone. Money matters to survive in this world. But, it is worth noting that health is wealth.

However, stress and depression are truly inevitable. And even how much we manage things effectively, we would get exhausted at times because we are just human. That is when I give myself more time to unwind and take a break from online side hustles. I would wander around the city, connect with nature, or fancy treat myself at any expense. Just like others, I deserve self-indulgence too.

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It is tough sometimes to handle both work and life. But with proper time management and self-discipline, we can effectively avoid getting too much stress and developing depression. Again, work matters, but health and well-being matter more. We can do things without compromising our health. Maybe we can simply focus on achieving a happy life rather than achieving our desires. Less pressure, less stress, but a happier life.

This is in response to Ladies of Hive current contest initiated by @justclickindiva with the question:

What is your formula for managing stress and becoming overwhelmed, if you've experienced it, during the holiday season?

To all ladies out there, stay happy and healthy. Prioritize your happiness more than anything else.

I am inviting other ladies @jenthoughts @callmesmile @curiouscatho to participate as well.

Thanks for reading.

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Sometimes we just need a break from all of these stuff we do just to make a living.
As you stated ,good health and well being matters more and that’s what most people fail to understand.
We really need to take good care of ourselves instead of killing our selves for our jobs.

If you fall sick today , that job you’ve always been putting over your health will be given to a different person and that’s how life is.

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Exactly... But we are sometimes stubborn not following our body's wish to rest,lol.
Thanks for stopping by !LADY

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Exactly... But we are sometimes stubborn not following our body's wish to rest,lol.

Humans are sometimes generally stubborn.😅

Thanks for stopping by !LADY

You’re welcome.

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I hope each and everyone will come out of depression and live a wonderful life ahead. Thank you for sharing with us.

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I am used to be very much like you, and always kept myself busy doing something and multi-tasking all day, every day. However, I had to force myself to break that habit. I still fill my day up, but on my agenda, are always moments where I try to let go of all thoughts and just listen to my breath, look out in nature, or just listen to the atmospheric sounds around me.

It's good to have things under control, and I also hate having any outstanding tasks on my agenda, but I find ways to curb that habit daily and try to put my total well-being a priority.
Good on you though for consciously wanting to do something, and making all the necessary steps to achieve what you set out to do:)))

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Thanks .
It's just so tough balancing both offline and online work sometimes... I need to listen more to my body this time because Im not getting younger anymore, lol

!PIZZA

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You've summed that up perfectly, and I have no doubt that you have excellent coping skills;)))

Thanks for your pizza tokens!

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All work no rest makes Jack a dull boy. Yeah there must be time for work and rest respectively.

I am still slacking and I hope I can make it up with time..

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Hello @jane1289. You are spot on when you say that you enjoy working online to make ends meet, but it can be stressful during the holidays with balancing offline life too. Your formula for managing both is good in that prioritizing, not overloading your tasks, and taking breaks, are essential for balance. I love your reminder that offline life is the real world. Also stress affects your health and well-being, and wealth is health.

Thanks for sharing your experiences and your tools for handling both online and offline life.

I think I know the answer to the last photo, but is that your personal drawing of yourself? I see it's not sourced.

Take care and have a good rest of your week.

!ALIVE

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It's my own photo. Edited in picsart..
Thanks for the kind words !PIZZA

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What a lovely photo edit. Suggestion: place this info underneath the pic or at the end of your post, you can add a statement that "All images not directly sourced are my own property".

I'd appreciate you editing your post to include this information. Thanks for your quick response.

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Maybe it is my outlook on life Jane, but I don't get stressed, life is short and things will happen if they are meant to happen and I learnt as a child there is no point winding yourself up, the Universe will deliver if it wants to.
Maybe because I don't get stressed, I don't get depressed or maybe it is because of my not give af attitude. I do have days where I CBA Can't Be Arsed though!
We are all different, so it is a case of doing what works for you...

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Yeah.. It all depends on us.. Some have lesser burdens, so lesser stress..

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oh yes burdens, health burdens financial burdens we all have them and mould us into how we deal with them.

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Me too wanted to work as long as I can and I keep myself busy. I did it many times but sometimes our body ang kawawa. So after having some sicknesses because of overwork, I tried to control myself and have some rest.

Thanks for the mention sis @jane1289

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Makokonsensya kapag magkasakit.. Kpg okay, sabak ulit 😂.. Pinoy nga naman. Hehe

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hahahaha natawa talaga ako sa sinabi mo hehehe kulang talaga tayo sa temperance hehehe

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You are a doer and an achiever sis and your drive pushes you to your limits. But it's good that you are thinking of your well-being too and not taking it for granted. It's nice to take it easy once and a while and really breath :)
!LADY

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I hope I could make a breather more often.. But sometimes work here are really distressing 😂..

!LADY

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What I've learned as I've gotten older is that I absolutely cannot do it all! I was a work-a-holic! I gave everything to my job back when we lived in Colorado. I often worked 52-72 hours per week, which is almost impossible to maintain and still have a life outside of work. It took some years for me to realize this. I paid the price as almost losing my family, and for what? The job would not always be there, but family is important!

I still fight trying to be 'super woman', but I am getting better at letting go. Going outside and being in nature is a perfect antidote.

Thanks for sharing and have a lovely day! !LADY

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Again, work matters, but health and well-being matter more. We can do things without compromising our health. Maybe we can simply focus on achieving a happy life rather than achieving our desires. Less pressure, less stress, but a happier life.

For one to work and make money, one's health comes first. And one must always take care of one's mental health. Although I may not be wealthy, my life is now abundant with love and happiness. I was inspired by it and was able to accomplish and do what I desired in the future.

This is a good writing and it does helps, thank you @jane1289.

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Todas las actividades de la vida son importantes:
Las fisiológicas, como dormir, comer, evacuar las heces y orina.
Las ambientales o sociales: estudiar, trabajar, ejercitarse, entre otras...
La realidad es hacer todo eso con las normas establecidas para cada caso y para cada momento. Es así como finalizas tu artículo, ofreciendo conclusiones que permiten desarrollar una vida más feliz.
Saludos @jane1289

All life activities are important:
The physiological ones, such as sleeping, eating, evacuating feces and urine.
The environmental or social ones: studying, working, exercising, among others...
The reality is to do all that with the rules established for each case and for each moment. This is how you end your article, offering conclusions that allow to develop a happier life.
Greetings @jane1289

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Maybe we can simply focus on achieving a happy life rather than achieving our desires. Less pressure, less stress, but a happier life.

They said even a small thing can make you happy. I know the struggle you are dealing with. Having no time for yourself may lead to stress.

Health is wealth, and we should note that as our number one priority. I am speaking from my own experience and how I wish I could turn back time and start all over again.

I'll make sure I eat healthy and put myself first, rather than thinking of others. It caused me to take hypertension pills for the rest of my life and got me a blue card from my general hospital as a psychiatrist patient.

Take care always, @jane1289 and may god keep you under his protection. ❤️

!LUV

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I've got a full agenda at the moment so I am a bit scarce on Hive the last few weeks and being overwhelmed is putting things mildly. And why I haven't posted lately. 💓

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I like how you determined that you have to put your priorities straight as well as your health. Sometimes we get caught up in doing so much that it is all we ever get to think of. We need to learn to pause and smell the flowers.

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