We're gonna figure it out together.

That phrase with the title of this publication means that the break of the link, there is no turning back.

I am a faithful believer that we should be selective, let's not trust people until they show us that they can be honest, sincere, honest.

Nowadays love ends by not knowing how to apologize, by not wanting to improve, by not knowing how to fix what is broken. There is a lot of talk about letting go, but very little about saying “let's figure it out together” and that doesn't mean that love is over.

Because they can fall down sometimes and then get up together, and maybe we won't always be in love like at the beginning, but that doesn't mean that I won't see you for many more years.

We have to take care of the traumas left by our parents and not expect the couple to carry them, until we understand this, we are going to live wallowing in pain from breakups or being for years in immensely boring relationships

Maybe you hadn't thought about it like that, but when a relationship ends, the pain you feel is not the problem, the problem is everything you're going to try to do not to feel it...

Because launching into something new ahead of time, or convincing yourself that “you have to keep going” without looking at what was left behind, does not close anything, it just pushes it inward, and what you push inward repressing appears overflowing later in the next relationship, with the same patterns, and you end up wondering why you always return to the same place.

You want to measure how strong your relationship is with someone: well, tell him no, it's no.

Sometimes the ego is bigger than love, and there you have to know how to let go.

If, faced with a no, that person who loved us now hates us, does he really love us? When someone respects us, they can accept a limit, but by rejecting it or getting upset, they show us that they benefit from you not doing so and relate to each of us, from a place of convenience...What do you think?

The relationships that last, they do it because they knew how to understand each other, because they realized that they were not perfect, nor did they believe in fairy tales, nor was the road easy, but love lasts because they know how to improve, they know what a commitment is and they know that such a love only happens once in a lifetime.

The reality is that what does work, and we've seen it, is the fact of going through it head-on; because on the other side of that process there always appears a version of you that you probably didn't know you had inside, with judgment, clarity, with a way of relating that didn't exist before, and that's exactly the key that transforms a breakup into a real starting point. Has it happened to you? That no one sees the process, they only judge the decision.

Thanks for reading me. Janitze 🦋