I am NBSB (No Boyfriend Since Birth) until age 25 when my husband came. I never entered into a relationship because I always think not to marry. I believe back then that entering into a relationship means you are going to get married. Why enter into a relationship if not for marriage? At least that's how I thought before.

When I started working at the age of 20, I had workmates who are married. I am always there listening to their complaints, rants as they express the realities of marriage. I have seen husbands beating their wives, I have seen husbands and wives being unfaithful to each other.

Though I can say that my parents are a good example for us about being a married couple, I always see the negative side of marriage upon listening to stories from my workmates and seeing around. I then uttered words I don't want to get married but I want to have a child.

My mother laughed at me and she even said who will be the father of my child? I then think again, I don't want to be a fornicator, I don't want to engage in premarital sex. It is against God.

Until my husband came into my life and I said YES! I wasn't NBSB anymore and I wasn't single anymore.

We are 7 years and 6 months married, a years having both happiness and sadness, a years full of adjustment, learning and growing.

Realities of being married

Life change a lot when you get married. You have a bigger responsibilities, you have a wife or husband entrusted to you.

Now, you can't decide alone, you always have a partner to consider in all things especially in the decision making.

Realizations as married

Married life is not exempted for quarrels, misunderstanding, crying moments, jealousy, problems and challenges in life. They are present in married life but we need to be strong, we need to understand, we need to forgive, we need to trust and we need to respect.

Being married, we don't need to focus on the imperfections but instead we need to appreciate and cherish those positive and good things that our partner has.

We need to encourage each other not to discouraged. We need to uplift our partner's emotion when down. We need to have ears ready to listen not just for good things but also during down times.

Being married, we have shared plans, we have shared dreams and hopes.

We need to put God as the center of our relationship and the more we are closer to Him, the more our relationship will be closer too. We need God in our relationship because alone we cannot surpass everything.

Marriage is sacred and it is a union of a man and woman having love to each other. God is the one who officiate marriage first in the garden of Eden in the time of Adam and Eve. Marriage is perfect but the human imperfections made the marriage vows broken.

My heart is really broken, seeing husband and wives divorce or separated making marriage like a toy that if they don't like it anymore, they can easily throw it away and replace with a new one.

We are not a perfect couple but we are praying to be a good husband and wife to each other in all aspects. May we never forget our vows because marriage is a lifetime commitment. May God will help us.

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