Amor, un valor que lo impregna todo (Español/Ingles)

Un saludo amoroso para todos mis amigos de Hive y un abrazo caluroso a los que conforman esta bellísima comunidad. Me sumo a la iniciativa del mes, casi terminando junio porque estuve un poco mal de salud, ya recuperándome me animo a escribir sobre este tema que es uno de mis favoritos. El amor de pareja en nuestra sociedad es un sistema de valores que nos inyectan cada día a través de las canciones, las películas, las novelas, los libros y revistas, en fin, toda la industria cultural trabajando arduamente para hacernos creer un montón de ideas (la mayoría erradas) acerca del amor y sobre cómo debemos sentirlo y gestionarlo.

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Pero ¿Qué es realmente el amor? No es un sentimiento, mucho menos una emoción, el amor es un valor humano. El trabajo que he realizado durante años aplicando una metodología basada en valores humanos, me ayudo a comprender por qué hay tantas confusiones y discrepancias en torno al amor. Sabemos que lo abarca todo, porque precisamente los valores son integrales, las emociones no, tampoco los sentimientos. No podemos sentir miedo por todo, tampoco rabia, en cambio podemos sentir amor por todos los seres y por la vida en general. En la acción esto se traduce en hacer todas las cosas desde el amor, decirlo todo desde el amor, transitar el camino del amor día a día. Esto no quiere decir que no podamos sentir rabia, miedo, rechazo, el amor no interfiere en nuestros sentimientos, porque es un estilo de vida.

Trasladando todo esto a la vida de una pareja, deberíamos entender que cuando decidimos compartir nuestra vida con otra persona todo lo que ocurra dentro de ese vínculo, debe salir y desarrollarse desde el amor. El sistema de ideas que nos han impuesto acerca del amor en una pareja nos exige que seamos celosos, posesivos, exclusivos, en este régimen afectivo las personas somos propiedad, objetos, proveedores de dinero o servicios. Pero no hay amor en nada de esto, las parejas viven un idilio amoroso los primeros meses o años de su vida juntos, pero más tarde empiezan los resentimientos, las venganzas, los malos tratos, los odios y pocos tienen las herramientas para terminar la relación de manera amorosa.

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La realidad que viven las parejas no es tan maravillosa como quisiéramos, a pesar de que nos tratamos de convencer de que el amor debe disfrutarse, la mayoría de parejas que conozco sufre mucho dentro de la relación o por lo menos en algún momento de la relación sufren bastante. Esto es algo que no deja de llamar mi atención, con mi pareja dedicamos largas horas de nuestros días a conversar acerca de estos temas, desde que inicio la relación hace 7 años y medio hemos construido espacios para no sufrir. No evadimos los temas duros, todo lo contrario, los hablamos, los abordamos juntas; no evitamos problemas, los asumimos, los confrontamos juntas; discutimos desde el amor y el respeto, no nos chantajeamos o manipulamos, nos hablamos desde la verdad y la razón.

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Sé que cada pareja es diferente, así como cada persona que la conforma. También sé que existen muchas formas de relacionarnos, que cada pareja construye su ecosistema y decide la forma en que interactúa con él. La diversidad es maravillosa, lo que pienso que debe ser una constante en cada relación es el amor que imprimimos en todos los procesos, el amor y los demás valores que deben regir nuestra vida. Hablar con la verdad, actuar con rectitud, practicar la no violencia, impartir el amor y vivir en paz. Si aprendemos hacer esto nuestras relaciones de pareja serán más sanas, más felices. Tenemos que aprender amar y terminar sin dolor.

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Recursos: Tablet ZTE E10Q
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Love, a value that permeates everything (Spanish/English)

A loving greeting to all my friends of Hive and a warm hug to those who make up this beautiful community. I join the initiative of the month, almost ending June because I was a little ill health, now recovering I dare to write about this topic that is one of my favorites. Love as a couple in our society is a system of values that we are injected every day through songs, movies, novels, books and magazines, in short, the whole cultural industry working hard to make us believe a lot of ideas (most of them wrong) about love and how we should feel and manage it.

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But what really is love? It is not a feeling, much less an emotion, love is a human value. The work I have done for years applying a methodology based on human values, helped me to understand why there are so many confusions and discrepancies around love. We know that it is all-encompassing, because values are integral, emotions are not, neither are feelings. We cannot feel fear for everything, nor anger, but we can feel love for all beings and for life in general. In action this translates into doing everything from love, saying everything from love, walking the path of love day by day. This does not mean that we cannot feel anger, fear, rejection, love does not interfere in our feelings, because it is a way of life.

Transferring all this to the life of a couple, we should understand that when we decide to share our life with another person, everything that happens within that bond, must come out and develop from love. The system of ideas that have been imposed on us about love in a couple requires us to be jealous, possessive, exclusive, in this affective regime people are property, objects, providers of money or services. But there is no love in any of this, couples live a loving idyll the first months or years of their life together, but later begin resentments, revenge, abuse, hatred and few have the tools to end the relationship in a loving way.

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The reality that couples live is not as wonderful as we would like, although we try to convince ourselves that love should be enjoyed, most couples I know suffer a lot in the relationship or at least at some point in the relationship suffer a lot. This is something that never ceases to attract my attention, with my partner we dedicate long hours of our days to talk about these issues, since the beginning of the relationship 7 and a half years ago we have built spaces to not suffer. We do not avoid hard topics, on the contrary, we talk about them, we address them together; we do not avoid problems, we assume them, we confront them together; we discuss from love and respect, we do not blackmail or manipulate each other, we talk to each other from the truth and reason.

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I know that every couple is different, as well as every person who makes them up. I also know that there are many ways to relate to each other, that each couple builds their ecosystem and decides how they interact with it. Diversity is wonderful, what I think should be a constant in every relationship is the love that we imprint in all processes, love and other values that should govern our lives. Speak the truth, act righteously, practice non-violence, impart love and live in peace. If we learn to do this our relationships will be healthier, happier. We have to learn to love and end without pain.

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Resources: Tablet ZTE E10Q
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El amor precede a todo en nuestra vida si permitimos que la elección correcta entre

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Hola querida @jetta.amaya 🤗

Discúlpanos por favor por no responder antes.

Que bonito lo que mencionas de hablar sobre las cosas que causan sufrimiento en la pareja. Creo que hacer eso desde la honestidad y el respeto nos ayuda a estar claros en ella.

Definitivamente cada cabeza es un mundo, así que en una relación hay dos mundos 😅 que se pueden unir de tal forma que, con lo mejor de cada uno, conformen uno solo 💕

¡Gracias! 🙌

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