Social Butterfly Or Solitude
“Should we meet and talk over coffee?”
“I’d like us to go out today, probably talk over coffee?”
Statements like these made me realize that coffee on its own is a social drink. A drink that fosters bonding, a drink that cements friendships and relationships. Or maybe not that deep, just a drink that people with like minds, a common goal or objective could drink when they meet up to discuss things.
And that’s how I feel about coffee. People are clear-headed while they drink it. It’s not a beer that you could lose yourself in and empty your heart, you make rational decisions and have light-hearted conversations. Or maybe not necessarily light but at least, not scatter-brained.
With all that said, I don’t think I have a problem with meeting a friend over coffee. I think it’s one of the best friend dates you could think of. I’ve never gone out with a friend for coffee but I’ve had a friend over and drank coffee together and I’m remembering the situation now. We discussed and laughed and gossiped. It was blissful because she has an equal love for coffee just like I do.
We talked and had meaningful conversations and I know she felt that moment deeply like I did. But I’m trying to remember the times I’ve felt more at peace. The times I’ve felt more alive and it was when I was alone. Woken up just before the sun rose. It was still foggy and I watched the red hues of the sun as it rose with a steaming cup of coffee in hand. There are only a few things that can equate to a moment like that. For one, it was still and there was just the blissfulness of nature surrounding me.
Normally, I could have soothing songs in my ear or meditative tracks to start up my morning, which I do anyway. But this particular day, it was me and my coffee and the still morning. And it was quite perfect indeed. To be honest, I don’t need to think of anything. I’ve got a mind and an imagination that sails way ahead of me most times, but in the early mornings, when I’m still trying to boot and wash the subconscious from me, kind of awakening to the reality of the day, my mind is almost always blank.
But on the few times, however, that I do try to savour my coffee with thoughts floating in my head, it’s mostly about myself. Reflections, plans and the best ways to move my day and life in general forward. There are many times I have a whole workload in front of me and even though I know every second counts, I just remain still and try to get my thoughts together. This is not to say I only drink coffee in the early mornings, trust that it’s a lot more times than that.
That’s just my best time of savouring coffee. And I feel that early mornings and a steaming coffee is an unparalleled combination. So, while the other cups of coffee, whether with myself or with a friend are to keep me running with the day, that first morning cup is to set that day in motion. To mark that day off to a good start.
So, while I would always maintain that coffee is a social butterfly on its own that it’s wonderful to share with a friend and it’s the best way to have an enjoyable conversation with anyone, coffee is best enjoyed for me when I’m by myself, away from the bustle of the world. Just me in my thoughts. In whatever world I build for myself in that moment.
Jhymi🖤
Having a discussion on several topics with anyone while having coffee is one of the best experiences I can feel but in my case, I feel enjoying it alone gives me more interesting vibes because It helps me to think everything in a clear head and my brain run faster and I want to use the momentum for self-improvement and it's the reason I want to enjoy the coffee alone.
!PIZZA
Yeah. A chance at self improvement and reflection is what having coffee alone offers us. !luv @intishar 🤗
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! help(no space) to get help on Hive. InfoI also prefer the coffee to be just me and him 😊
Oh, there's also that. Happy for you, girl.🤗
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I rather have my coffee in the morning, just me and my music.. It helps with meditation.
That it definitely does.🌺
It's always a very nice feeling.
Coffee and thoughts and synonymous, so I get you preferring to have your morning coffee to set the pace for the day right:)
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Exactly. It's totally peace. It was a pleasure participating.🌺
I think most drinks are social, as are most meals. It's actually to do with the act of swallowing which destresses/detensifies the muscles, and makes one more receptive/agreeable. While I love an occasional coffee date with a pal, I'm with you, a solo cup is often best! ;)
Oh..I get it now. I thought it something that just happened but now I know it's more of a biological thing.
Solo cup is very much the best most of the time! !luv🌺🤗
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! help(no space) to get help on Hive. InfoI do get the part where people enjoy coffee together, however, I like my coffee by myself. I enjoy the solitude and the way the mind soars, beautiful. I love my active imagination (even though it has gotten me into lots of trouble) and solitude (plus a steaming cup) makes it thrive especially early in the morning.
#Dreemport
Emphasis on this because the places my mind be taking me to when I've got a cup of coffee in hand...😂
Please...😂
This my darling is apt!! beer and anything that screams alcohol is not my thing and I haven't drank any acholic drink before though but it's on my bucket list, I wanna drink and get drunk and experience that feeling😂😂
Shhhh. We don't share those hidden wants out loud.😂
I definitely want to do this one day as well. But in the comfort of my home where I know the chances of making silly, impulsive decisions are slim.😂
A solo coffee is usually the best. You get to enjoy each sip at your own pace, without any form of distraction. That's just pure bliss.
Exactly best. Glad you see it that way.🤗
I remember inviting a lady friend at the time to go out with me for a coffee date and she looked at me weirdly. Apparently, "coffee dates" aren't a real thing in this part of the world and I personally feel it is that one thing we can have while having a wonderful chat about life and all. I'd choose a book/coffee date over a food date anytime. I'd be more comfortable and at peace.
I really do wonder why. It's such a great way to hang out. We miss it out on so much fr.
Lol. I don't know. I usually take my coffee with quite a number of pastries. Does that qualify as food?
Oh my word, that's amazing. I think your plan is absolutely perfect. I know for one that I'd trace it anywhere it is if I can have something that wonderful. Now, I'm really hoping you can achieve it cause I'd definitely want to have a date in such a place.🤗
P.S: What's TS?🙃
No, pastries are perfect. I usually take mine with a croissant.
I will save you a spot then 😉
That's a code for you to decipher 😁
Quite the English gentleman aren't you? That's just dandy.🙃
Lol. I don't think you have a choice.
Okay. I like this...
Figured it out!!!
Shall I share?😏
Oh why, thank you. Its a fine art, and I like to dabble.
Oh no way, that what way too fast 😅
Pls share
Now that I think of it, I may be wrong and that'll be too hurting to my ego. Maybe I'll just keep it in? Focus on the next piece of the puzzle?😁
Okay fair enough.
And if you're right, that's a big ego boost and you'd have fully earned my respect too 😁
Sounds classy.😁
I didn't think it was anything more than our names but I know it's wrong right?
Oh, I didn't even think of that.
It is our initials.
Wow
Respect earned🫡
Wait....so that means that's not actually what it meant?😂
Damn, It's like the more I unravel, the more confused I get. Lol
But I'm glad I've earned the mighty Steve's respect.🤗
You're making progress like the imaginary ladder
You remember? 🙃
I do....🙃
Nice
Let the riddles and puzzles continue 😁
Until...
Can't wait.😁
When and how do you want it served? 🙃
TWO OF YOU NO WELL!
Shhhhhh
Before I stone you now.😂
The Day I will start a gossip blog on this chain ehn...you will carry front page...Celebrity!
How will I carry front page? You no see juicy gist to cover? You're coming to my boring life.😂
Oh I couldn't agree more. I'd rather a solo date with me, the front deck and the sunshine, than a coffee with a mate. It's far more peaceful..
Indeed it is. Coffee with a mate is just dandy but coffee alone is top tier ✨
I have not taken coffee before but from the way you talk about it and the way it soothes you, it must be very good.
Hopefully I will try it
#dreemerforlife.
I do hope you try it Jhymie baby. It's something I grew up to love so....🤗
I will someday😌.
I never thought coffee was that good but then I've had Similar experience and I can't agree any less, I think I enjoy drinking coffee when I'm alone more than with someone.
I'm glad you do. Thank you so much for stopping by sweet Hope.🤗🌺
You're always welcome dear 😘