Mentally Coping With Having Questions Without Any Possible Answers
The things we do to get answers and clarity can sometimes be perceived as insensitive, especially by others. We live in a society where people are selective about the types of problems they may face. This explains why it is so easy to pass judgment. When we do not understand or justify someone else's actions, we rush to judge them without first putting ourselves in their shoes.
The reason we do not put ourselves in the shoes of others is that the parameters of our lives do not suggest that we will ever have the problems they do. For example, when people see people living with HIV, it is easy to assume they got it through unprotected sex, and then we inwardly judge them for doing so, without even considering the possibility that some people are born with it.
Because we believe it is always through sex, we believe we will never be in such compromising situations, so we unintentionally judge them. True, there may be situations or problems that we are not likely to encounter, but life is unpredictable, and things happen even when the odds are stacked against us.
Life produces shallow-minded people, not by choice, but by default.
Why So?
Some people simply live in their cocoons, living their small lives and not experiencing primary problems. Living a small life blinds you to the depths of life, which is why some people believe cancer is a white or poor man's disease. Things we do not expect can happen to us; the fact that they have not or have not happens to us simply demonstrates that life has a way of being fortunate and unlucky for some people, regardless of what we do.
How Can Your Mental Health Be Tested?
A person's mental health is truly tested when they face situations over which they are not naturally wired to have control. The more you go through life's experiences, the more expansive, understanding, compassionate, and open you will become. However, it is not always beneficial to learn compassion through experience. There are people for whom difficult times worsen. People lose their humanity as a result of pain and hurt, and others simply give up on life due to pain and loss.
Only a few people are fortunate to be refined and made better by pain. This is why people who were abused as children are more likely to be abusers themselves: they did not heal, hardened, and ended up unintentionally becoming the things they experienced.
Back to seeking clarity.
Some people will go to extreme lengths to find out who their parents are and why they abandoned them for adoption, leaving them to suffer. That question lingers in their hearts; the pain and curiosity consume them, and if they do not find the answers, it may consume them from within. Knowing the answers to these questions may not provide a solution, but it may help to heal them artificially. We frequently underestimate the importance of healing.
For me,
I have had questions my entire life, and now that I am older, I am eager to have them answered, but there is no one to do so. It is not like knowing the answers will un-ruin me, if that is the right word. It will just provide some clarification. Spilling our guts can sometimes be extremely beneficial. Keeping things bottled up turns people into molten magma, and until they erupt like a volcano, they will most likely succumb to their anger and pain.
This Is Why Social Spaces Have Become A a Hub For Sentiment
Social media has become a platform for ranting. We live in a world where people die in silence, and sometimes we spill some of that pain in a place where it is easy to remain anonymous; where you can speak without being spoken back to or condemned.
Once you start asking questions, you can never go back to being free
It's long road with no return ticket
This is because, while clarity usually reveals your status, brings you peace, or eliminates uncertainty, the process of seeking answers can be illogical. This is why we sometimes devote all of our resources to finding answers. In the twenty-first century, life is more mentally challenging. It is difficult to understand.
The more we expand, the more side effects we experience. Living a life full of questions can be difficult, especially when others think you are insane for wanting answers. This is why life is harsh on people who appear to be different in terms of health, finances, mental health, and emotional well-being.
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There's always the need for questions and answers. However, some answers we can not find because no one can explain them better to us.
Life is filled with unspeakable things. But it keeps us going nevertheless. Judging people I what make life sensible to some people. However, I do believe there's nothing like; If it were me, I could have... The truth is that you could have done worse.
Well, we could all do with having questions that don't require answers elses reality don't mean much. There are curiosity one can probably live with, while some others, no ao much. I guess we have a melting point, sometimes the prayer is always not to have questions that takes one beyond their melting point.
Yeah, that's right. You have said well.
Thank you 🙏🙏
So many questions that runs through the mind of we humans being and at the end of the day, it actually looks like it is not been answered. A lot of people passing through and some of the questions that is running through their mind is why me? Why is all these things happening to me? Who do I really offend to deserve this?
Well at the end of the day, these are all rhetorical questions that no one can truly answer, despite the pain or the need to get these questions answered.
Yes, sometimes, our own experiences can make it hard to understand what others are dealing with. Life can surprise us, and things we never thought could happen might happen to us or someone we know. This is why it's important to treat others with kindness and try to understand where they're coming from, instead of deciding too quickly based on what we think we know... but, unfortunately, It's the easiest way to forget about our own problems...that's why we do this...Thanks for sharing your thoughts
Exactly. A lot of times people aren't familiar with some experiences and they're quite certain these things can never happen to them.
Knowing that life is capable of happening to anyone is one way to get the humbling we often need in life. Life's full of such things; people feeling they're infallible to experience some things. Thank you for coming through with your comment
and then you see people who say they can handle any problem without making a fuss, but when they encounter their first obstacle, they give up because they're not ready for the toughness of the world, unfortunately, we don't live in a fairytale...
Some people feel they can chest everything they face or every challenge they face but when it hits them, it puts their mental health at stake
Our mental health needs to be monitored and we also need to surround ourselves with good people cos most people’s mental health is fvcked up already and we can’t add to it
Well written... Life really is full of confusion, and the more you struggle to understand the more questions you will generate. Mentally some people are tougher and respond well to the pressure, others explode or fall into drug use out of desperation. I think an extent as I get older I try not to lose myself in those questions because I know there are no real answers.
Yes there are many shallow minded people, because it's easier to live in a happy cocoon than face the big questions in life. And it's very easy to get stuck there, I'm just glad I'm not one of them!
I mostly lose myself in my own question. Especially when it comes to life's allocation of fairness and all that.. it just seems to send me into a rabbit hole, where you keep seeking for more answers and end up finding none. Sometimes it's totally peaceful to live in ignorance, but that knowledge that comes with having an answer can really come in handy.
Many many shallow minded people, sometimes the upside is that people like this don't really have to worry much
There are things we can control and others that you can't. It's all about the mindset. Worrying about things that won't help you much and I find that its better to focus on things that can benefit you. There are always going to be questions and I do think that its hard to not go off track sometimes. We don't know what will happen in life.
Asking questions can bring about profound realizations on our journey towards clarity. I think a lack of clarity overall hinders our understanding of life, why things are the way they are or why certain things happen to us. We can spend a long time searching for answers to questions in which there are no logical answers that satisfy the mind. Sometimes, life seems like a one giant puzzle and we only have few pieces of this puzzle.
Their is some questions we really don't deserve the answers, an if gotten may be degerious to human.