Reassessing Your Relevance When You are No Longer Relevant.
I recently spoke with a cousin who was experiencing problems with his business. He was attacked and nearly robbed, and as a result of the robbery attempt, he sustained serious injuries. Before that, things were not going well. He lost a large hotel job where he made his first millions due to mistakes made by his coworkers. It went downhill from there, and he has not been the same since.
As children, we grew up together, and he was ambitious; I was more of the silent type due to my chronic health condition, but he had big dreams and desired a comfortable life at all costs. He began experimenting with different jobs and businesses very early on, until he landed a job that literally changed his life.
Because of his financial tenacity, he became wealthy early in life, despite having little formal education.
His lavish lifestyle made him a big spender. Despite his excessive spending, he made a lot of money, and his failure to plan for the "rainy days" would come back to haunt him.
He lost his job due to some questionable circumstances, and he was not as prepared because it was an unexpected loss. He saved money in the wrong places, and he was duped numerous times.
He started another business, made some money, and wanted to travel to Canada, but he was duped by travel agents and lost all of his money. He lost his few savings, and he confided in his brother to keep the remaining money, but he lost it to his brother.
Money & Flaws
Money is a commodity that exposes people's flaws and weaknesses, and it can also reveal hidden human tendencies.
This guy used to be a "typical hustler," capable of making money from anywhere. He did almost every business and excelled at them all. I believe his weakness for women and "over-friending" were his downfall. When things are going well, it is easy to make a lot of friends. You are a beacon of hope and light, and your presence brings connections and positive vibes.
He probably overdid the "friending" thing, which became his undoing. Of course, it was not a bad thing that he was a good person; he just ended up in the wrong relationships with various people. He had an acquaintance who overestimated his worth, which later became his Achilles heel.
Being a good person in life is a sign of weakness because the wrong people see it that way.
Life is often portrayed as a place where you must betray others in order to succeed. You have coworkers who want to make sure you are in trouble with your employers or supervisors so they can take your position. Some people's hearts can be effortlessly and unintentionally evil, especially if they are driven and oriented toward money.
This is why people who were previously successful can be treated unfairly by others. The idea that we are all competing or racing to meet targets causes people to focus on what you have and have worked hard for.
Some people may learn about your source of income and take it away from you, while others simply want to replace you entirely, viewing it as survival of the fittest, even if you consider it betrayal.
Womanizing is another expensive activity.
This guy had everything. He had his fair share of women. Womanizing is expensive. You will only understand through experience; it is an addictive, demonic, and diabolical practice, and the deeper you go, the more you want to explore.
I did it in my mid-20s and tapered off as soon as I could. I did not let it ruin me, and I am confident that only the fear of God's divine retribution will keep you away from it.
My cousin never stopped, and when he finally found the girl he wanted to marry, he spent a lot of money and ended up being played, as did the player.
These things have financial consequences.
Money is a beacon that attracts women, much like a siren song
It is not just women; there are other things. Having money and being perceived to be wealthy artificially connects you; it is as if you have a squad of connections, but when you outlive your usefulness in that chain, you will fall down the pecking order and find yourself alone again. People lose money in a variety of ways, but it does not matter how.
The fact that you have lost means that no one wants to be associated with that loss; people move on, which is why you must reevaluate your relevance and determine when you are truly relevant and when you are not.
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Drowning in the money pot, always problematic when not saving when opportunity was there. Reassessing is healthy for rich or poor, keep healthy and true to oneself at all times.
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Well, money is not always going to be there like you've said, some people only learn this when they've made the mistakes. Some people just have to experience things to learn life lessons.
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Sad reality is even when a jackpot is won everyone comes out the woodwork to spend it on your behalf, never seen very many remain rich who never earned or forefathers paved the way for them.
I've never won a jackpot, but it's the sad reality. People wants to be affiliated with winners and successful people
Truly, money can change people because I have seen some instance. Even, if you work hard and get rich, it can lead to trouble if you don't spend wisely or choose your circle of friends wisely. True happiness comes from more than just money. It goes a long way than we can think of.
No one can choose their circle of friends when they're in abundance, the mob keeps coming
Hmm, that's another pint tho. Because that's a way of creating enemies again.. That's why we just have to stay careful in all we do.
This is a very sad experience for your cousin. Life lived with so much enjoyment only to fall to grass isn't the best. With his effort in making things for himself, with his hustling spirit, he was pushed off the chain. I hope he does learn from this.
We don't really or truly learn unless by experience, so almost everyone would make mistakes as such, unless they've not been exposed to abundance. The only terrible mistakes are the ones that are incorrectible. Yes he must've learned.
Yeah, the ones that are incorrectible are the most dangerous ones because they always leave more than a scar.
It’s crazy how a lot of men know that womanizing is really expensive but they still choose to do it. Is it that sweet or interesting?
Well, it's a difficult thing to stop because it's habitual and addictive and sometimes it takes divine intervention to stop it
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Great write up, money always attracts fake friends, combine that with womanizing and you are on a path to major destruction and failure. I feel sorry for your cousin but most people learn the hard way. When they are young and have all that money, they listen to nobody. Someone once said "you don't know what you have until it's all gone".
I hope you cousin get's it right and takes full charge of his life :}
No better truth than what you've said here. Money attracts women and fake friends. You're right, people learn the hard way and it's become a normal thing to learn the hard way. I hope he recovers too. He's learned his lessons and he knows too.
Fortunately there is more to life that money. I know that all to well. I once was doing pretty well until the ex robbed me blind and the health conditions slipped on in. There's still life! It's too bad your cousin is going through that, it's a hard thing. I hope he comes out of all of the mess ok.
How are you feeling this week?
It seems to head downhill at one point. Like, sometimes, bad things don't happen alone, things tends to go downhill together, it can break the spirit of a person. I'm sorry about everything, I guess life changed, but we have no option but to keep living it in a way that's right.
I have been looking for my medications, it seems to be very scares and expensive, that's all I've done for about one week now. How about you too?
It sucks to hear all the bad stuff that happened to him. I think it's better to set up boundaries around anything financial. I hope he recovers from this and it sounds like he was a really good person. It just sucks that people took advantage of him.
Yeah I'm hoping it gets better for him too. The truth is that it tries a lot to be conscious and disciplined with money and women. Mostly the two tend to go hand in hand. It's often a recipe for disaster
Money can definitely be a beacon that attracts all sorts of people, many of which are there to feed off the one who has money or even take it away from them. Sometimes, a few choices can undo much of the hard and smart work we've put in to get where we are. The proverbial downfall is always an interesting and awakening experience, since one starts to question whether they're really who they think they are and realizing that appearances can be very deceiving.
All sorts of people. I believe that people tend to learn the hard way when it comes to having money. Sometimes we only truly learn the lessons that money teaches when we don't have it anymore or have been betrayed. It's ironic; to have everyone and everything working your way but goes wrong when you lose everything. It's a lonely place.
Right, lessons are learnt after the experience has passed, which can be really costly because losing everything is quite hard to recover from. I think some just give up after that, believing that this experience is just not for them.
You have said it all, your sources of income, keep it as a secrete. You're right, they will want to take over entirely you're right. I I'm leaving your blog with some sent. The content is just what is should be.