Same "Time", Different "Lives": How Materialistic Are the Things That Drives You?
I've always emphasized the essence of time as a phenomenon that's instrumental to the existence of mankind, and this is because time drives the need for accomplishment and this in turn drives purpose and meaning to the life of a person. Every stage in the life of a person is driven by a different purpose, which is influenced by their upbringing and their environment.
For example, I grew up in an environment that gave me no choice but to see wealth as success and vice versa. There was this belief about the society where I came from: it was believed that we're natural achievers, we're born to be goal-getters, we're seekers of wealth and anyone who doesn't show these particular instincts or traits was seen as "irresponsible" or failures.
This is the kind of compartmentalization which a lot of people are actually guilty of. This means that before your naturally talents, strength, flaws, shortcomings or abilities are recognized you're seen as a project that should yield dividends and this often ends up driving people rather wrongly.
It was reported in the papers a few days ago that a 21-year-old lady stabbed her 50-year-old sugar daddy to death and after the whole story unfolded, I only found one definitive motive stronger than anything: money. See, a lot of people see money as competition. They want to feel woke, they don't mind how long they spend in life provided it can be laced with series of endless spending.
It all boils down again to "timing". See, no matter what anyone would care to think. Everyone has a limited life span, irrespective of health status, wealth, endowments, opportunities or even insurances against risks and danger.
The only reason why we don't seem to notice this is because we're too caught up ensuring we make more money, we end up ignoring the things it eventually costs us or not evaluating the time we have left to spend it. Not a lot of people would agree to this. In life not everyone attains true consciousness of what truly matters and this is because a lot of people do not even have that time to look out for what truly matters. We have bad government in most part of the world because rulers are more inclined to hold on to power more than they're willing to release it.
This creates an endless vacuum, it makes life generally imbalance. A lot of people are heading in a certain direction, it creates unnecessary competition, and it's the reason why people don't extol unique, striving hard to become an achiever in your own chosen endeavor is not praised or lauded. We paint ourselves in endless stereotypes and at the end of the day we lose the quality of being confident in our very own choices, decisions and perception.
This shouldn't be so. In Africa, for example, children are inclined to want to follow a predestined path simply because that path is laden with success with of course is coveted. When a wealthy person doesn't have wealthy children, it's often said that these children are without ambition or responsible.
Now this is "unfair", inasmuch as we want to strive to be better, "be more", stand out and never try to be a disappointment, it's important we find our own journey. In all stages and aspect of life we should learn rather than just pass through life, aimlessly with just one goal in mind. What of happiness? Peace or fulfillment?
We sometimes postpone all these simply because we think or feel we have all the time in the world, we looked at our body, our lives, evaluated ourselves based on variables we've come to trust but at the end of the day we all have the same life span because we do not actually know how much time we have no matter how speculative we might tend to become. This is one of the reasons why we must make our lives our own no matter the race, gender or difference in whatever diversification we have come to categorize ourselves.
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what drives me is to be free and have money so that I don't worry about money when I'm old
also if you have the money you can enjoy your life because I don't have wealthy parents so I have to work hard to achieve my dreams
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Exactly.
I liked your last post more.
Seeing your own pictures and Lagos was good; I prefer authentic posts.
For you it is normal of course, but for me it is a view into your life in your town.
Of course, you can not change your content just for me.
I do not know who else reads your posts and what they like about them.
Just felt like telling you :)
Of course, I have a plethora of Images that I have taken and owned by myself that match some particular theme for some contents that I have written. However other times I would need to source out for images online to represent the kind of posts I've written.
The truth is, thanks for telling me. All my posts are authentic, I only source images online sometimes. So I try to match the image with the post. Of course, I'll do better with the images with time.
Apologies! I did not mean to say your posts were not authentic.
Let me try to put it better:
One of the best things about HIVE (for me) is how I get to interact with people from all over the world. Nigeria is very foreign to me, so I get excited when I get to see authentic pictures of it, taken by a real, normal person.
To me, the everyday life of someone living far away can be the most interesting content.
Not that your other content is bad- I just do not get as excited about stock pictures, to be really honest.
I totally understand, thank you, I bring a lot of picture based content as well. I've Just been having some wrenching commitments that makes it difficult to find the creative spark to take these pictures. Stick around I have plans, I'm making the time for it really soon
Please don't take the comment too serious.
I really only felt like commenting something about how much I enjoyed the Lagos pictures.
No doubt. But our society makes this more obvious. Trust me, in a better environment, this would hardly be a topic of conversation.
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Yeah, the society, the system and the framework. It's why I believe that Nigerian as a setting can be harmful to one's mental health, how we reason and how we even envisage things. It's totally regrettable.
I think there is a predestined path on each country that involves going through school and college to success. Obviously I don't think that is playing out correctly when I think it just isn't helping as much to find a good job as they say.
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But that predestined path isn't working out at all due to the lack of opportunities. It's why we have to find diverse ways to seek for a more comfortable life by choosing to do things differently.
I laugh at myself everyday knowing that I don't know what the real picture is as it is unfolding in this messy picture before us. Yet, I will still bumble around life thinking and acting or acting and then thinking. Both set of choices seems to always bring about undesired consequences. At first it seems like pain or suffering or happiness and joy... That as when duality creeps in and flips things.
Point is that what truly matters, in my summation, is enjoying each infinite moment while being eternally grateful for it as a whole when interacting in this time space continuum.
Perhaps, Money and wealth is relative to alignment of ones desires in this space time vacuum.
Maybe the saying that goes as It all works out in the end speaks to how we don't know, probably will never fully understand and that it as ok. If we are bogged down with conceptions of paper money and material possessions how can we enjoy this bigger colorful universe we are apart of and directly a product of?
I propose what truly matters is appreciation of life and the ability to time travel in an infinite space time continuum... Albeit with inferior vessels but that is the point right?
Oh I can keep going but I went on longer than I should have trying to describe such indescribable concepts.
The truth is that nowadays we might not. Most human societies are not generally conditioned to accepting contentment and this is why you generally see a sense of competitiveness in every aspect you turn to.
There is this feeling that life is not a rat race and when you choose not to compete at a particular pace it feels like You are left behind or left for dead.
What truly matters to me is to find comfort in the things that I can be able to attain in life and not in the things that I generally cannot attain.
We are of course going to strive for a better life but we shouldn't do this at the expense of what really matters in life and this is the most important thing
This trap remind me when I was young it wasn't funny that year.