What should you do when no one believes in you?

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There's an important lesson I've learned in life and that's the fact that no one will associate with you unless you begin to "look like it". Now you might wonder what that phrase means, it simply means "when you begin look like you're a breakout star in the making", it's not even about betrayal, loyalty or trust or anything, it's just how life is tailored.

Until you begin to gain significant momentum, life, people, everyone will treat or see you like nothing, and that's because people want to feel, see or know that you're capable of outstanding feats before they can be affiliated with you.

For example, if you reach out to someone for a business proposal, and you're only just figuring out yourself. If all you have is just an idea or a prospect that you believe in and nothing else, then people are just going to always shut you down, say no to your face, or even brush you off before you even say anything to them.

Why?

Well they can't see prospects, they don't think they can gain anything from you. While this is quite different from what we preach. We try to always tell ourselves that we don't need to underestimate anyone, but the truth is that it's actually in the nature of people to underestimate one another.

This is the actual origin of fakery.

This is why the Internet itself is full of fakeness. This is because we understand that no one wants to join a train that's not moving, so people pretend to be actually moving, just so they could get people to believe in them, or perhaps partner with them or maybe invest in them.

And before you begin to say "oh I'm different" when was the last time you believed in someone who had nothing, except raw ideas that isn't proven and may not even bring results? Yes, you're right.

There's honestly no need to deny it.

Women would 100% pick a man who has prospects even if the person isn't rich. The smart ones go for prospect because they can see or envisage the reality that's going to be unfolding before then, the ones who aren't so Smart are going after already made men.

My point is is that people have to not just show prospect buy results too, and because a lot of people do not have results, they tend to fake it, so that people can believe in them. It's also like how people are hardly employed except they have xxxxx years of experience in a certain field.

Companies don't want newbie, they want people who are experienced, but newbies can't get experience when no one wants to employ them. It's crazy. We make rules and don't consider people when making the rules. We just cast out people who have no opportunity or a ground to begin from, and we don't even feel ashamed to do so.

A lot of the attitude, lifestyle or behavior of people are caused by others. People tend to seek for so much validation based on the rules set by others and this is honestly the saddest aspects of life.

For example, I've approached a lot of people in my life for either a business partnership, a romantic relationship, a collaboration that could be really beneficial, but most of the time I mostly got turned down because I didn't have prospect or there was no proof that anything could come out of it.

Okay, so you might begin to say "maybe the people didn't really know you well".... Well, even people I know have turned down opportunities that could pay off in the long-term, and even though I know where they're coming from, it's probably just because I didn't have a proof that I had made it in life, and there was no assure I could make it.

The lesson in there

I've talked to someone previously about business, and they just shrugged if off, then after I made some decent money from that business without them, I told them I actually made money from the offer I made to them, and they only became interested because I made some money, but it was already too late.

This is one of the biggest motivations I have. Inasmuch as it's vain glory, I like to prove people wrong in a way that they'll learn lessons. When people don't learn from experience or from regret, then they honestly don't even learn at all.

I've also had a lot of people say no to opportunities that could benefit us, and most of them time, I try to make it on my own, even though it'll be harder. If you're on your own now, because no one believes you can do it, then this is your motivation to continue pushing.