Walking out? | LOH #173 week contest
Greetings ladies. This month I really like questions because I feel that in addition to being just questions, they are also ways to reflect on our decisions and learn from the experience of others.
Saludos ladies. Este mes me gustan bastante las preguntas porque siento que además de ser solamente preguntas también son formas de reflexionar sobre nuestras decisiones y de aprender así sea con la experiencia de otros.
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The month of love is still in the air. As a lady, what do you consider more: Careful decisions about whom to love, or the freedom to be spontaneous about it? Do you care more about present moments or future results of your decisions? Why?
I already had my moments of being spontaneous with respect to love and I know that it doesn't always work that way, my first boyfriend was a beautiful relationship and in fact I was very lucky because I based myself on spontaneity, after this I changed this modality and I started to be more responsible but at some point when I decided that I didn't want a relationship and wanted to focus on myself, another spontaneous moment appeared that was hell itself, so I don't recommend it. I understand that we always want to experience things but we have to be very careful, now I am more responsible and attentive to my decisions, my future depends on this, my own life, it is not a game where if something happens to you, you take a potion and you will be healed.
El mes del amor sigue en el aire. Como mujer, ¿qué consideras más: decisiones cuidadosas sobre a quién amar o la libertad de ser espontáneo al respecto? ¿Te preocupas más por los momentos presentes o los resultados futuros de tus decisiones? ¿Por qué?
Ya tuve mis momentos de ser espontáneo con respecto al amor y sé que no siempre funciona así, mi primer novio fue una relación hermosa y de hecho tuve mucha suerte porque me basé en la espontaneidad, después de esto cambié esta modalidad y empecé a ser más responsable pero en algún momento cuando decidí que no quería una relación y quería enfocarme en mi, apareció otro momento espontáneo que fue el propio infierno, así que no lo recomiendo. Entiendo que siempre queremos experimentar cosas pero hay que ser muy cuidadosas, ahora soy más responsable y atenta de mis decision, de esto depende mi futuro, mi propia vida, no es un juego donde si te pasa algo tomas una poción y vuelves a estar bien.
Nowadays, premarital sex is rampant among young people. What if you got pregnant, and encountered rude in-laws with a partner who is incapable of standing by himself or standing up for you? Would you rather endure their maltreatment, or walk out on your relationship and raise your child alone? Why?
I have seen so many people stay where they shouldn't, even with very clear signs and they said that their decisions were based "on their children" but in the long run it is something that ends up hurting their own children and leaving them with consequences that are difficult to repair, since all they lived their childhood seeing how their parents always had their differences and did not respect each other.
To be honest, I am leaving, I have already learned to leave places where it is not good for me, and if I have to raise my child I prefer to do so in a healthy environment, where he can be happy, bringing a life into the world is something that you plan, we must remember that at first it is because of our desires but then as the years go by, it is a life that will have to depend on itself. Unfortunately there will always be a part of children who will want to have their parents together because that is something that we carry in our natural instinct, I used to do it when I was little, my mother was a single mother and even though she knew that my father was a figure absent, I couldn't stop fantasizing about having him in my life, sometimes I felt sad but I didn't go out of my way for that fact, as I grew older my mother's love was enough to fill my heart.
Hoy en día, las relaciones sexuales prematrimoniales están muy extendidas entre los jóvenes. ¿Qué pasaría si quedas embarazada y te encuentra con suegros groseros, con una pareja que es incapaz de defenderse por sí mismo o defenderte? ¿Preferirías soportar sus maltratos o abandonar tu relación y criar a tu hijo solo? ¿Por qué?
He visto tantas personas quedarse dónde no debían, aún con las señales muy claras y decían que sus decisiones se basaban "en sus hijos" pero a la larga es algo que termina lastimando a sus propios hijos y dejándoles secuelas difíciles de reparar, ya que toda la infancia la vivieron viendo cómo sus padres siempre tuvieron sus diferencias y no se respetaban.
Para ser honesta yo me voy, ya aprendí a irme de los lugares donde no me hace bien, y si tengo que criar a mi hijo prefiero hacerlo en un ambiente sano, en dónde pueda ser feliz, traer una vida al mundo es algo que se planifica, hay que recordar que al principio es por nuestros deseos pero después con el paso de los años, es una vida que tendrá que depender de si misma. Lamentablemente siempre habrá una parte de los niños que querrán tener a sus padres juntos porque eso es algo que llevamos en nuestro instinto natural, yo lo solía hacer de pequeña, mi madre fue una madre soltera y a pesar de que sabía que mi padre era una figura ausente, no dejaba de fantasear con el hecho de tenerlo en mi vida, a veces me sentía triste pero no me desvivía por ese hecho, al crecer más el amor de mi madre fue suficiente para llenar mi corazón.
I think that the women need to make the absolute best decision for themselves and their child. The guy, especially if he's not good, should have no consideration. If the guy isn't interested, then really, what's the point?
Thank you for sharing and have a lovely day!🤗💜
It is always best for our children to live in a healthy and harmonious home. I bet any mother would want their children to be happy even if they suffer a lot. That's mother's love.
As a lady, there is no reason to live with a man I love if the relationship is not healthy anymore. I would think for the future of my child.
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Al paso que maduramos nos damos cuenta que hay que pensar siempre en el futuro
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Am definetly proud to be a lady and this has inspired me to always put myself and that of my children first before making decisions
I love this piece! The best decision is to walk away in place where you are not valued.
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